Observations from a "Successful" Black Male

[LezJepzin]

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Plus try not to make friends at work

I find it at how many people @ my job are friends with each other. Even with the managers. Going to weekend ski trips 15 deep with people from work . A guy I work with is currently dating our boss's best friend. Amazingly, everyone's cool with it and there hasn't been any backlash unlike other places I've worked in the past. Maybe its the maturity level of the people I work with overall, but I still try not to be too friendly with my co-workers. We're all cool @ work/company parties but I do my own thing after I clock out after my shift. They're cool with it though but I'm the only black person in my dept. so naturally, I prefer not to get too friendly .

that snitchin shyt bout white folks is the realest thing he said, I don't be telling these folks at work shyt

I work a desk job

This is so true with the same job. The same dudes have no problem with ratting on you, like it's in style or something when things don't go their way on the salesfloor. Even my manager calls them Narcs



I'll add one tip to this thread. Keep your career goals to yourself. My church pastor actually said this. The "Mr Me Toos " can follow you around if you tell too much of your business. Plus it can cause a rift in the workplace. Everyone doesn't want to see you succeed .

I've only told my boss about wanting to be a district executive when I finish school and she's been on me ever since when I lose a step at work. She's even introduced me to some of corporate since I told her.

 

[Captain Crunch]

Do you have PAWGS on deck?

 

[big bun]

Life is good. I got an engineering degree from a top school, I make good money, and am on the verge of making even more. Here are the observations of a young nikka that made it. Mr. Hate Coffee is by no means an expert on life, take it for what you will.

Observations from a "Successful" Black Male

-It's going to be hard to keep the same friends. People will resent you for life decisions they made. Be a stand up guy no matter what tho.

-Even women that make more than you will expect you to pay for the dates.

-No matter how well you're doing, the harsh reality that your high school friends and your immediate family ARE NOT doing well keeps you from being completely free.

-Women want a man with a good job and career, but get mad at you when you're heavily involved with said career and don't have a lot of free time.

-Meeting other young blacks who have money and ambitions changed my whole life. If anyone is stuck in a rut, I suggest you change your friendship circle. It can open your mind.

-Money isn't everything. I had the most stress in my life when I made my most money.

-Nothing turns you into faster than working a desk job.

-White people have different rules when it comes to snitching. Don't tell em shyt. I've seen guys at work stab each other in the back repeatedly and go out for beers and play golf afterwards. I still don't understand this.

-Getting a new job/promotion/degree isn't really going to make you happy. Especially if you're not passionate about your work.

-Owning a house was overrated. Way more upkeep and headaches than I realized. If I could do it again, I'd cop a cheap place to live in and then rent out.


-Our generation is royally getting screwed. All that "Follow Your Dreams" stuff we grew up on has fukked a lot of 20 somethings up. And they're bitter about it.

-Don't assume that someone at work is cool cuz they're black. It's an amazing amount of Toms in the work world.

-Never talk politics or religion with coworkers. Even outside of work.

-You can go back to the hood, but don't get caught up in hood drama.

-Success is relative. There will always be someone younger with more accolades to make you feel like you could do better.

-People from your past will come to you for money. Dont' feel bad saying NO. Just cuz I got bread and no kids doesn't mean I don't have my own problems.

-Journey > the destination. College was harder and I was broke but it was more fulfilling.

-Most women I went to school with were high achievers and very driven. But once they got into the corporate world they realized that having a job is boring and secretly wish someone with more money would come and make them a housewife.

-Generation Y females tend to be ridiculously entitled and will hop from job to job until they find one that makes them feel all warm and fuzzy inside. The truth is, this job doesn't exist for most of us. So they resign to the point above.

-Adults are the most delusional people in this world. The older I get, the harder it is to be honest with folks. You have to manage people's twisted perception of themselves. It keeps the riff raff down.
-Young blacks are some of the most creative people in the world yet incredibility limited at the same time.

-Everybody settles. EVERYBODY. Whether it be on a job or a mate. We all settle. At least I'm honest with myself.
-Chicks be using the shyt out of me. Luckily I see it coming. I get asked to be someone's date to a wedding every other month. So demonic.

