Question for the older brothers...

[murksiderock]

She sounds like a woman in her typical honeymooning phase. Maybe she’s never dealt with a man older than her and that’s got her head fukked up.

I definitely feel like the 41 year old just sees some new exploitable p*ssy. Think about it, what does he have to gain from a situation where the chick stays with her BD? Something he can exploit and walk away from the bullshyt in one piece

bruh I say this to you as someone who’s young but has soaked up a lot of game from personal experiences and my old heads, I wouldn’t even worry about it....just let it play out and prepare for her to come back with some type of sad story she should’ve seen coming don’t even tell her you told her so, just do you

This is what I've told her, sounds like the honeymoon phase and good for her...

I'm older than her, I'm 30, and when she's wanted to insult me she says I ain't mature enough for her so she needs an older man with all his shyt together. That doesn't bother me and never really did, but that's her justification. For the record her dad is 44 and I asked her what he would think if he knew she was dating a man his age, she just said "I shoulda asked him for advice on you and seen what he said, but it's none if his business who I date"...

The thing is bruh, I never asked her any of this shyt. She continues to find ways to bring dude up and then asks my opinion. Apparently he's never married, no kids, wants no kids, IT professional. She's met his mom who "loves her" after dating a month lol, she met him thru his 27-year old nephew she works with that's her "best friend" and that's how she also met his mom...

A bunch of unsolicited information, then asks my opinion and debates me about a question she asked me...

What are you doing?

Move out, and move on with your life.

Bottom line... She is using you as an emotional kickstand.

You seem to enjoy the punishment.

I would rather sleep in my car, or with friends and family than cohabitate with a woman that's having sex with strange men.

Let her go.

It's almost June now, but fir the record I've stated before, it took me awhile to come to grips with not being with her, didn't really accept it and get comfortable with it until around Thanksgiving/early December---->I woke up one day and had the clearest feeling that I wasn't in love with her or wanted her anymore. Brought a lot of peace...

We have two daughters together and the other factor that played a part is I've never been apart from my kids and wasn't in a rush to do so. I had the means to leave the entire time, but I don't plan on staying where we live, and I'm also a felon who has found apartment hunting very difficult in the past, so all these things were factors...

As it is, we're headed our separate ways when the lease is up in June. I don't disagree with you that I've accepted this punishment, I coulda left her before we even moved here last April. My priorities were way outta wack...

 

[ReturnOfJudah]

what would a man want with a woman 16 years younger than him, who still lives with her kids father? At 41, what does this tell you about who he is and his motives?

He wants young p*ssy & head. He also doesnt have to worry about paying her bills cuz yall going half on that. OG running game on your bird ass baby mama. Most 25 year old women wouldn't give a man that age the time of the day. Unless he riding fly, and throwing away his money trying to impress people like her. It wont last though. Hes gonna find another young bird soon and she will be thrown to the dumpster. Or after she bled the old perv dry, she will pursue the next victim. Game 101

 

[DatBoiHawk]

I'm 41

I often meet a lot of young women in their 20s who are attracted to me. I used to wonder what they see in older men but I think I get it now. They want the stability off an older man. They THINK an older breh is less likely to cheat or if he had other women they're are some immature wild or disrespectful shyt he won't do like their younger counterparts.

Some older brehs i know are dating younger women and are serious about them. As in they date them seriously and might even marry'em and know if they have a kid together their seeds will have a young mother to look after them long after they themselves are gone. Some it's just another chick you fukking to pass the time. Every now and them you need that injection of youth into the roster as the older women on the roster start to get on your nerves with all their yapping and demands.

Personally, I've been fukking this 27 year old for over a year now. She was 26 when we met. Good p*ssy, head game on steroids, could ride a dikk like nothing I've ever seen, and has an IUD so I be skeeting all up in her.
I know I should know better... I knowBut she super fun and cute, tho. That's my little homey
Low maintenance, talks a lot but doesn't talk my ear off about bullshyt like most women my age. She's hilariously funny tho. and could easily be a standup comedian. She comes over. We fukk. She goes home. Sometimes she'll be stressed at her job and will tell me to stop by her job and get a blowjob in the parking lot. Every now and then we'll link up for drinks and/or dinner or something but no expectations of commitment and all that bullshyt. Doesnt make any demands. She just happy to hang and have fun. I am sure she probably fukking someone else but we never discuss it. + She's bisexual and very into women too.

But again, i love her because she's just a fun person to be around. Cusses like a sailor but will have you laughing from the minute she walks in the room until she grabs the dikk and puts it in her mouth. Really only way she shuts up.

