Observations from a "Successful" Black Male

[Atlrocafella]

I see what you did.:stevenas:

No black women for me either :stevena:

 

[dem bath salts]

All those points made by the OP are on point.

Only thing I would add is not to be afraid to start over. I got a degree in accounting and was 3 years into my career when I realized this is not a job I want to do for 40 more years. I got all kinds of looks from my family and friends when I decided to go back to college in an accelerated program, but it was all worth it. Don't compare yourself to anyone else and find something you love. Life's not a competition, it's a journey.

 

[GetSomeMoney]

There's actually 4 of us on this board. All IE's . @iamstr8fire

hilarious....


But cosign this thread. I agree with most of the thoughts.

- I do love owning my own home
- rental property sucks with horrible tenants. If you gonna rent a place out, make sure it's in a desirable location (not the hood). Hood tenants are the fukkin worse. When you have better places in better neighborhoods to rent, people tend to want to take care of your shyt more
- having a good mate is rediculously important, esp in this day and age. 2 career oriented people gotta be on the same page. I travel 80 percent of the time so my ole lady is pretty much a single mom during the week. Thankfully she has a job where she works at home the vast majority of the time and when she does have to travel, her retired mom can come up and help.
- I haven't run into any real c00ns during my career as crazy as that sounds. But at the same time, there aren't many of "us" in senior positions regardless. The ones I've come across are cool and real as fukk thankfully.
- the whole "I know you got it" shyt REALLY pisses me off when it comes to nikkaz.
- you gotta broaden your horizons and open yourself up because you are going to be dealing with white people. They can be interesting, but watch dem mufukkaz when they say slick shyt and check em.

What do you do, just curious?

 

[Huellz Santana]

There is a problem with the changing your circle of friends thing though: As a black man, once you leave the people you grew up with behind, there is nobody you can trust anymore. Nobody, you can never let your guard down. At the same time, you outgrew your past and there is no way back.

you aint gotta leave your OG homies. just expand your horizons to new people. i still got my goons but now i got another circle full of lawyers and accountants.
i had to step out my comfort zone tho.​

 

[karim]

you aint gotta leave your OG homies. just expand your horizons to new people. i still got my goons but now i got another circle full of lawyers and accountants.
i had to step out my comfort zone tho.​

I know, but it happens, because you outgrow them. I live in a different country now, I'm dealing with completely different shyt and move in different circles. Of course you can dtill visit and hang out, but it's different and there is no way back.

 

[Panther]

Excellent thread. I guess I'll add one little gem about work that I have noticed.

Never come to work in something new and if you do, come in something that is moderately priced. Work car vs Personal Car. Work clothes vs Personal Clothes. I do this shyt like I'm Bruce Wayne. Old white folks and c00ns at work will notice immediately if you are making too much money.

Show no fear. Deal with most problems honestly, but never react immediately. I have a rule on deal with problems. 20 mins max. I have a temper so when a problem occurs I sit down for twenty mins and write out my solutions. Then I stop thinking about it. Then about an hour later I come back to the problem looking for solutions. It might sound crazy but I do this all the time with huge problems. Anger clouds the mind.

When you start making money or people perceive that you are making money people start to form an impression of you that is wildly different than who you really are. That goes for friends and family.

c/s i remember when i copped an ipad and started bringing it in to use for work, had a few people like "is that the new ipad? Were paying you too much money "

 

[Rekkapryde]

I see what you did.:stevenas:

No black women for me either :stevena:

 

[Mr. Somebody]

Take your friends out to dinner and give them money on their childrens birthdays. I've noticed that this is a tie that binds in Asian culture hanging out with her family and friends.

 

[MBwithadream]

Pay your tithes, money is the most dirtiest thing you have.

 

[RAX 010]

 

[↓R↑LYB]

@Mr Hate Coffee you forgot the most important one

- These hoes ain't loyal

Only one I disagree with is the home owning one. I love my house, but i just bought it a few months ago. Still furnishing it, but once it's done shyts gonna be so damn piff

 

[Mr Hate Coffee]

First off, I'm officially in the "100 dap club" for one post.

@Mr Hate Coffee you forgot the most important one

- These hoes ain't loyal

Only one I disagree with is the home owning one. I love my house, but i just bought it a few months ago. Still furnishing it, but once it's done shyts gonna be so damn piff

The home owning one depends on your preferences and location. I'm not a handyman type nikka and there was some crazy white flight going on where I lived. So when it came time to sell I lost $20K like it was nothing. But there's pros and cons to owning vs. renting. I guess home ownership wasn't what I thought it was. It was just a constant hassle to me.

One day the water heater would break , the next day a fukking squirrel had gotten into my oven vent , etc. etc. All kinds of crazy upkeep that I didn't have the time or patience for.

 

[↓R↑LYB]

First off, I'm officially in the "100 dap club" for one post.



The home owning one depends on your preferences and location. I'm not a handyman type nikka and there was some crazy white flight going on where I lived. So when it came time to sell I lost $20K like it was nothing. But there's pros and cons to owning vs. renting. I guess home ownership wasn't what I thought it was. It was just a constant hassle to me.

One day the water heater would break , the next day a fukking squirrel had gotten into my oven vent , etc. etc. All kinds of crazy upkeep that I didn't have the time or patience for.

I know breh First day I moved in the furnace wouldn't light

It was cold as fukk that night too

I knew going in what to expect. I knew everything that went wrong with the crib was my responsibility. Plus I love learning how to do shyt. Had some work done in the basement, so now I gotta replace insulation, drywall, drop ceiling, baseboard, door jamb, and window/door casing and I can't wait to get started

Gonna cop a mitre saw and brad nailer next week or so and start going ham

After that I'm gonna tie the book cases into the wall, put some wainscoting on the walls, update all of the light switches, install recessed lighting, and do some coffered ceilings in the dining room

 

[Yakno1]

good thread bro-ski's; gave out many daps and reps in here

 

[ProfessionallyTrill]

@Tommy Knocks I feel what you're saying as I'm gonna pursue my love of music this year

good shyt