-Whenever someone asks what you're doing at a specific time or date, ALWAYS tell them you're doing something important. More often than not they want a favor.

You sound like a bytch.

 

[#1 pick]

Regions matter.
In the South, you gotta be more of a c00n since cacs are expecting you to fail and giving you hell on the job. I hated working in the South with cacs.
In the Mid Atlantic or NE cities, you have more freedom. You are still Black but you have far more freedom. You can do a lot if you build up your reputation.
Not sure about the Midwest but I've heard it's closer to the South in terms of treatment of Blacks.
The NW has high reviews from professional Blacks in terms of treatment.

@Ed MOTHEREFFING G @Ed MOTHERfukkING G @Misfit

Not sure about Cali?

 

[MikelArteta]

Life is good. I got an engineering degree from a top school, I make good money, and am on the verge of making even more. Here are the observations of a young nikka that made it. Mr. Hate Coffee is by no means an expert on life, take it for what you will.

Observations from a "Successful" Black Male

-It's going to be hard to keep the same friends. People will resent you for life decisions they made. Be a stand up guy no matter what tho.

-Even women that make more than you will expect you to pay for the dates.

-No matter how well you're doing, the harsh reality that your high school friends and your immediate family ARE NOT doing well keeps you from being completely free.

-Women want a man with a good job and career, but get mad at you when you're heavily involved with said career and don't have a lot of free time.

-Meeting other young blacks who have money and ambitions changed my whole life. If anyone is stuck in a rut, I suggest you change your friendship circle. It can open your mind.

-Money isn't everything. I had the most stress in my life when I made my most money.

-Nothing turns you into faster than working a desk job.

-White people have different rules when it comes to snitching. Don't tell em shyt. I've seen guys at work stab each other in the back repeatedly and go out for beers and play golf afterwards. I still don't understand this.

-Getting a new job/promotion/degree isn't really going to make you happy. Especially if you're not passionate about your work.

-Owning a house was overrated. Way more upkeep and headaches than I realized. If I could do it again, I'd cop a cheap place to live in and then rent out.


-Our generation is royally getting screwed. All that "Follow Your Dreams" stuff we grew up on has fukked a lot of 20 somethings up. And they're bitter about it.

-Don't assume that someone at work is cool cuz they're black. It's an amazing amount of Toms in the work world.

-Never talk politics or religion with coworkers. Even outside of work.

-You can go back to the hood, but don't get caught up in hood drama.

-Success is relative. There will always be someone younger with more accolades to make you feel like you could do better.

-People from your past will come to you for money. Dont' feel bad saying NO. Just cuz I got bread and no kids doesn't mean I don't have my own problems.

-Journey > the destination. College was harder and I was broke but it was more fulfilling.

-Most women I went to school with were high achievers and very driven. But once they got into the corporate world they realized that having a job is boring and secretly wish someone with more money would come and make them a housewife.

-Generation Y females tend to be ridiculously entitled and will hop from job to job until they find one that makes them feel all warm and fuzzy inside. The truth is, this job doesn't exist for most of us. So they resign to the point above.

-Adults are the most delusional people in this world. The older I get, the harder it is to be honest with folks. You have to manage people's twisted perception of themselves. It keeps the riff raff down.
-Young blacks are some of the most creative people in the world yet incredibility limited at the same time.

-Everybody settles. EVERYBODY. Whether it be on a job or a mate. We all settle. At least I'm honest with myself.
-Chicks be using the shyt out of me. Luckily I see it coming. I get asked to be someone's date to a wedding every other month. So demonic.

-Whenever someone asks what you're doing at a specific time or date, ALWAYS tell them you're doing something important. More often than not they want a favor.

Don't assume that someone at work is cool cuz they're black. It's an amazing amount of Toms in the work world.


this is the truth, its like blacks want to be the token negro at work and will throw another black under te bus to suck up to massa

 

[newworldafro]

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Is this some type of humble brag thread?

I like that.......