Sounds like you won. I had a chick like that wanting to suck and fukk everyday then after a month she switched up started bringing up marriage and meeting her kid and started withholding the p*ssy

 

[Womb Raider]

This is what I've told her, sounds like the honeymoon phase and good for her...

I'm older than her, I'm 30, and when she's wanted to insult me she says I ain't mature enough for her so she needs an older man with all his shyt together. That doesn't bother me and never really did, but that's her justification. For the record her dad is 44 and I asked her what he would think if he knew she was dating a man his age, she just said "I shoulda asked him for advice on you and seen what he said, but it's none if his business who I date"...

The thing is bruh, I never asked her any of this shyt. She continues to find ways to bring dude up and then asks my opinion. Apparently he's never married, no kids, wants no kids, IT professional. She's met his mom who "loves her" after dating a month lol, she met him thru his 27-year old nephew she works with that's her "best friend" and that's how she also met his mom...

A bunch of unsolicited information, then asks my opinion and debates me about a question she asked me...

it’s a load of horse shyt breh, plain and simple. I literally watched my mom cheat on my dad, divorce him, flexed on my pop every chance she got and let the nikka she was cheating on him with basically move into the fixer upper crib due to him being a contractor. Then when we needed to stay elsewhere because of lead in the paint, we couldn’t stay with him because he had a whole family already


You can’t let the bullshyt override your peace. Allow her world to fall apart on her own breh, it’s best for your mental health.



Speaking of mental health, id actually like to DM you about something and get your opinion if you don’t mind.

 

[DatBoiHawk]

This is what I've told her, sounds like the honeymoon phase and good for her...

I'm older than her, I'm 30, and when she's wanted to insult me she says I ain't mature enough for her so she needs an older man with all his shyt together. That doesn't bother me and never really did, but that's her justification. For the record her dad is 44 and I asked her what he would think if he knew she was dating a man his age, she just said "I shoulda asked him for advice on you and seen what he said, but it's none if his business who I date"...

The thing is bruh, I never asked her any of this shyt. She continues to find ways to bring dude up and then asks my opinion. Apparently he's never married, no kids, wants no kids, IT professional. She's met his mom who "loves her" after dating a month lol, she met him thru his 27-year old nephew she works with that's her "best friend" and that's how she also met his mom...

A bunch of unsolicited information, then asks my opinion and debates me about a question she asked me...



It's almost June now, but fir the record I've stated before, it took me awhile to come to grips with not being with her, didn't really accept it and get comfortable with it until around Thanksgiving/early December---->I woke up one day and had the clearest feeling that I wasn't in love with her or wanted her anymore. Brought a lot of peace...

We have two daughters together and the other factor that played a part is I've never been apart from my kids and wasn't in a rush to do so. I had the means to leave the entire time, but I don't plan on staying where we live, and I'm also a felon who has found apartment hunting very difficult in the past, so all these things were factors...

As it is, we're headed our separate ways when the lease is up in June. I don't disagree with you that I've accepted this punishment, I coulda left her before we even moved here last April. My priorities were way outta wack...

She’s just trying to make you jealous bro....that’s all it is just ignore her, maybe even act excited that she’s dating a new man I bet that’ll stop her trolling

 

[WesCrook]

Like the saying goes "You can't have it both ways"

She's literally having it both ways. Make a move OP...and cut your losses

 

[Amerikan Melanin]

@murksiderock my god brother. You have made some poor decisions in your life but now is the time to move on.

you say you have the means to move when the lease is done? You are a felon? Simple answer. Buy a place. Doesn’t matter if it’s a trailer or a condo just get a place of your own. They don’t do background checks when buying. I assume you are a 1st time buyer so you qualify for FHA. 3% down. That’s free money to get you your own spot.

Have a lawyer on deck cause I can already see your ex is going to become vindictive when y’all split. Protect your right to see your babies.

make more money, nothing like success as the source of revenge.

 

[Ricky Fontaine]

Y’all maybe separated Blaise Blaise,

but no woman you shackin up with should even be comfortable telling you some shyt like that.

 

[murksiderock]

He's just more stable than a younger dude. That's it..

He most likely going to pump and dump..

My question to you is, is your girl still active in the streets?

Does she like doing a lot of things?

If so, he'll get tired of her soon.

Breh 41, he dont have all that CONSTANT energy for a young woman.

Nah she's a homebody. She has a small circle of friends and doesn't drink...

