Question for the older brothers...

[big bun]

OP...you are in the way right now. Bottom line.

 

[xCivicx]

Yall really gotta stop age shaming

Yall are literally sounding like straight females

 

[⠀X ⠀]

Why wouldn’t a 41 year old want a 25 year old? Women in their 30’s are generally annoying af.

the fact that he knows that she’s living with her child’s father, and is cool with that, tells me that he ain’t too serious about her, or something‘s wrong with him.

 

[murksiderock]

She's just trying to make you mad homie.

And you're right, homie just wants to fukk. No real nikka is going to be in a serious relationship with a woman that still lives with her BD, who could possibly still have a hall pass.

100, that's what I've thought anyway...

I can't think of a more gravy situation than that for someone in their 40s

I suspect even she knows he won't let her move in with him?

Probably, here's the thing. She prides herself on her "independence" but because I know her, I know it wouldnt take much for her to move in with him if he allowed it. Not some 2 or 3 month shyt, but within 4-6 months if he was the sugar daddy type, i don't know if he is or isn't, but she would jump at it because she already doesn't want to work, she wants to be someone's stay at home wife...

Her and I never were on the same page as that, I ain't nobody's sponsor besides my children. I obviously hold my obligations otherwise but I ain't the "my woman can sit at home and eat off me" type, never been that way. And I've made more than twice as much money as she has in our time together (about 4½ years around each other now). Never was on that...

But she would LOVE for a man to put her on and let her tend to the home. There's guys like that out there, and she says they see eye to eye on all these things and already discussed this kinda shyt lol...

it’s a load of horse shyt breh, plain and simple. I literally watched my mom cheat on my dad, divorce him, flexed on my pop every chance she got and let the nikka she was cheating on him with basically move into the fixer upper crib due to him being a contractor. Then when we needed to stay elsewhere because of lead in the paint, we couldn’t stay with him because he had a whole family already


You can’t let the bullshyt override your peace. Allow her world to fall apart on her own breh, it’s best for your mental health.



Speaking of mental health, id actually like to DM you about something and get your opinion if you don’t mind.

For sure you can hit me up bro...

I asked her how does she know he's single and doesn't have a family, this was maybe two weeks ago, and she said because he "ain't a liar like you, real blunt and to the point". And she's friends with his nephew lol, that's how she met dude, as if the nephew has any reason to disclose everything he knows about his uncle...

I don't know any of these people, I just respond to this weird shyt she brings to me first...

 

[god shamgod]

Did op really ask what a 41 y/o male would want with a 25 year old chick This site man

he smashing your baby moms and got her wide open , move out if you can’t handle it

 

[murksiderock]

She’s just trying to make you jealous bro....that’s all it is just ignore her, maybe even act excited that she’s dating a new man I bet that’ll stop her trolling

Trolling, that's the word I couldn't place. She def trolling me lol...

@murksiderock my god brother. You have made some poor decisions in your life but now is the time to move on.

you say you have the means to move when the lease is done? You are a felon? Simple answer. Buy a place. Doesn’t matter if it’s a trailer or a condo just get a place of your own. They don’t do background checks when buying. I assume you are a 1st time buyer so you qualify for FHA. 3% down. That’s free money to get you your own spot.

Have a lawyer on deck cause I can already see your ex is going to become vindictive when y’all split. Protect your right to see your babies.

make more money, nothing like success as the source of revenge.

Bruh I have made alot of poor decisions. I've thought of buying a home, the plan i have in place is one more apartment, then buy a home...

En route to finding a new a better job, this unforeseen pandemic gonna keep it slow for awhile, it seems. But I'm def pressing the issue for more money all the time...

 

[murksiderock]

More impressionable and easier to control.

That's what I thought...

Don’t over think this breh, the answers is easy

I am overthinking it. Only cause she provoked this shyt, but you're right fam...

