Raising Another Man's Child

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yeah lets all listen to the black man in china dating the shin meys and fei langs:beli:
ah yes because I've never dated a black woman before. Yea I've lived my whole life in China. who knew.

1.brady bunch was a blended family, it wasnt some simp wifing a single mom, it was a man with his own 3 kids marrying a chick with her own 3 kids.
It was just an example, do I have to list a row of tv shows?


2. black men are looked down upon where? black women are the ones sleeping with tavarias and quintarious, you dont see jamal in it, or raymond aspiring engineer deserting their seeds
who's the majority? highlighting that minority doesn't make it better.

3. Its not my problem, chicks popping kids out of wedlock and because im a black man i have to step p to the plate for the community :childplease: let that nygga be in the system in 10-15 years aint my son
it takes 2 to make kids. but yea my point exactly...community. shiet fukk that shyt, who needs it :childplease: :snoop:

4. the majority of baby fathers that are in the picture even if they see their squirt once a month, are getting in that punani, majority of single moms deep down dream of a family with the nikka who bust in them raw.
oh really...ask some of the folks here raised in single parent homes how true that is?
 

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I've never heard of white men (who pretty much have the strongest sense of community) having a problem raising other women's kids tho. They even have tv shows based around it....like the Brady Bunch.

"not our problem" .....that's exactly what the problem is, and why black men are looked down upon, and seen as unfit to lead a household let alone a community, let alone a successful country. That ol saying "Once you go black, you're going to be a single mother" rings a bell.

That's why a lot of men reading this right now don't have any fathers figures. Because some bytch ass nikka was talkin about "that's not my problem".

I think the OP should take advice from people over 28. if you're listening to a 21 year olds advice on this matter......lol.

and nikkas talkin about "the BD can slide back in whenever he wants" when did yall dad ever come back to do that? :heh:

I beg to differ. Cacs, and by cacs, I mean upper middle class white folk, Mitt Romney type white folk.....Brad will get alot of :ld: from his parents if he brings home Lisa who has two kids out of wedlock. The second Lisa leaves the house after dinner, they'll be :aicmon:


And by other cultures, I meant Irish, Italians, Indians, Chinese, Japanese, Arabs. I dont even have to search for data. I just know of GP that men in Bombay or Mumbai aren't wifing up Indian chicks that have two kids already.


And for the record, I dont hate single mothers. They just have baggage. Its wrong for them to try to put that baggage on someone who has a clean slate. If you have two kids, go find a dude with two kids. Both of yall got a bunch of brats, you're perfect for each other :skip:
 

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I beg to differ. Cacs, and by cacs, I mean upper middle class white folk, Mitt Romney type white folk.....Brad will get alot of :ld: from his parents if he brings home Lisa who has two kids out of wedlock. The second Lisa leaves the house after dinner, they'll be :aicmon:

Didn't Jeb Bush marry some latina that had a kid? I don't believe that one bit, I bet if you looked up the stats white women were remarrying at the highest rate. As for other races, like I said, cacs have a pretty strong sense of community compared to most. I have no problems admitting that.

Asians and Middle Easterners are terrible with the whole BM vs Virgin thing tho. But who cares about them, I'm talking about America aka the most progressive country in the world, in fact the fact that THEY think that way should almost certainly tell us our mentality should be the opposite LOL.
 

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Sohh... Back around 2008, me and this chick became good friends, used to flirt but nothing serious at all cuz we both had a bf/gf.

Mid 2009, she gets pregnant by the same cat. She ends up having the baby which ultimately puts a strain on their relationship, and they split. When the baby is about 5 months, I break up with my girlfriend, and like 2 days later im in the box. We fool around with the idea for a bit then end up getting together a few months later.

We broke up, got back, broke up, blah blah... son was still taking care of his seed though and I had it made... I could slide through and kick it with her and the girl without having any financial obligations/had the freedom to bounce whenever.

