Red Flags For People U Call “Friends”

[No..Money..Mo..Problems]

1. It's never there fault
2. Takes low-key shots at people
3. Drunks

Avoid someone with these traits it always ends bad.

 

[Tommy Sheppard]

if you don’t spend enough time with your kids don’t come around me.

 

[Nicole0416_718_929_646212]

People who have no code in general are a problem. They will do or say whatever as long as it makes them feel good about themselves. They’re easy to fold in a tight situation.

- Lacks empathy: always talking about themselves and their problems but when it comes to you, they minimize your problems and issues . Self centered

-always feels the need to covey their relationship status as if they can’t think for themselves (always need feedback.

-can’t be trusted; telling your business to other people. If other people feel comfortable talking reckless about you to them.
-Boring and repetitive af, delusions of self importance when they haven’t achieved shyt. But think they have a right to control your decisions.
-“give an inch they take a mile”
Type of people - asking for your money or time all the time
-people who talk too much small talk are annoying af. No deep intellectual conversations

- specific reasons for cutting off female associates : tendency to act two faced, too gossipy (drama focused, shallow and transparent -all convos are superficial, constant talk about men or sex, like it’s a competition). Showing off or acting real insecure when I come around their man; they spend money on themselves while their kids look bummy or dusty, bragging about bags but no investment in their lives. Gaming and conning men, then calling you out bc you don’t think like them

 

[MysticMonroe]

You already said a lot of what I would name. Its a red flag if it happens alot. Im a chick. But I have like 4 ex-friends that I dont talk to anymore because of the way they kept acting. Most of the time when I see red flags I rarely call them out, sometimes I do. But then the fake friend acts like your being sensitive. But I will mentally bookmark the moment for later.

But....

• always downplays your accomplishments/any positive events in your life.
• ruins happy moments for you.... something good happens then they are always there to hit you with bad news
• always cracks mean jokes on you but tries to play them off as a joke if you get upset, add another red flag if they do it infront of people
• talks about your accomplishments in a sarcastic/funny way as a way to hide their real feelings
• tells your business to other people
• your always asking to hang out and they keep making excuses
• not defending you against other friends
• friends joke with each other but a few friends I could tell weren't joking

 

[MaxPain]

Most people are about themselves, self preservation, and what suits their best interests in the long and short term.

You'll save yourself a lot of headache when you realize that outside of your immediate family (mother, father, brother, or sister) that most people are not going to have your back when life starts getting hectic.

A lot of people throw the word friend around to loosely.

You'll do good if you make 3 good friends in a lifetime. When I say friend I'm talking about someone whose house you can go sleep when you don't have anywhere else to go, someone who will buy you food when you are broke and hungry, someone who will help you get a job when you're jobless, someone whose going to come through and put money on your books or post your bail when you locked up, someone whose going to come fight beside you known both of y'all about to take an azz whipping, and such.

Most people aren't built to fool with no one who isn't their immediate family on that level.

I’ve done all the above for friends.

Im such a good friend

 

[Luck]

Breh you nailed everything...

Only thing I can add, which has already been somewhat stated is stay away from people who always find a way to be in some drama / nonsense. nikka I’m goin in my mid thirties, I got have time for dumb shyt and people who stay in dumb shyt.

And this one might be selfish but I stay away from miserable ass nikkas too. I’m not a therapist and all I can do is tell em figure the shyt out and keep em at arms length. I feel like no one is dealt the best hand outside of mfs that’ll are born into it, so figure the shyt out.

 

[Cryptocurrency Scarface]

why having not a car?

 

[Raw Lyrics]

if you don’t spend enough time with your kids don’t come around me.

Underrated post.

 

[Amused Mastery]

I don’t trust dudes who are on that gossip/chatty-patty nonsense. If you talk about other dudes behind their back I’m assuming that you’re doing the same thing to me. Plus people that engage in that often have nothing really going for themselves.

 

[WSFGDan]

 

[Zero]

But half of this applies to yall

 

[Ya Sinning Mane]

Taking to long when I’m trien to do drugs with u
Is my hugest pet peeve

Idc bout all that other petty shyt.thats your life.u handle that

 

[Rekkapryde]

People who have no code in general are a problem.

this and loyalty are the 2 most important to me.

 

[Nicole0416_718_929_646212]

this and loyalty are the 2 most important to me.

Yes! Facts. There can't be one without the other.

 

[Nicole0416_718_929_646212]

Taking to long when I’m trien to do drugs with u
Is my hugest pet peeve

Idc bout all that other petty shyt.thats your life.u handle that

... I'm not even going to state the obvious ^^^