I'm 36 and the youngest I would date or be in a serious relationship with be 27. I might consider 25 but she can't have baggage (child, unstable living situation, etc). Other than that I'm just treating her as a friend with benefits. Nothing serious. Dude is just smashing and doesn't care about your baby mama. No dude regardless of age is going to be cool with their girl living with her baby daddy/ex-boyfriend/ex-husband/etc, or another man unless the man is a family member or maybe if dude is homosexual.

That's what I figured, all this here...

 

[Dad]

Ignore her. You already don’t fukk with her

 

[murksiderock]

Did op really ask what a 41 y/o male would want with a 25 year old chick This site man

he smashing your baby moms and got her wide open , move out if you can’t handle it

Nobody is concerned about that. If you ain't gone read the thread and respond in relevance, keep it pushing. I don't care that she's smashing dude...

 

[Nicole0416_718_929_646212]

Are you going to put the tv on while hes in the other smashing her?

 

[Tom Foolery]

These women today are extra retarded and trying to build a partner like it's voltron, (one guy is the father, the other got a good job, the other is the side dude etc.)

You lost trying to make sense out of a woman. Just make sure she's safe and doesn't end up physically abusing her.

This is the outcome when when are given too much freedom and power.

 

[Malcolmxxx_23]

Nobody is concerned about that. If you ain't gone read the thread and respond in relevance, keep it pushing. I don't care that she's smashing dude...

Is he allowed to eat food from your fridge ?
Fred

 

[Tom Foolery]

I already explained my live-in situation a couple times on here. I'll give it a brief summary then fill in gaps where needed...

My childs' mom and I are living together until our lease ends in June, we've been separated since last July. Victims of circumstance is why we've still lived together...

She's 25 and recently began seeing this 41-year old guy, according to her. Over the last 2-3 weeks she's brought up dude multiple times; most recently last night she asked me when I would like to meet dude, etc etc...

I already have responded with feeling like she's talking dude up to annoy me and feel great about herself, my question isn't pertained to that. My question is, what would a man want with a woman 16 years younger than him, who still lives with her kids father? At 41, what does this tell you about who he is and his motives?

She specifically asked me last week what I think about some info she shared, then when I told her I'm not impressed, she went in about how she thinks he's a "unicorn"--->he's unlike any man she's ever met before and she doesn't think she'll meet anyone like him ever again. She repeatedly asks me questions, I give an answer, then she debates me about my answer to a question she asked me unprovoked...

Woman of The Coli feel free to jump in if you have an opinion as well. I told her to take care of herself, he doesn't sound as genuine to me as she thinks he is, and instead she thinks I'm hostile and hating because she sees this as a long term relationship moving forward...

You tell her this. If this guy isn't willing to meet her parents or family members and vice versa, something is up with him.

 

[⠀X ⠀]

Are you going to put the tv on while hes in the other smashing her?

 

[Nicole0416_718_929_646212]

Leave OP - you are enabling a female that already feels entitled. Have some respect for yourself, like now!!! She doesn’t even respect you enough to wait until you leave to move on. And you sit there and entertain her as the live in babysitter/roommate bestie while she’s out getting her back blown 6 ways from Sunday. And I know that you all are still fukking. So don’t even pull the wool over my eyes with that. Clearly you’re still geeking over here - you need to cut ties and move on seperate.

The older dudes - he’s probably more financially secure. If he’s anything like my older brother - he’s gassing her as part of his roster for how he feels at the moment as a secure and financially viable man who could basically get with any chick he wants. The types of females that do and say anything to be able to be the one that wears the ring. He even tells them that he’s not ready or sure if ever he wants marriage and they still go along, gassed. She’s going to have to find out for herself. That’s not your concern, your relationship with your own kids is. Stop torturing yourself. You serve two
Purposes for her - to be her emotional punching bag and bill payer. The fact that she has you in a cuck like state to have the audacity to ask you to meet him - wtf?? You don’t know for sure if she told dude that you’re still living there. Basically, you are in fallback position when shyt goes left with the older man and you seem like you want that tu happen for the purposes of her coming back to you when her other options run out. By then, all you have is Resentment and contempt.