The problem now is, now that we both have degrees, she wants me to get realllll serious; taking that "next" step, shacking up, all this shyt. All this is happening while the BD is slowly doing less and less as a father.

Long story short, I feel that if I get more serious with shorty, the BD is gonna completely leave and this will become MY CHILD. Crazy shyt is, my life aint too much different; I didn't know that my pops wasn't my pops until last year, cuz the nikka raised me since I was 3 . I dont know if I have the heart to do it though, brehs..


What should I do :what::snoop:

:wow::wow::wow:
 

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actually it's about 50/50. those stats are lookin :huhldup:

also, you can't help who you fall in love with and if she so happens to have a child, who the fukk cares.

You can help who you fall in love. I know I would never fall in love with a crack head because I would never date a crack head just like I would never seriously date a single mother.

Who cares if she has a child? Dont you realize that each child costs $300,000 to raise from year 1-18 and thats not including college.

http://blogs.wsj.com/economics/2012/06/14/cost-to-raise-a-child-around-300000-not-including-college/

Why would a man want to signup to pay $300,000+ to raise another man's child?


You Simp Azz Manginas disgust me.
 

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Didn't Jeb Bush marry some latina that had a kid? I don't believe that one bit, I bet if you looked up the stats white women were remarrying at the highest rate. As for other races, like I said, cacs have a pretty strong sense of community compared to most. I have no problems admitting that.

Asians and Middle Easterners are terrible with the whole BM vs Virgin thing tho. But who cares about them, I'm talking about America aka the most progressive country in the world, in fact the fact that THEY think that way should almost certainly tell us our mentality should be the opposite LOL.

Jeb Bush's son is his biological son. He just happens to look like a fukkin Colombian.

You can always find exceptions but, I'm telling you, no upstanding cac family is happy that their son is marrying some woman with 1-2 kids, trust me :stopitslime: It aint just something black men dislike, this permeates all cultures. No man who's a good catch should be cleaning up some other dude's mess. If you over 35, or divorced, or have kids yourself or if she's the best you can do, then yea....I understand it. But if you young and out here getting it, you doing it wrong.
 

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You can help who you fall in love. I know I would never fall in love with a crack head because I would never date a crack head just like I would never seriously date a single mother.

Who cares if she has a child? Dont you realize that each child costs $300,000 to raise from year 1-18 and thats not including college.

Cost to Raise a Child: Around $300,000, Not Including College - Real Time Economics - WSJ

Why would a man want to signup to pay $300,000+ to raise another man's child?


You Simp Azz Manginas disgust me.


Aint nobody here's single mom fork out 300k for you nikkas so stoppit. Broads can afford to take care of 2 kids, without even a paying fukking job now a days.
 

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Don't fatten frogs to feed snakes breh. :ufdup: No matter what you think or do....he will be able to slide in and out of yall life (and her vagina) whenever he feels like it.




Ask yourself how it will feel if you raise that seed most of its life and then suddenly dude wants to "have a relationship". You gonna be sitting at graduation party with 3 people at the parent's table. How that either gonna burn when the seed says "I wanna thank my two dads" even though you did most of the work?. :mjpls:

yo TS, listen to this man

Im not gonna tell you waht to do, because I dont know how good of a girl she is... how fine she is, and how much you love her.....those are all variables that only you know.

but make sure when you make your decision, you take this mans advice and look into the future...at the all the situtaions and possibilities that will arise 18+ years from now. dont just look at how your feel right now...make sure you are aware of all the potential problems that will come of this...be sure that your able to deal with this down the road...and make your decision based on that.
 

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Jeb Bush's son is his biological son. He just happens to look like a fukkin Colombian.

You can always find exceptions but, I'm telling you, no upstanding cac family is happy that their son is marrying some woman with 1-2 kids, trust me :stopitslime: It aint just something black men dislike, this permeates all cultures. No man who's a good catch should be cleaning up some other dude's mess. If you over 35, or divorced, or have kids yourself or if she's the best you can do, then yea....I understand it. But if you young and out here getting it, you doing it wrong.

