"Seeing me be loved out loud by a white man as a DSBW resonates with my community; it heals the world."

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y'all gotta understand ain't shyte changing just trying to talk bytches into acting right

nikkas will never shame black women into making themselves exclusive to the community/culture

whatever community/culture has a grip on the fortune of this planet is who they will endure whatever measure of war to get next to

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[HarlemHottie]

Nah, I think we need to get out of this mode.

its causing black people to be stuck in shytty mindsets because the blame gets shifted to something else.


These women have deep feelings of inadequacy and possess esteem disorders.

They need to recognize and fix that and not put the onus on factors out of their control.

You speaking theory, I'm speaking current facts. Don't mistake that for advocacy.

 

[Gloxina]

The younger women in my family got they bm young. That was my advice bc I been seen this shyt coming. Like @Gloxina, I went to prep school where fully half of the bm only messed with white girls. I saw the play and passed the game along to mine.

My niece just got engaged to a young IT breh who's house shopping. I think I did good since her mother certainly didn't game her up. Since the divorce from my brother, she's floundering.

And THAAAAAAAT’s the issue!

May your blessings continue to flow for helping the youth!!!


I had an honest chat with my little cousin before she left for school because we all knew her mother wouldn’t (also divorced from someone in my family ). Her grandmother literally looked at me and said “____, please talk to her. It looks like her mother is too busy trying to compete with younger women to train her daughter.”

But that’s my Princess so I told her I was already going to have a real chat with her whether her parents liked it or not

Pops won’t like it all from a woman’s perspective, but it will counter whatever BS her mother may have put in her head. I need her to lock down one of these enterprising young men @ her HBCU

 

[Lord Beasley]

Who cares. Who is paying for weirdo nikkas to post this shyt???

 

[Gloxina]

This is true....white folks know how to scout for true potential. Becky and Brad will be with us if it benefits them or they see a financial and social benefit...even potential benefit.

Exactly! If you ain’t around them/don’t have financial or social benefits or access you won’t get it.

That’s part of where all that “oh, you’re different” shyt comes into play. You have enough cachet that makes you tolerable or useful in their eyes.

 

[Gloxina]

I mean…aren’t older black men with disposable income getting shamed for dating younger women(regardless of race)? Older wealthy black tricks already do go for younger black IG model types. No? Not saying it’s right, but it’s kinda already happening.

I’m not talking about tricks. I’m talking about normal brehs who use some junior high memories as an excuse to disqualify all Black women they establish themselves. It’s just an excuse to not date BW.

There are BW under 30 and under 35 who are trying to find a Black husband but dudes talk about the girls who curved them at 20 and only want to get serious with the lighter or other race girls when they get on in their late 20s or 30s, but them same girls weren’t in your face when you were building.

 

[Devil Plisken…CMS]

Nah, I think we need to get out of this mode.

Not up to you to decide

 

[Gloxina]

Basically this boils down to white men dictating beauty standards in the western world, and consciously or subconsciously women competing for and feeling validated by his choosing of them. Even a “my black is beautiful” self loving woman, can’t help but feel how important it is to be validated by the “tastemakers” so to speak. And YES, that has everything to do with being loved by a white man, being more important than being loved by a breh. You say she wouldn’t have gotten this much hate from white women, if she was with a breh. But she wouldn’t have also gotten this much love from BW and the world, if she was with a regular old breh. White male social capitol just means more, unless the breh is an athlete or world famous artists.

I totally see what you’re saying and you aren’t wrong, but in the context of this show, being picked —PERIOD— is the goal.

If no one had a visceral reaction to her being liked by a white dude, it wouldn’t have gotten this big. If the white girls looked at her and shrugged their shoulders, this shyt would’ve blown over. It blew up because everyone was saying that he must be faking it. So she’s trying to defend herself and her beauty to THEM.
She doesn’t have enough game to understand how to deal with negative attention from white women. So this is how it’s playing out.

 

[Falcozer]

I totally see what you’re saying and you aren’t wrong, but in the context of this show, being picked —PERIOD— is the goal.

If no one had a visceral reaction to her being liked by a white dude, it wouldn’t have gotten this big. If the white girls looked at her and shrugged their shoulders, this shyt would’ve blown over. It blew up because everyone was saying that he must be faking it. So she’s trying to defend herself and her beauty to THEM.
She doesn’t have enough game to understand how to deal with negative attention from white women. So this is how it’s playing out.

This Nicolandria thing became so big mostly because black women on social media were campaigning hard for it. The so-called white women hating on her you speak of is you creating a fake narrative, there are barely any white people talking about Nicolandria, and most of them talk about them positively, including white women. The reason why she said this in OP's video is because she's basically regurgitating what her fanbase has been saying and hoping for the past 2 months.

 

[Mugenight]

Peak Mental illness in a vessel.

 

[HarlemHottie]

And THAAAAAAAT’s the issue!

May your blessings continue to flow for helping the youth!!!

I try to pay it forward. I'll give the game to anyone who listens, and have.

I had an honest chat with my little cousin before she left for school because we all knew her mother wouldn’t (also divorced from someone in my family ). Her grandmother literally looked at me and said “____, please talk to her. It looks like her mother is too busy trying to compete with younger women to train her daughter.”

But that’s my Princess so I told her I was already going to have a real chat with her whether her parents liked it or not

Pops won’t like it all from a woman’s perspective, but it will counter whatever BS her mother may have put in her head. I need her to lock down one of these enterprising young men @ her HBCU

That's my princess too, the only child I ever raised, ppl think me and my brother are her parents cuz she look just like me but ls. From the day she was born, me and moms been ON IT. Sent her to Harlem School of The Arts. Got her violin lessons. She found my pills when she was little and asked what they were and I told her they were vitamins to make sure I don't make little hers. She stayed with us for summers so she witnessed me and my man and the lovely dynamic and wanted that for herself.

We had a planning session about five yrs ago where I laid out her options. She made her choice, a peer her own age, and made it happen. It's cute cuz they're both half ADOS/ half WI. I talked her through what she didn't get, but for the most part, we seem to have instilled it young cuz she the mama of her friend group, the one with the most sense, the one who solves problems.

She's amazing, despite her mother, who got into finance on my mother's recommendation but never put a dime into her daughter's education. And the mom be hating on my niece (who looks NOTHING like or her side whatsoever). And her mom hated on my mother. And her sister, HBCU graduate, hated on me and almost got her ass whooped at a party by my homegirls. Veritable generations of hate.

The beauty of extended family is that, even if your parents don't put you on, somebody will.

To the bold, this needs to be put in the largest font. Is this how men should be gauging marriageability, a woman who has same generation relatives, bm, who marry? Do we have the keys? Should men filter for this instead of the broader 'girls who come from two parent households'? @Wiseborn

 

[RennisDeynolds]

Olandria jumped the fukking shark. This is pure pandering while wack ass Nic just sits their with his roblox skull and smiles

 

[Wiseborn]

Something needs to be said for how the police tend to side with the white man in these situations. Stacey Dash found out the hard way as well.

race soliders always race solider Black Man or woman if you call the cops on someone if you're Black there's a 40% chance that you will go to jail not the person that you called them on.

Micheal Harriott when he was still with The Root wrote a piece saying if I'm in trouble Dont Call the Police because there was a rash of cases of the police being called to deal with a distrubed Black person and the cops shot them.

 

[Phitz]

Eating Indian a$$?

 

[Wiseborn]

Coli brehs confrim for me isn't it super weird to do a tik Tok dance with a woman?

Maybe I'm old but it's just something Men tend not to do.