Raising Another Man's Child

[Just like bruddas]

From another thread, these are my views:

have you actually seen this or been through this?

Seem a lot of you guys think dating a women with a child will mean you will be forced to raise the kid. From the single mother I been with, not one time was I asked to support the kid. They had all of that handled already, only thing they needed was some tlc. Now I do agree about experiencing father, thats a must for every man, but whats stopping that from happening? I tell a woman straight up I wanna have 3 kids and if she got 1 already then she gonna need to pop out 3 more, if not then Im gone. But it seems yall are always thinking of the worst case scenario when it comes to women and relationships.

I mean what if none of that stuff will happen, and you and her have a baby? Would it still suck?

 

[DaRealness]

have you actually seen this or been through this?

Seem a lot of you guys think dating a women with a child will mean you will be forced to raise the kid. From the single mother I been with, not one time was I asked to support the kid. They had all of that handled already, only thing they needed was some tlc. Now I do agree about experiencing father, thats a must for every man, but whats stopping that from happening? I tell a woman straight up I wanna have 3 kids and if she got 1 already then she gonna need to pop out 3 more, if not then Im gone. But it seems yall are always thinking of the worst case scenario when it comes to women and relationships.

I mean what if none of that stuff will happen, and you and her have a baby? Would it still suck?

I've already mentioned that I've seen this, most recently with a male cousin of mine. There's no sympathy for men who lose the children they are attached too because their mother decides it's over.

The bolded is a problem, because you can't force a woman to have kids and they can always change their minds anyway and will probably agree to it just to lure you in.

The last scenario you mentioned wouldn't happen, because I wouldn't be in that position in the first place, as I already have my mind made up. See the video I posted. What about all these career women who have their shyt together who refuse to date a man with children (cos contrary to popular belief, there ARE single fathers out there)? How come no one ever questions their stance? Like dude in the video rightly said, women turn down men for a million reasons all day, everyday, but the minute WE have standards we adhere to that aren't to the liking of women, then somehow we're "little boys" and irresponsible.

I refuse to date a woman with children, it's that simple. Many of these women didn't care for a "nice guy" or good man when they were in their prime and setting the world ablaze, but when things don't work out as they had hoped, now they want the black Clark Kent to swoop in when they probably wouldn't have given him the time of day just a few years prior. You might say we all make mistakes and blah blah blah, so how come black men never get a pass for the mistakes they've likewise made? My own problems I'm dealing with right now, I don't see Wonder Woman flying through the skies and landing on my doorstep to help me fix shyt.

Of course, you have mature women who were married or in long term relationships and things didn't work out. It happens. However, there's nothing stopping me as a man working with youth (which I have signed up for recently to help out at a local community centre) and helping them out in that way and many black men play a 'Cutty' role in that sense. But, the children I raise will be my own flesh and blood and blessings or problems that arise from that will be down to me and the mother without anything external.

 

[Poh SIti Dawn]

I was raised my Jamaican parents. My parents would be ashamed of me if I raised another man's child.

I would never take a Jamaicans advice when it comes to raising children. I dunno about yaw, you're like the scumbags of the black race, next to Somalians.

 

[MikelArteta]

yeah and youre just some bitter ass dude that tried to trap a bytch and had his plans and ring thrown in the bushes. For someone that looks down others coming from a one parent home me and a bunch of other posters can clearly tell you dont have a male figure in your life. If you did then you wouldnt have been running around getting burnt and making babies.... @ you for not wrapping it up, you nasty breh. Dirty dikk bytch. You havent been dating, how the fukk could you, you had like 100k post on sohh and got like 10k here (within a year) who the fukk you kidding nikka.

My bad I forgot you was dri...I mean chauffeuring some chick to apple bees and taking her shopping here in the states, but yet Im the simp


Say what you want about me reincar but the fact still remains I never had to resort to trapping women. What part of that game is that, but hey you found jesus again so good luck.

Actually my parents benn married for 30 years, unlkke you i grew up in a great environment, private schools, surburban life not ratchet ass orange new jersey.

Lol at these insults look at me then look at you, you dirty midget ass fake muslim wifing single moms, cant even keep your min wage job at pepsi azz nukka. Dont compare your ratchet poor lifestyle to mine.

Bringing up post counts oh no how original, nikka im at work right now getting paid to post.


