If you an extrovert, then you good. If you an introvert, you gonna be in some kind of difficulty because these social ass people are real judgmental on "different" people that aren't as outgoing as them.
Observations from a "Successful" Black Male
- Thread starter Mr Hate Coffee
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If you an extrovert, then you good. If you an introvert, you gonna be in some kind of difficulty because these social ass people are real judgmental on "different" people that aren't as outgoing as them.
Life is good. I got an engineering degree from a top school, I make good money, and am on the verge of making even more. Here are the observations of a young nikka that made it. Mr. Hate Coffee is by no means an expert on life, take it for what you will.
Observations from a "Successful" Black Male
-It's going to be hard to keep the same friends. People will resent you for life decisions they made. Be a stand up guy no matter what tho.
-Even women that make more than you will expect you to pay for the dates.
-No matter how well you're doing, the harsh reality that your high school friends and your immediate family ARE NOT doing well keeps you from being completely free.
-Women want a man with a good job and career, but get mad at you when you're heavily involved with said career and don't have a lot of free time.
-Meeting other young blacks who have money and ambitions changed my whole life. If anyone is stuck in a rut, I suggest you change your friendship circle. It can open your mind.
-Money isn't everything. I had the most stress in my life when I made my most money.
-Nothing turns you intofaster than working a desk job.
-White people have different rules when it comes to snitching. Don't tell em shyt. I've seen guys at work stab each other in the back repeatedly and go out for beers and play golf afterwards. I still don't understand this.
-Getting a new job/promotion/degree isn't really going to make you happy. Especially if you're not passionate about your work.
-Owning a house was overrated. Way more upkeep and headaches than I realized. If I could do it again, I'd cop a cheap place to live in and then rent out.
-Our generation is royally getting screwed. All that "Follow Your Dreams" stuff we grew up on has fukked a lot of 20 somethings up. And they're bitter about it.
-Don't assume that someone at work is cool cuz they're black. It's an amazing amount of Toms in the work world.
-Never talk politics or religion with coworkers. Even outside of work.
-You can go back to the hood, but don't get caught up in hood drama.
-Success is relative. There will always be someone younger with more accolades to make you feel like you could do better.
-People from your past will come to you for money. Dont' feel bad saying NO. Just cuz I got bread and no kids doesn't mean I don't have my own problems.
-Journey > the destination. College was harder and I was broke but it was more fulfilling.
-Most women I went to school with were high achievers and very driven. But once they got into the corporate world they realized that having a job is boring and secretly wish someone with more money would come and make them a housewife.
-Generation Y females tend to be ridiculously entitled and will hop from job to job until they find one that makes them feel all warm and fuzzy inside. The truth is, this job doesn't exist for most of us. So they resign to the point above.
-Adults are the most delusional people in this world. The older I get, the harder it is to be honest with folks. You have to manage people's twisted perception of themselves. It keeps the riff raff down.
-Young blacks are some of the most creative people in the world yet incredibility limited at the same time.
-Everybody settles. EVERYBODY. Whether it be on a job or a mate. We all settle. At least I'm honest with myself.
-Chicks be using the shyt out of me. Luckily I see it coming. I get asked to be someone's date to a wedding every other month. So demonic.
-Whenever someone asks what you're doing at a specific time or date, ALWAYS tell them you're doing something important. More often than not they want a favor.
THIS...... the last job I ever had working for someone else over ten years ago I walked out on my lunchbreak and never looked back
Tommy Knocks
retired
Most artists are introverts or socially awkward. They come together in a scene because they share similar interests.
The best method is to get a friend that is an extrovert, make him a manager - I was just reading how ASAP Rocky blew up because of Yams, who had a popular blog- he's a die hard hiphop fan/hipster. He met Rocky and Rocky could tell dude had an eye for fresh things and things that were going to be popular. He had yams help him find that sweet spot. Yams had him incorporate popular themes from all regions, from being egotistical (lil b), to purp and lean (south), to urban high fashion ( Ny underground). Yams helped him beat the gun, combine all the (what was then just hipster shyt) things that were going to be popular and pushed him.
Yams just started off as a fan, and Rocky being charismatic told him he wanted him to be his 'director'. Yams isn't charismatic, he's not creative, but he has a great eye for creativity, and is very social, great at networking (something Rocky wasn't good at, at the time) and loves art with the passion, he's the dude that is every where, at every event, knows everyone (Rocky preferred to stay on the block). Yams is the kinda person you want behind you. Artists tend to look unto other artists for that, and that just never works. Giving art to other artists will just end up in critique, rather than a supporter, you gotta remember with 2 creative minds, they'll either see competition, steal, envy or hate. Even if they are a fan of your work, why would they push you when they're trying to push their own work? and both are introverts?
There's a reason artists need labels/companies, they provide a marketing team.
But this is a new era. We have the internet, and most people are chasing that lucky lotto. or can afford a marketing team (I suspect rich ass Macklemore did this, gotta be) The best and more assuring thing to do is grind, start from bottom and build. Basically find an extrovert person or team/fan/fans/mouthpiece willing to back your creative brain, 1 that can network for you. In order to find those people, you have to either go outside or bombard the net with loads of material in underground (insert art) oriented sites. They will come to you. They are the people that are hardcore fans of (insert art) and don't mind listening to unknown people, they live and breath it, they're the backbone of the community, they're hipsters, always looking for the new, the fresh, they have tumblrs and pride themselves on being forward thinkers, they envy artists (because they don't have the skill to be one), they're not hard to spot. Find a person or 2 that see your vision, are a fan of your work, and would love to be on your team, if they commented/contacted you, you know off top they're fans and extroverts, see how easy that was
A lot of times artists are too busy looking for a big break, when the 10 people that listened to their tracks or love their art could be the people to help them grow. Make those 10 turn into 100 by using the 10! Artists tend to not say thank you and are overlooking these extroverts for someone that's already in the scene wtf. Those 10 fans are more reliable than a cosign from C level artist who's technically your competitor!
