- she sees the end coming.
- she's realized you've mentally and emotionally checked out.
- she hasn't...even though she may in fact actually have from a relationship standpoint, from an emotional stability one she really hasn't, in the sense that for her to progress she needs to feel like she's in a better starting space than you. Yes, immaturity.
- she wants you, therefore, to care.
- you shouldn't.
- you probably do, since you're actually entertaining these conversations.
- undeserved cynicism? Maybe. The determining factor that stands out? Her constantly waving dude under your nose. "He's not a liar like you..." etc etc. She has to belittle you to achieve her head start.
- she knows she has hooks in your gills with those two children and she's determined to set them deeper.
- brace yourself for incoming.
You're a sharp dude so I know you have an idea of what you're potentially in for here. Hopefully it doesn't go in that direction, but it's better to be prepared than not. Move smarter and document everything. All convo to nil unless it's about the children, until she starts showing evidence of growing up. Love on your children harder. She'll either smarten up or she won't, but they shouldn't have to suffer more than necessary for whatever she has pinballing around in her head.
More than anything, you've got some growing to do yourself. Don't let any noise get in the way of that.