Again with the ducktales, i went to visit a friend from university and never been buffalo or niagara falls usa so she came and directed me, im sorry to dissapoint you but the only money i spent was on gas my lunch and groceries for mysekf. Im not you will styles, im not a broke negro living in the hood with no way out,.

I have never trapped a chick

Come with some new relevant material midget

Sent from royalty breh

 

[MikelArteta]

From another thread, these are my views:

Yup, you can raise a child from age 2 to 10. Mom decides its over and you have no legal grounds to see that child.

Sent from royalty breh

 

[DaRealness]

I would never take a Jamaicans advice when it comes to raising children. I dunno about yaw, you're like the scumbags of the black race, next to Somalians.

Yoooo, I'm from a Jamaican background too.

What's all that about fam?

 

[Just like bruddas]

I've already mentioned that I've seen this, most recently with a male cousin of mine. There's no sympathy for men who lose the children they are attached too because their mother decides it's over.

The bolded is a problem, because you can't force a woman to have kids and they can always change their minds anyway and will probably agree to it just to lure you in.

The last scenario you mentioned wouldn't happen, because I wouldn't be in that position in the first place, as I already have my mind made up. See the video I posted. What about all these career women who have their shyt together who refuse to date a man with children (cos contrary to popular belief, there ARE single fathers out there)? How come no one ever questions their stance? Like dude in the video rightly said, women turn down men for a million reasons all day, everyday, but the minute WE have standards we adhere to that aren't to the liking of women, then somehow we're "little boys" and irresponsible.

I refuse to date a woman with children, it's that simple. Many of these women didn't care for a "nice guy" or good man when they were in their prime and setting the world ablaze, but when things don't work out as they had hoped, now they want the black Clark Kent to swoop in when they probably wouldn't have given him the time of day just a few years prior. You might say we all make mistakes and blah blah blah, so how come black men never get a pass for the mistakes they've likewise made?

Of course, you have mature women who were married or in long term relationships and things didn't work out. It happens. However, there's nothing stopping me as a man working with youth (which I have signed up for recently to help out at a local community centre) and helping them out in that way and many black men play a 'Cutty' role in that sense. But, the children I raise will be my own flesh and blood and blessings or problems that arise from that will be down to me and the mother without anything external.

Im not worried about what women are doing on their spare time, its always the same thing with all the guys here. Oh oh oh if a woman does this then why cant I? Its not a pissing contest man, as men I feel as though we should be worrying about what women are getting away with. This nice guy stuff also is getting played out to a point it just sounds like a excuse. If you dont wanna date single parents then its cool, but plz dont sit here and make it into a man vs woman thing or she passed up on a good guy. She just passed up on a man that she wasnt interested in, nothing more, nothing less. Maybe the nikka that got the cheeks is nice also that looks better or is maybe even more nice. You never know.

The fact you view men like you as a scapegoat for women that been used and abuse really shows a lot about your mind frame. Once again the nice guy complex. You said she might lure me into thinking she gonna have kids, what if she doesnt? Its not always the worst Scenario guys. Seems the only thing stopping yall from dating single mother isnt standards, but fear. The fear of being played and left broken. Im not taking shots at you I respect your opinion on the matter and much props on the mentoring but I just get tired of hearing the worst case scenario all the time.

 

[twan83]

Yup, you can raise a child from age 2 to 10. Mom decides its over and you have no legal grounds to see that child.

Sent from royalty breh

that's the only thing i fukking hate just cuz u and her dont work out y u gotta cut me out the kid life when they see u as a father

that's the big risk u take though

 

[Just like bruddas]

Actually my parents benn married for 30 years, unlkke you i grew up in a great environment, private schools, surburban life not ratchet ass orange new jersey.

Lol at these insults look at me then look at you, you dirty midget ass fake muslim wifing single moms, cant even keep your min wage job at pepsi azz nukka. Dont compare your ratchet poor lifestyle to mine.

Bringing up post counts oh no how original, nikka im at work right now getting paid to post.


Again with the ducktales, i went to visit a friend from university and never been buffalo or niagara falls usa so she came and directed me, im sorry to dissapoint you but the only money i spent was on gas my lunch and groceries for mysekf. Im not you will styles, im not a broke negro living in the hood with no way out,.