Keef was only big on his block, then the set, then the gang, and those people shared his art to the next neighboring hood, who then showed their classmates, who then showed their cousins out of state. The buzz made everyone pay attention. When you buzz, artists will come, then labels/companies will come. That's how your buzz will grow, by cherishing, talking, and charming your tiny hipster fanbase whether it be your block or the 4 people subscribed to you. The mistake many people make is they get 3 comments on their page and never look into the people that commented, never talk to them, never say thank you, never ask for their email/aim, they just ignore them and keep their eyes open on the views or if someone known hits them. They want it easy, looking for industry acceptance instead of appreciating their tiny fanbase who would ride with them, create a buzz and make the industry come to the you!
You gotta build strong roots to have a healthy tree. You hear how Lil B blew up his based world? It wasnt overnight. Dude used to post 2 tracks a day and bombard his music on myspace. He had like 10 fans. He hit up those 10 fans and would shout them out, make a chat room, laugh it up with them. He was literally just making music for those 10, then 10 turned into 100. How do you think he got a cult following who had already known he was trolling 2 years before everyone else did? He was in tune with his core fans. Even til today you sometimes see Lil B on WSHH commenting on his video, replying to as many people as he can, saying thank you. Happy fans will rock with you heavy. Look at B no matter how many people called him wack, they pledged to him. 5 years later, you got TaskForce bytch mob, and other artists knocking on his door to get a feature and get some buzz dust off him. You hear how Odd Future was formed? Just a bunch of kids who met off myspace . a bunch of no namers who had no more than 100 views each found each other and linked up, they were introduced to each other either by meeting at Syds house (everyone knew she had a studio so she was recommended by one of her extrovert friends) or their extrovert friends talking amongst each other and showed their artists the pages of the other artists. OF's hipster fans combined from all parties like Mike G, Hodgey, came to make one big core fanbase. Tyler is charismatic and outgoing so he kept the combined fans happy by doing the interacting, creating the group name, consistently uploading shyt, always being on fairfax skating and summoning the group for projects - this kept all the fans happy. those hipsters then showed other hipsters, (hipster logic: if all these hipsters think its cool it must be really cool mentality), the masses eventually caught on.
As for myself, my problem, is I'm a perfectionist, I let my folks down all the time, people will hit me up like "you got any new designs? music? this is great. Im like nope.
6 months later they forgot about me lol. I can lock myself in a room for 48 hrs create one track and 1 design, and then hate it a month later. How the hell can I accumulate material when I keep scrapping shyt? Im the other style of artist.....the lazy one. 
There's a lot of us out there. I was just listening to this chicago girl group called Pretty N Pink. These broads are fukking legit
I mean they have some serious shyt, they could be bigger than Sasha Go Hard, but these broads aint got one mixtape, I emailed one of them, told them their work was great when was the mixtape, I got no reply. It just reminded me of me. I remember emailing Lil B 3 years ago about an instrumental he used and got a reply.
See the difference in artists? If you ain't on yet, there is no reason for you to be shunning your core fans. It's something I learned a cpl months ago. and now I share this golden knowledge with you all. 
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Tommy Knocks
retired
BTW this is the group I was talking about. You won't like it if you don't like drill, but if you do.....
The girl that does the hook, Marie, she has an ear, her hooks are
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The girl that does the hook, Marie, she has an ear, her hooks are
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iamstr8fire
Apex Predator
There's actually 4 of us on this board. All IE's . @iamstr8fire
hilarious....
But cosign this thread. I agree with most of the thoughts.
- I do love owning my own home
- rental property sucks with horrible tenants. If you gonna rent a place out, make sure it's in a desirable location (not the hood). Hood tenants are the fukkin worse.When you have better places in better neighborhoods to rent, people tend to want to take care of your shyt more
Breh I dont know wtf you talmbout. I stay 10 toes down for my hood...
In Smyrna
Breh I dont know wtf you talmbout. I stay 10 toes down for my hood...
In Smyrna
iamstr8fire
Apex Predator
what we have here is people who are lazy...who want success without working for it.
You think I enjoyed my programming classes :what1:
Nah, not everyone's brains work the same. Can't financially punish people just cause they ain't good in one skill. You know how many IT workers have to go to psychologists?
Sam Peel
Banned
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JasonSJackson
Jah Sun Ma'at Ra
define sucessful
Success is relative to ones definition, however my views align with the OP. I feel like I'm at a good space in my career and I'm still under 30. So I'm motivated to progress and accomplish as much as I can before hittin that milestone age.
I would add for men get with a woman who won't drain you financially, my roster of women I deal with consist of nothing but those with their own shyt, lawyers, managers, etc..
I also have No kids, no baby mamas in sight as well
I would add for men get with a woman who won't drain you financially, my roster of women I deal with consist of nothing but those with their own shyt, lawyers, managers, etc..
I also have No kids, no baby mamas in sight as well
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I see what you did.:stevenas:Success is relative to ones definition, however my views align with the OP. I feel like I'm at a good space in my career and I'm still under 30. So I'm motivated to progress and accomplish as my bad I can before hittin that milestone age.
I would add for men get with a woman who won't drain you financially, my roster consist of nothing but chicks with they own shyt, lawyers, managers, etc
No kids, no baby mamas in sight as well
No black women for me either :stevena: