PANIC Time: If you're around 30 (flabby and sick) and still single.

[Nemesis]

I somewhat am breh. Sometimes I imagine if my family never strived or pushed for better just because they didn't "feel" like doing something.

Breh, I actually have my own business and I work for myself. Nice try though. The funny thing is, you'll tell me I'm being immature for putting people into a box and then do the same thing to me. Typing "you're immature" several times over, doesn't make you any more right when you do the same thing as me.

You keep talking about "immaturity", but who wants to be old, sick, and alone? I'm sorry but people build their own families to take care of them, not to take care of someone else who couldn't get it together. Don't be that person who wants the allegiance of a child or wife, but wants to make everyone else fill in that position because they were too stubborn to ever see the value of such things.

There's no way you can get me to believe that a fully heterosexual male who isn't anti-social is saying "I never want a wife or a woman to stick by me and I want to die alone".

Generation who refuse to grow up: No mortgage. No marriage. No children. No career plan. Like so many 30-somethings, Marianne Power admits she's one of them... | Mail Online

you are proving my point again.....

you are immature...

when you grow up you will realise that just because something makes you happy it doesnt mean it will make the next man happy...

only an idiot believes in absolutes....

The fact that your idea of someone being alone is to be old and sick is laughable...

for everyone that comes home from a hard day looking forward to seeing their spouse and kids there is someone that comes home looking forward to solitude...

The fact that you are saying people build families to take care of them says a lot about your own motivations which I can see as selfish...lol... others would hate to be a burden on their kids but I can see yours are going to be your insurance policy...

At no point in any of your posts did you mention Love.... it all seems to be just for practical reasons you believe in family


you have a lot to learn

 

[DaChampIsHere]

you are proving my point again.....
you are immature...
when you grow up you will realise that just because something makes you happy it doesnt mean it will make the next man happy...
only an idiot believes in absolutes....
The fact that your idea of someone being alone is to be old and sick is laughable...
for everyone that comes home from a hard day looking forward to seeing their spouse and kids there is someone that comes home looking forward to solitude...
The fact that you are saying people build families to take care of them says a lot about your own motivations which I can see as selfish...lol... others would hate to be a burden on their kids but I can see yours are going to be your insurance policy...
At no point in any of your posts did you mention Love.... it all seems to be just for practical reasons you believe in family
you have a lot to learn

Blah, blah, blah. Skip all the name calling. If you were any more mature than me, you wouldn't be engaging in trying to label me either. Show me a man who wants to be alone for the rest of his life, who has no plans on burdening anyone else's family with his health/economic/etc. problems.

You can't do that. The idea of having people to be by you at those last moments or hard times is "love", my dude. If a woman/man can manage to stick it out with you throughout your life up until that point, that is love. You don't know what that is. Like I said, don't be that guy who's to stubborn to see the value in certain things, but expects everyone else to step in for the things he was too scared to get.

I don't care if you think I see my kids as an insurance policy, because I don't. I'd see my kids as an extension of my family's legacy. And honestly kids have taken care of their parents for years; circle of life. There's no way for you to shame that. If you can help it, are you letting your parents croak out with no assistance of care/concern from you? You aren't unless you severely dislike your parents, so don't try to shame such.

 

[BillBanneker]

So 30=flabby and sick now. trolls stay winning.

 

[sixsixtwo]

PANIC, SOS, SOUND THE ALARM -- Look at me: I need external validation to feel "complete" & to assuage my ego..

Good for you.. Yay!

 

[Chelsea Bridge]

I'm closing in on 30 and I look the best I've ever looked but I'm also not single so this thread doesn't apply to me anyway

 

[acri1]

I'd like to be married and maybe have a kid by 30, but it's hard out here to meet a woman with her head on straight and no kids.

If I'm not then .

 

[DaRealness]

PANIC, SOS, SOUND THE ALARM -- Look at me: I need external validation to feel "complete" & to assuage my ego..

Good for you.. Yay!

For real. I'm supposed to base my serious life choices on the opinions of people who obviously don't feel content with their own lives.

 

[TLR Is Mental Poison]

You keep talking about "immaturity", but who wants to be old, sick, and alone? I'm sorry but people build their own families to take care of them, not to take care of someone else who couldn't get it together. Don't be that person who wants the allegiance of a child or wife, but wants to make everyone else fill in that position because they were too stubborn to ever see the value of such things.

If you live a long life eventually you will get old/sick... being alone or not doesn't really have anything to do with it. And you are projecting wildly. One can see the value in having kids + a wife, but still not want them for themselves... as well as not have either, and not be "alone" in old age. I don't think its unreasonable to say people who don't want families... shouldn't start them, regardless of what you want for yourself.

There's no way you can get me to believe that a fully heterosexual male who isn't anti-social is saying "I never want a wife or a woman to stick by me and I want to die alone".

Well that is your opinion. What I think everyone wants to know is why other people can't think differently.

 

[DaChampIsHere]

If you live a long life eventually you will get old/sick... being alone or not doesn't really have anything to do with it. And you are projecting wildly. One can see the value in having kids + a wife, but still not want them for themselves... as well as not have either, and not be "alone" in old age. I don't think its unreasonable to say people who don't want families... shouldn't start them, regardless of what you want for yourself.
Well that is your opinion. What I think everyone wants to know is why other people can't think differently.

I never said that getting married will prevent you from getting old and sick. That doesn't even sound right. Read.