Excellent thread though ...... I've been hearing some powerful quotes the last month or so..one or two of your made the cut ....

 

[Dooby]

Regions matter.
In the South, you gotta be more of a c00n since cacs are expecting you to fail and giving you hell on the job. I hated working in the South with cacs.
In the Mid Atlantic or NE cities, you have more freedom. You are still Black but you have far more freedom. You can do a lot if you build up your reputation.
Not sure about the Midwest but I've heard it's closer to the South in terms of treatment of Blacks.
The NW has high reviews from professional Blacks in terms of treatment.

@Ed MOTHEREFFING G @Ed MOTHERfukkING G @Misfit

Not sure about Cali?

Lol at this. This is just ass all around. You gotta be more of a c00n you have to be shytting me.

 

[#1 pick]

Lol at this. This is just ass all around. You gotta be more of a c00n you have to be shytting me.

You do, I am only going by my experiences and some others. I had friends who had @Rekkapryde experiences where they didn't face cism but I did in most jobs I'd worked outside of in politics and local gov't which was mainly Black.

 

[Dooby]

You do, I am only going by my experiences and some others. I had friends who had @Rekkapryde experiences where they didn't face cism but I did in most jobs I'd worked outside of in politics and local gov't which was mainly Black.

Dang man. ATL is supposed to be the mecca of black excellence...wait you're from ATL right?

 

[#1 pick]

Dang man. ATL is supposed to be the mecca of black excellence...wait you're from ATL right?

Yeah. Atlanta has it's up's and down's. The city is cool as well as the housing prices but the burbs and the state cacism bring shyt down.

 

[Chris.B]

-Our generation is royally getting screwed. All that "Follow Your Dreams" stuff we grew up on has fukked a lot of 20 somethings up. And they're bitter about it.

Yup....most of my friends are struggling because they believe follow your dream nonsense and did a bullshyt major.

 

[cheek100]

op on that real shyt tho
if u disagree u aint arrived yet

 

[TRFG]

I find it at how many people @ my job are friends with each other. Even with the managers. Going to weekend ski trips 15 deep with people from work . A guy I work with is currently dating our boss's best friend. Amazingly, everyone's cool with it and there hasn't been any backlash unlike other places I've worked in the past. Maybe its the maturity level of the people I work with overall, but I still try not to be too friendly with my co-workers. We're all cool @ work/company parties but I do my own thing after I clock out after my shift. They're cool with it though but I'm the only black person in my dept. so naturally, I prefer not to get too friendly .



This is so true with the same job. The same dudes have no problem with ratting on you, like it's in style or something when things don't go their way on the salesfloor. Even my manager calls them Narcs



I'll add one tip to this thread. Keep your career goals to yourself. My church pastor actually said this. The "Mr Me Toos " can follow you around if you tell too much of your business. Plus it can cause a rift in the workplace. Everyone doesn't want to see you succeed .

I've only told my boss about wanting to be a district executive when I finish school and she's been on me ever since when I lose a step at work. She's even introduced me to some of corporate since I told her.

I've observed white people just like calling everyone they interact with friends.

 

[Wild self]

Yup....most of my friends are struggling because they believe follow your dream nonsense and did a bullshyt major.

Not everyone can be a mathematician or a genius in math or science. Unless you want to go to the realm of insanity.

 

[Mr Hate Coffee]

Excellent list. We need to do more of this, sharing valuable information on our experiences.

I'd like to add a few of my observations too...

- Cacs try to turn any type of disagreement between you as you being "threatening" so dont argue with words, argue with results

- Try to become an independent contractor or consultant in your field of work ASAP. Only way to get paid what your worth and not have to do busy work.

- Dont become complacent, i've seen people waste 20+ years of their life doing the same thing. It's easy to get trapped in a job and lose years of your life.

- The best way to get in good with your boss is not kissing ass or trying to be a superstar. Be the one your boss never has to worry about.

- Dont loan money to friends / family. If you really want to help them, give them the money on the condition they never ask again.

- It's easier to say no the second time if you said no the first time. It's hard as hell to tell someone no if you said yes in the past.

This is some real good advice breh.