I have never trapped a chick

Come with some new relevant material midget

Sent from royalty breh

You keep bring up my background and where Im from like its a bad thing, first off Im from newark which is a lot worst then orange. Second Im doing just fine with no criminal background, kids, Im in great shape and I have money. Im living breh. Now look at me and look at yourself. Someone that came from the gutter of NJ with 0 abortions, 0 stds, 0 felonies and was making decent money while looking at life and relationships with a open mind and then we have you, from a great environment (so you say) with 4 stds, 3 abortions and credit card fraud who is still bitter over puss that he was sharing. Who really lost?

not I


You had all of that and yet you still fukked it. Putting white women on the pedestal and look where it got you, but this is what happen when you forget who you are. Im pretty sure your parents didnt swim all the way to Canada so you can fukking these nasty ass chicks and have babies every where and develop a complex against youre own kind. When was the last time you spoke with other blacks besides ya parents and us on the internet Just some white washed rude boi with serious self-hate issues, you dont even date ya own kind, Jamaican women which is the best kind. Btw when you get a woman pregnant first before the wedding and hoping she will stay is trapping btw. Other wise she would have kept it and you would be a lot happier now

 

[Just like bruddas]

Yup, you can raise a child from age 2 to 10. Mom decides its over and you have no legal grounds to see that child.

Sent from royalty breh

or everything can work out, you and her have some more kids, yall raise them as a family and everyone is happy. Forgot about that one

 

[twan83]

or everything can work out, you and her have some more kids, yall raise them as a family and everyone is happy. Forgot about that one

so far so good here

 

[Just like bruddas]

so far so good here

Its always good to weigh out both outcomes. Not every scenario will be the worst scenario.

hope it works out for you breh

 

[cleanface coney]

my lil cousin daddy wasnt never in her life
my aunt ex boyfiend been in her life for yeeeeaarrs n they not even together no more
bought her her first car for college n everything

if you a real cat you gone look out for the kid if you really care
you not obligated but if you a real nikka you not just gone deal witta woman and not her child...thats phony imo

 

[DaRealness]

Im not worried about what women are doing on their spare time, its always the same thing with all the guys here. Oh oh oh if a woman does this then why cant I? Its not a pissing contest man, as men I feel as though we should be worrying about what women are getting away with. This nice guy stuff also is getting played out to a point it just sounds like a excuse. If you dont wanna date single parents then its cool, but plz dont sit here and make it into a man vs woman thing or she passed up on a good guy. She just passed up on a man that she wasnt interested in, nothing more, nothing less. Maybe the nikka that got the cheeks is nice also that looks better or is maybe even more nice. You never know.

The fact you view men like you as a scapegoat for women that been used and abuse really shows a lot about your mind frame. Once again the nice guy complex. You said she might lure me into thinking she gonna have kids, what if she doesnt? Its not always the worst Scenario guys. Seems the only thing stopping yall from dating single mother isnt standards, but fear. The fear of being played and left broken. Im not taking shots at you I respect your opinion on the matter and much props on the mentoring but I just get tired of hearing the worst case scenario all the time.

I'm not sure what more you want me to say.

I never said ANYTHING was a pissing contest at all, but what women do ALSO has to be taken into account in order to get the full picture. That's why I used the word "many" and not "all" when referring to chicks who pass up on guys for different reasons. I said that there are also women who have been in stable relationships and shyt didn't work out. See my post again. I never said a bad word against them, did I? So why not take into account everything I said instead of being selective?

I don't have a "complex" and my state of mind and way of thinking works for me.

Even if I simply said I didn't want to date a single mother and left it at that, you and others still would have had a problem with that alone (hence why these debates even exist at all)....tell me I'm lying?

No, it's not always a worse case scenario....but it happens nonetheless. Even if it didn't happen at all, I still do not want to date a single mother as I want my own children. You say it's a fear and not a standard. OK, you're entitled to your own view (even though it's fallacious when directed at me), but even if everything I said was totally fear based....what would be wrong with wanting to protect and safeguard myself from the possibility anyway? Don't I have a right to say what I want and don't want and stick with it? How does that affect you or anyone else for that matter? But it's not fear on my part at all, it's just something I choose not to embark on and have always felt that way even when I was a lot younger. If that means I have a bad "mind frame", then you know what, it's no big deal. The earth isn't gonna drop off its axis because of it. There's other guys out there who probably have what you might say is a "good mind frame" that single mothers can live happily ever after with, it just won't be me. No amount of shaming language is gonna change the way I feel either.

 

[cleanface coney]

fake nice guys...thats a good way to put it bro