People who have dealt with tough breakups...

[murksiderock]

Get ready for the exit don't count on making it to july. Keep things civil and know she will try you once y'all away from each other, people act different with time and distance... You will have to keep shyt on good terms to set the tone for your future interactions. If you guys start beefing that shyt will be the new norm.

Everyday is a learning process in making sure I develop a responsible relationship with her, civility! Definitely working on that...

Get trapped by a booty call brehs

I know bro, my homeboy got at me for that a few years ago too...

i dont even know how you guys do it. i wouldn't even pick up the phone for a guy i wasn't crazy for

nikkas having whole situations, relationships and families

#godwasaloneforeternityyethewasntlonely

Guess it's that whole "men are from mars" thing lol. Won't happen to me again...

 

[MajesticLion]

Tough thing, break-ups. Anyhow, protect yourself, financially. Consider yourself on child support and keep receipts for EVERYTHING. Document EVERYTHING you do with/for your children. Get a banker's box and some folders and keep ALL that stuff organized. E-mails, text messages,etc.​

Hopefully you won't need it, but it's better to prepare for the worst.

Good luck and keep making mature decisions for your own well-being.​

OP: listen to this man very closely.

 

[karim]

Reading some of these comments in here making fun of the OP's plight. I hope some of you never end up in the same predicament.

Have you read his story? That shyt was an obvious disaster from the very beginning. He got trapped into a relationship, which never works because a)the woman will resent you because she had to trap you into a relationship and b) you will feel lukewarm about her, which she will notice, making her resent you even more.

There is really no good advice you can give here, except for take your l, hold your jead up, try to maintain your sanity and document everything you spend on your kids in case she goes to court. Once op knocked her up, it was a wrap and everything else was just a matter of time

 

[Sccit]

DAMN HOMIE I THOUGHT U WAS JUST WEAK IN SPORTS DEBATES.. U WEAK AF IRL TOO? ALL BAD

 

[Yaboysix]

Find a new chick to shack up with like the rest of us do. Tis the season..

 

[$cam-U-Well_Jack$on]

I see what you're saying but this depends on how valuable your sanity/peace of mind is to you. Staying in a trash/toxic relationship ain't worth it.

Abso-fukkin'-lutely.

 

[skeetsinternal]

Yea breh, I had to go. She put 3 DV cases, had cops and ambulance come to the house after I knocked her out... by accident. It was toxic and she had to go

 

[Crizzy]

Yea breh, I had to go. She put 3 DV cases, had cops and ambulance come to the house after I knocked her out... by accident. It was toxic and she had to go

.... How breh?

 

[KENNY DA COOKER]

I think she's thinking about child support, I think she's already looked into it and definitely I know she's being given advice from friends and family to put me on it...

What she's told me though, is that she wouldn't put me on it, because she believes that assistance should only be for parents unwilling to financially contribute to their children...

Do I believe that? Nah not totally, I hope she keeps her word but I have plenty of doubt on that...

.

Man......what you need to do is rethink this whole situation Breh and seriously find a way to reconcile with her


Have a nice glass of cognac and go listen to some LATTIMORE

"sit yo self down and girl come talk to me...let's STRAIGHTEN IT OUT!!"

 

[Bigen King]

The moment you go to court and get them peoples involved its a wrap. That child support for two kids gone be whooping you.

How you have two kids by women you didn't see a future with?

Talk about bad decisions.

 

[Pegasus Jackson]

i lived with an ex (no kids involved). we were always great friends though so it wasn't that bad. we lived in our former house after breaking up. he still tried to be with me for a little while, then he gave up and i was his wing man a few times. then we moved into another rental together lol. eventually we parted ways, but recently he moved in my house. lol, that's my best friend

That nikka gay.

 

[bourgeoisie tall freak]

That nikka gay.

lol, why you say that? i've known all about his girlfriends since we've broke up. he tells me all the details i helped him get his current "wifey" too. we went to a restaurant to eat, she was there alone, and he was checking her out. i told her to slide her his number on a napkin and walk away so as not to bother her meal too much. shyt worked

even if he was gay, its not my concern anymore. his dikk and my p*ssy are ancient history lol

 

[skeetsinternal]

.... How breh?

I was trying to leave the house after an argument and she grabbed my keys to keep me from leaving the house. *cough* I got the keys from her and was headed upstairs, she clawed me up spitting and fighting and stretched the collar of my shirt trying to pull me from going. In one sweeping motion I said get off me and swung my elbow that caught the temple of her head and she was out cold and on the floor wrapped around the washing machine with a big vein bulging on the side of her head and breathing heavily then she stopped breathing. I picked her up off floor and placed her on the couch and called the paramedics. Paramedics finally came and revived her.

 

[$cam-U-Well_Jack$on]

These heauxs ain't worth it.

 

[Swirv]

I only have one child and yes he stayed with me. His dad in another state. Last 7 years I’ve done everything on my own, for the most part(working, taking care of house, taking care of son, carting him to activities, handling his school issues, at one point working full time and grad school at night) and still no regrets. My son is with his dad right now who gets him during breaks. Now his dad on the other hand is not feeling that way, not at all. But again my situation is different because my son’s father wants to be with me, didn’t move on, and he’s the one that fukked up things so he has to live with that regret.
Op is not in the same situation

I'm glad everything worked out for your situation. If something is not healthy then by all means get out.

When kids are involved I'm willing to endure certain conditions to keep the family together. Personally, I missed an opportunity to keep my family together under the same roof before and I didn't let my current opportunity slip away.