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Sounds like one of those women who go on lavish dates, use up a man's money and then move on to the next guy

That is exactly what she planned to do. No first date should be over $20. Take your ass to Coldstone and creamers and laugh over some ice cream. How can we be a couple if we can not even laugh together? My first date with the man I'm with now was laughing over some brownies and lemonade at Barnes and Nobles. We then looked at some books together, laughed, and talked.
She just wanted to stunt and show out then throw him in the bushes afterwards.
 
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Real talk I ain't mad at her. If she's a decent woman worth having she probably gets spit at on the regular. Why waste your time meeting up with cats on the regular for coffee? Put it this way: If I'm really feeling a woman initially, I wouldn't have any problem planning to actually take her out. Doesn't have to be a ton of money but I'd be cool with dropping some change to show her a good time. And a woman having those standards is an even better look for me. Not like she said she gotta eat lobster, just said if a dude wants to spend time with her make it interesting. If you can't rock with that you either broke or mess with too many garbage females :yeshrug:
 

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I have a set up system for dealing with or courting women in the beginning:

I set aside $200 for initial investment. This money will be used for dates, certain tricks or treats, whatever so that we can feel each other out without me going crazy financially....I also tie in a scoring system. For example, if she asks to go to the most expensive restaurant on our first date, :fohjakes: that's -$200 dollars and basically the bytch has gone bankrupt before we even hit the pavement.
 

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From a females pov...I'd much rather meet for coffee or drinks or a walk because the dude might be on straight creep mode. Or you may not have any chemistry beyond ig likes, #wcw's, and text convo. It could be dumb awkward and I don't wanna have to pretend my kid needs me or I'm all of a sudden sick to get away from a nikka. I wanna meet you, vibe, and be excited to see you again. But a man should have some kind of plan and time. None of that "let's chill" and expect me.to come to your house and sit on your couch to share a blunt and wait for you to try to make moves. Eew. Now if u say hey its game/card night at my crib. I might be down.
Wait card game as in yugioh or card game as in strip go fish?
 

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I have a set up system for dealing with or courting women in the beginning:

I set aside $200 for initial investment. This money will be used for dates, certain tricks or treats, whatever so that we can feel each other out without me going crazy financially....I also tie in a scoring system. For example, if she asks to go to the most expensive restaurant on our first date, :fohjakes: that's -$200 dollars and basically the bytch has gone bankrupt before we even hit the pavement.

:ohhh: I like that idea there.
 

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Fake or not theres TONS of women all over twitter who say this everyday

shyt is disgusting as fuccc, and its always from black women too and when you refute it they call you broke straight up... like :what::martin: FIRST OFF

1) I dont know you, why am i breaking bread with you
2) since when did an expensive date = having a great time

Legit.. the best date i went on was a museum date and all i paid for was drinks for the both of us, we walked across the london bridge and enjoyed the scenery of london at night..

these new generation heauxes are annoying..
 

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the problem is she said "if you want to see me, plan a date worth having", WTF is that? that let's me know from the jump that she's all about the scene and nothing more.
Ya'll just gotta be creative. First date I took my now wife on was back in college. Took her to a play I had to go to for a class I had (told her about it too). I gave her a single flower, took her to the play and then to eat at a decent spot in Lincoln Park. Couldn't have spent more than $70 total for both of us. I've taken women to street fairs/festivals, to walk the beach, ice skating, etc. Most women just want to actually do something that shows you took more than 8 seconds to think about it and had a plan.
 

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Real talk I ain't mad at her. If she's a decent woman worth having she probably gets spit at on the regular. Why waste your time meeting up with cats on the regular for coffee? Put it this way: If I'm really feeling a woman initially, I wouldn't have any problem planning to actually take her out. Doesn't have to be a ton of money but I'd be cool with dropping some change to show her a good time. And a woman having those standards is an even better look for me. Not like she said she gotta eat lobster, just said if a dude wants to spend time with her make it interesting. If you can't rock with that you either broke or mess with too many garbage females :yeshrug:
So it's ok to waste time if he drops more coin than a latte?
 

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That is exactly what she planned to do. No first date should be over $20. Take your ass to Coldstone and creamers and laugh over some ice crram. How can we be a couple if we can not even laugh together? My firat date with the man I'm with now was laughing over some brownies and lemonade at Barnes and Nobles. We then looked at some books together, laughed, and talked.
She just wanted to stunt and show out theb throw him in the bushes afterwards.

I remember I went out with this chick for the first time and I legit left my wallet at home (which normally wouldn't be a problem. except she happened to live on a different side of town from me at the time, and I drove out there. Plus we were planning on seeing a movie. I had my checkbook for some reason, and I told her I'd write her a personal check to cover the movie, but she said it was cool and paid. we actually dated for a while after that. but her being cool with the situation showed me a lot that day.
 

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"So I can look good for you"

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You know a couple of simps done fell for that.

There are books by men and women about being a good gold digger and that is actually a tip. Making a man feel like he is #1 and you want to look good for him. If he is stupid and has low self esteem he will feel like a king.
 

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So it's ok to waste time if he drops more coin than a latte?
Put it this way: back in the day when females would ask dudes to Sadie Hawkins, if you was :ld: about a female you was only going if she was buying your gear for the matching fit AND it was something you wanted. If she's not sure if she's feeling you I ain't mad at her for saying she wants to do something interesting at least. If ya'll have coffee and she ain't into you then she wasted some time. If you take her on a carriage ride downtown at least she did something interesting. If you ain't down to spend the cheese then I ain't mad at it, I'm just not mad at her for having a requirement
 

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Ya'll just gotta be creative. First date I took my now wife on was back in college. Took her to a play I had to go to for a class I had (told her about it too). I gave her a single flower, took her to the play and then to eat at a decent spot in Lincoln Park. Couldn't have spent more than $70 total for both of us. I've taken women to street fairs/festivals, to walk the beach, ice skating, etc. Most women just want to actually do something that shows you took more than 8 seconds to think about it and had a plan.
The first initial contact with the person should be simple where you two get to vibe off each other and see if it's worth pursuing. Not knocking what you did, but $70 would of been expensive if that girl (your now wife) was boring and you didn't click with her.
 
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