I think y'all are missing that I never said anyone had to do anything or feel a certain way about something. I'm just saying that there's a certain character profile that goes along with such actions/feelings. I'm not trying to convince anyone in here to get married. I haven't told anyone once what they should do.

 

[the next guy]

I will say this, regardless how you look and how much you have. Being 50+ with no kids or a loving mate around when your parent and relatives are passing. You will be miserable and lonely. I lost my grandmother and 2 cousins got murdered in the same week. My mom and grandmother were like sisters. If she didn't have our family love it would be so hard to keep going on. That made me realize that this playa life and having no kids mentality is cool in your 20s and 30s, but when you get older, you going to need that family love. You might get injured badly and sick, who are you going to call? Who's going to check on you and come take care of you?

My grandma died smiling with a house full of family and love ones. Do you want to die alone in some old folk home? Unless you're wired totally different from most humans.

A lot of people who have kids die alone.

 

[TLR Is Mental Poison]

I never said that getting married will prevent you from getting old and sick. That doesn't even sound right. Read.

I think y'all are missing that I never said anyone had to do anything or feel a certain way about something. I'm just saying that there's a certain character profile that goes along with such actions/feelings. I'm not trying to convince anyone in here to get married. I haven't told anyone once what they should do.

You didn't tell anyone what to do, but you basically whittle down why people do things to very simplistic/convenient reasons. People marry to build legacies etc. People don't marry because they are gay or antisocial. According to you at least. Its nowhere near that simple. I don't think wanting/not wanting to get married is as big of an indicator of character as you make it to be.

 

[DaChampIsHere]

You didn't tell anyone what to do, but you basically whittle down why people do things to very simplistic/convenient reasons. People marry to build legacies etc. People don't marry because they are gay or antisocial. According to you at least. Its nowhere near that simple. I don't think wanting/not wanting to get married is as big of an indicator of character as you make it to be.

I say that because no one can seem to point out this 100% heterosexual male who has grown up with success and who has had great relationships/interactions with women who says "Hey, I wanna die alone and I don't want a woman".

Like, do these things even sound right together?

"I have achieved all these things, but fukk having a kid, when I die, I'm passing this on to someone else's family "

"I've had so much success with women and I've learned a lot of things from them, but fukk having a wife. I don't want to make a commitment to a woman. "

"I have a great social life and I really get along with people and I love hanging out with them, but fukk having a life long partner/friend "

 

[TLR Is Mental Poison]

I say that because no one can seem to point out this 100% heterosexual male who has grown up with success and who has had great relationships/interactions with women who says "Hey, I wanna die alone and I don't want a woman".

People have in this very thread, but you dismissed them

Like, do these things even sound right together?

"I have achieved all these things, but fukk having a kid, when I die, I'm passing this on to someone else's family "

A lot of very rich folks with kids are giving the lion's share of their wealth away to charity. Bill Gates + Warren Buffet are, IIRC.

"I've had so much success with women and I've learned a lot of things from them, but fukk having a wife. I don't want to make a commitment to a woman. "

You can have success w/women and learn from them w/o marrying them. In fact, odds are pretty low that you will get married at all, if you don't have success w/ and learn from women while you are single.

"I have a great social life and I really get along with people and I love hanging out with them, but fukk having a life long partner/friend "

Again you can do all these things w/o getting married

You are projecting your opinions as some general objective code of morality and normality... Just because you see folks who don't get married as weird, doesn't mean they are. This is the mirror image of the shaming done by the likes of Reincar (though without the driver of personal failure and anger).

Plus there is a big difference between the goofball nikkas here on that "fukk a bytch fukk marriage" shyt, and actual successful real life dudes.

 

[DaChampIsHere]

People have in this very thread, but you dismissed them
A lot of very rich folks with kids are giving the lion's share of their wealth away to charity. Bill Gates + Warren Buffet are, IIRC.
You can have success w/women and learn from them w/o marrying them. In fact, odds are pretty low that you will get married at all, if you don't have success w/ and learn from women while you are single.
Again you can do all these things w/o getting married
You are projecting your opinions as some general objective code of morality and normality... Just because you see folks who don't get married as weird, doesn't mean they are. This is the mirror image of the shaming done by the likes of Reincar (though without the driver of personal failure and anger).

Nope. Malta has said he is not sure of whether his friend wants to be married/have kids. The guy Nemesis mentioned could be a social flub. I haven't read the post of any guy in here who seemed "successful" or even very smart (ie. Being +30 and still renting) Most of the posts have been people trying to get something they didn't get when they were 16-25.

Donating to charity and still having your own family wealth = Giving everything you've made to someone else. Got cha.

Your point about marriage partially proved my point. But again, show me a man who has been successful with woman who was the ability to pull good/great ones who says "NO" to having one or being committed to one.

The funny thing is, a thread from now, you'll be demeaning Reincar using the same things I've listed here (ie. saying he's been hurt by women, calling him a homo, using the fact that his woman got an abortion against him, etc.). I think the faux concern about what I'm saying is hilarious, especially when you will throw it on him in a heart beat.

 

[JLova]

I say that because no one can seem to point out this 100% heterosexual male who has grown up with success and who has had great relationships/interactions with women who says "Hey, I wanna die alone and I don't want a woman".

Like, do these things even sound right together?

"I have achieved all these things, but fukk having a kid, when I die, I'm passing this on to someone else's family "

"I've had so much success with women and I've learned a lot of things from them, but fukk having a wife. I don't want to make a commitment to a woman. "

"I have a great social life and I really get along with people and I love hanging out with them, but fukk having a life long partner/friend "