She has young girl personality in other ways though, in her mind she's mature for her age because she isn't a partier, but she's emotionally immature and reacts and responds in kind. That's part of why I've asked, what would a 41-year old want other than a free smash? At 41 you expect a 25-year old to be a 25-year old, right? Then she lives at home with her kids father. I'm envisioning myself at 41 and single and can't for the life of me figure out what would make attracted to a 25-year old in her position, even on the surface...

I told her to be cautious and take care of herself and she calls me a hater and says he's "probably the most enlightened and brilliant person she's ever met". I said good for him, but he's 16 years older than you, he knows what to say to you so it ain't gonna be hard to impress you...

Don’t even trip.

when she come back crying cuz the old head nikka ain’t bout shyt she’ll see.

Thing is.... chicks look at an older nikka and think they hit the lottery but don’t even ask themselves why hoes his age don’t want fukk with him lmaooooooo

My uncle is notorious for liking young bytches. Reputable street nikka where I’m from. But it’s only because they are easy to manipulate with a decent car, couple bags and a trip to Miami (where him and my pops are from). Hoes be going off the deep end. Mans did 19 years state time. These hoes be enamored by that shyt lmaoooooooo but a chick his age? Not even going. Don’t even have the time. But the young hoes is easy prey.

Sugar daddy culture is real and I’m pretty sure your girl fell into it. Play your part for your kid and ignore her bullshyt it’ll come back the way it’s supposed to

Godspeed young man. Cuz me? I would’ve moved out ASAP lol

100...

On the scale of things I've dealt with, with her, this is not even a 1, it's just annoying she keeps bothering me about dude trying to make me jealous. We are going our separate ways in June, though...

I’m not sure your motives in being concerned about their relationship, I’m sure you don’t hate her but it’s not really your business.

Where you do fit in is wrt to y’all having a child together and whether she’ll be bringing him around, sounds like a yes.

I’d meet breh, see where his head is and be level with her about where the situation is going.

Im not concerned about her relationship, Yinny. She's included me with details. I just told her last night I don't care to hear about dude, she says she has important questions on how I will respond to him, blah blah blah...

I've never asked her shyt that wasn't a follow up to a conversation she didn't start with me about him first...

I told her I don't care to meet him until she's ready to introduce him to the girls, and when she realizes she's ready for that, I want to meet him ahead of that. She initially said she ain't introducing him to the girls until a year of dating, and she said "he's okay with that and not pressuring me"...

 

[T.H.E. Goat]

You should be talking to your BM about ways ya’ll can finesse the old head

 

[murksiderock]

Are you still smashing?

If he's aware of you, then he just wants the p*ssy without any financial commitment.

He probably thinks that's what you are for.

Your baby mama probably loves the situation. Outside dikk with potential upside, at home dikk without any commitment plus financial support.

You're the one taking the L.

Nah hell nah, we haven't had any sexual contact since like October. She's left the door open several times in a playful but not trying to be obvious about it way, even though it was. I didn't jump on it, though....last time was some point within the last few weeks, it's there if I really pushed the envelope, even though she'll say it isn't. I ain't with it...

 

[intruder]

Sounds like you won. I had a chick like that wanting to suck and fukk everyday then after a month she switched up started bringing up marriage and meeting her kid and started withholding the p*ssy

Ouch!

Nah she don't have no kids. We met on Tinder. She didn't have a pic of her face on it but her body looked dope especially her titties. We matched and started chatting. 2 days later we met for drinks. We were so comfortable with each other I already had my hands in her panties right at the bar. We would have fukked on the first date had she not have to go home because she works super early (5AM). We fukked the very next time we hung out a few days later tho.

Again I just enjoy her company because she's so much fun. The shyt talking she does is on some next level shyt. I swear she needs to register on the Coli to talk shyt to the clowns on here. Would be hilarious

 

[JLova]

Why? I mean at 41 a 25 year old is a fun time. Not as annoying as women his age. More impressionable and easier to control.

 

[The ADD]

Don’t over think this breh, the answer is easy

 

[richaveli83]

I'm 36 and the youngest I would date or be in a serious relationship with be 27. I might consider 25 but she can't have baggage (child, unstable living situation, etc). Other than that I'm just treating her as a friend with benefits. Nothing serious. Dude is just smashing and doesn't care about your baby mama. No dude regardless of age is going to be cool with their girl living with her baby daddy/ex-boyfriend/ex-husband/etc, or another man unless the man is a family member or maybe if dude is homosexual.