The truth of the matter is most men can get a relationship, but also most men were't the ideal man for their woman, their woman had to "evolve their requirements" to paraphrase Barry O. For me fukk all that, call it pride, hubris or what have you but I'm not committing to or being with a woman who didn't always have a thing for men of my ilk, or doesn't fukk with me in a vacuum so to speak. She might like my car, the way I live and the jokes I make, but if we don't share world views, if she wouldn't hang out with me just to talk it's a waste of time. Most men don't acknowledge this because they don't want to be alone, and it's a substantial slight to their ego.
To the bolded many aren't their wives 10th pick. The best indicator of what a woman really wants is her past choices is men, but that's why women try to bury the past and tell men their insecure for asking about it. If I'm dealing with a woman and her exes were nothing like me, the relationship is either on borrowed time, or she's come up something serious.
I've ALWAYS wanted a wife, not in the literal legal definition, but a woman who carries herself respectfully, has a level head, down to earth, independent with out constantly patting herself on the back for it, smart. Looks wise not ugly was really my only thing. As I've aged I've gotten into better shape so looks wise I'd need a 6+ but I still feel that's not crazy to ask.
Meanwhile a lot of broads assume they'll end up with tall, dark, handsome, cool, well off, in good shape, good at sex. And they come across those dudes (sex/fwb/flings), but they can't KEEP THEM, because they aren't on that level, and despite asking too much when they eventually scale it back to something more realistic that persisting feeling of "this isn't even what I really want" hence settling remains whether it's active and out-front, or deep seeded and dormant.
The bolded explains a large chunk of divorces in contemporary society, and is why I've always believe most should just die alone, because they refuse to be honest with themselves early enough to not be permanently damaged goods/lost causes