That's the thing. MOST people have kids themselves and are over 30. It's like saying no woman wants a nikka with 3 kids, yet most of us probably got friends with 2 kids, 2 baby mommas and a gf right now.

We can bullshyt like broads aren't scooping up nikkas, but that's a lie. Single Mothers date and marry ALL the time. Let's not act like they're not just because you wouldnt.

Half yall nikkas probably would have been happy to have step dad when you were kids. Now you're adult and you're acting snotty about it.

I've dated women with kids, so long as it's not a shyt load of kids or more than 1 baby father, it doesn't really bother me. Trying to find a woman without kids post 25, is fukking hard nikka. This 2013, you cutting 60% of the dating pool out tryin to do that. :heh:

Jeb Bush's son is his biological son. He just happens to look like a fukkin Colombian.
dont he. :damnlol:
 

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Dont play anotha niqqas saved game homie. :snoop:

Start your own. :win:

This. But you have to keep in mind theres fairly large percentage of the male population guys is currently rasing kids that's not theirs. They say it could be around 10 to 15 percent but some say those estimates are conservative :deadrose:
 

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Don't fatten frogs to feed snakes breh. :ufdup: No matter what you think or do....he will be able to slide in and out of yall life (and her vagina) whenever he feels like it.




Ask yourself how it will feel if you raise that seed most of its life and then suddenly dude wants to "have a relationship". You gonna be sitting at graduation party with 3 people at the parent's table. How that either gonna burn when the seed says "I wanna thank my two dads" even though you did most of the work?. :mjpls:

i feel u on that cuz i dont put it past me at all. i knew what i was getting in when i got with her.
from what i saw he was no threat and still hasnt been a threat from what i saw im more of a threat to his wife when she told him YOU AINT shyt Y CANT YOU BE MORE LIKE HIM (referring to me) but u know shyt can happen and im not gonna shyt on wifey like that but at the same time i im not stupid and naive enough to know that can happen at any given time..

if she truly loves me she wont let it happen cuz if she did she never did give a damn bout me in the first place

all i can say is if that ever happened i will not have no regret cuz i was there raising her daughter with happiness and it was a great enjoyment

I WILL JUST NEVER WANNA HAVE ANYTHING TO DO WITH THE WOMAN PERIOD.

i dont let fear scare me away of a potential good relationship if i feel another dude aint shyt compared too me and what i bring to the table cuz damn it I BRING ALOT AND OFFER ALOT TO A WOMAN and if she dont realize that shyt

SHE CAN KICK ROCKS AND ITS HER LOST.

I wanna thank my two dads
my daughter knows she does has to dad's but has said flat out my DADDY (me) takes care of me and loves me :win:
MY DAD just comes and goes when i see him :ooh:
 

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That's the thing. MOST people have kids themselves and are over 30. It's like saying no woman wants a nikka with 3 kids, yet most of us probably got friends with 2 kids, 2 baby mommas and a gf right now.

We can bullshyt like broads aren't scooping up nikkas, but that's a lie. Single Mothers date and marry ALL the time. Let's not act like they're not just because you wouldnt.

Half yall nikkas probably would have been happy to have step dad when you were kids. Now you're adult and you're acting snotty about it.

I've dated women with kids, so long as it's not a shyt load of kids or more than 1 baby father, it doesn't really bother me. Trying to find a woman without kids post 25, is fukking hard nikka. This 2013, you cutting 60% of the dating pool out tryin to do that. :heh:


dont he. :damnlol:

single moms populatr dating sites and struggle to get good decent men, ya thry will get p*ssy whipped willstyles type dudes but thats it

and please, child rates are actually down, there are more single childless women than ever before

Sent from royalty breh
 

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I wouldn't take her seriously but if that's what you want, so be it. Sounds to me like she's looking to put you in that provider role. Is that something you're looking to do? You're only 23 man. I would suggest you fully think this through. If this isn't a woman you're looking to be with for the foreseeable future it's not worth it.
 
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