Self Actualization, working, staying focused, with no burnout. Let's get a game plan

[Poh SIti Dawn]

FCB - Foote, Cone & Belding. One of the biggest ad agencies.

Got an offer to another ad agency under Publicis, which is kind of a big deal. Last week some lady from HBO Sports hit me up. Replied to her, hoping for a reply soon.

Nah, I don't bring work home. Luckily.

Me and my (ex) lady ended things today. Really sucks. She was younger, concerned/not concerned with things that often clashed with mine. Our values/priorities just weren't aligned. I think I knew this would happen early on, but the ride was real nice. It didn't end so well. Sucks being the nice guy, often to a fault. Could have been like one of the fellas, smash and left, but that's just not me. I really took a liking to her. I know eventually things will be okay...

Thanks for the reminder breh...it's much needed nowadays

Hope everyone else is doing great! Try your best to hold on to each moment. The times move so quickly...

Learn something new everyday, I'll check it out.

Congratulations! Let her take her time to reply considering how you're feeling.

That's good!

Bummer. Yeah, that's how it can be. Idk being the nice guy is great, you have to learn how to play your game, and also realize that it's best being nice because you are at peace with yourself, most people aren't, and you gave her a chance. I'm sure she'll grow to appreciate that and miss it.

No worries, you're pretty good dude, you just don't realize it that an opportunity has opened up for you to gain more time to just relax, fall back, analyze life, and make the changes that you want!

You'll be good dude!

 

[ⒶⓁⒾⒶⓈ]

Keep it simple.


Breathe from the diaphragm. Make this a habit, breath is the FIRST source of nutrition in life.

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I completely quit processed sugars and been trying this lately.. it seems logical..the oxygen changes the PH of the blood and pathogenic bacteria cant survive in O2 rich enviroments...ill post updates

 

[IShotTheSheriff]

I completely quit processed sugars and been trying this lately.. it seems logical..the oxygen changes the PH of the blood and pathogenic bacteria cant survive in O2 rich enviroments...ill post updates

this video never actually explains the method...

but yes, breathing is the first thing that lets us know we're "alive" and our main source of nutrition! very underrated in modern society.

 

[SheriffOG]

Something that has improved my life recently is having a notebook (pen and paper type) writing down to do's, ideas and general shyt that comes to mind has free up so much brain power on my day to day

combined with routinely working out, good eating and meditation I have improved my focus 5 fold.

now just gotta get my efficient use of free time up. Salute.

 

[Poh SIti Dawn]

I'm awake. My daily routine during the week. 10 minute meditation, say a prayer thanking god for life, sit ups, then some breakfast

Let's get this day started y'all..

 

[4Eyez]

Something that has improved my life recently is having a notebook (pen and paper type) writing down to do's, ideas and general shyt that comes to mind has free up so much brain power on my day to day

combined with routinely working out, good eating and meditation I have improved my focus 5 fold.

now just gotta get my efficient use of free time up. Salute.

I use to do this ALL the time. It kept me and my thoughts/ideas straight and concise. I use to write down all my dreams too. I love poetry, so I use to try to write rhymes and stuff. Had books on poetry and all that...I have to be more consistent man. Actually, I still carry the notebook with me in my bag on the regular. Just hardly write in it anymore...

We gotta do the things that feel right to us. I say this, but I don't take action. Gotta take more initiative. Salute breh!

I'm awake. My daily routine during the week. 10 minute meditation, say a prayer thanking god for life, sit ups, then some breakfast

Let's get this day started y'all..

I seriously gotta get out of bed when I wake up in the morning. I usually just stay in bed. Can't lie, been way too attached to my phone lately too. This sounds like an excellent way to start your day.

My ideal daily routine is to wake up super early. 5:30 ish. Go to the park near me and cycle around or run. Two completely different things mentally, so I gotta decide. Maybe rest/chill/daydream/meditate for about an hour. Go home. Shower, eat. Head to work.

Might sound like a lot, but I use to do it all the time when I lived with an ex of mine nearly two years ago.

Once I'm free from work do something productive as well. Maybe write more, pursue my interest in photography, maybe workout more. Not sure yet. I can switch it up regularly. Use the last hour of my day to my leisure. Have a healthy good night sleep. I have this printed and taped on my wall.

You motivated me to get on this, thanks brother! Morning to everyone!
Lee Fields got me feeling great lately.

 

[blotter]

I completely quit processed sugars and been trying this lately.. it seems logical..the oxygen changes the PH of the blood and pathogenic bacteria cant survive in O2 rich enviroments...ill post updates

pH of saliva can change over time too, helping teeth become stronger by not constantly being broken down by acids present in a less than optimal environment. ever notice how babies' saliva is clear?

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motivation and striving for improvement is great, but if we're being real our hang-ups and fears are also an expression of intelligence and should be respected. replace fear with whatever you'd like in this, same theory:

The crazy wisdom approach to fear is to not regard it purely as a hang-up, but to realize that fear is intelligent. It has a message of its own. Fear is worth respecting. If we dismiss fear as an obstacle and try to ignore it, then we might end up having accidents. In other words, fear is a very wise message.

You can’t con fear, or frighten fear. You have to respect fear. You might try to tell yourself that it’s not real, that it’s false, but such an approach is questionable. It is better to develop some kind of respect, realizing that neurosis is also a message, rather than garbage that you should just throw away. The whole starting point for working with fear and other emotions is the idea of samsara and nirvana, confusion and enlightenment, being one. Samsara is not regarded as a nuisance alone, but it has its own potent message that is worthy of respect.

Fear contains insight as well as the panicky blind quality we often associate with it. The element of panic has a deaf and dumb quality—you know: doing the best you can, in spite of your fear, hoping everything will be okay. But fear without hope seems to be something very insightful. If you give up your hope of attaining something, then tuning into fear is tuning into its insightful quality. Then, skillful means or action arises spontaneously out of the fear itself. Fear can be extremely resourceful rather than representing hopelessness. It is the opposite of hopelessness, in fact.

skillfull means - Upaya - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

 

[4Eyez]

Yesterday night was super rough for me brehs...them super lonely feelings crept up on me. I promised myself I wouldn't go through something like this again after my last breakup. I know it's a silly promise, but I thought I would be able to hang tight.

Dunno why, but I've been waking up at 4AM for like the last week or so. Looked at my phone, she texted me close to 3AM today saying:

"I honestly feel like I made a mistake, I'm so sorry. I know you don't want to hear this. I'm just so confused, I don't feel like I'm ready"

I texted her back:

"You're only thinking about yourself at this point. Which is fine I guess, but you told me you're not willing to try anymore. Sounds like you have other plans already. I tried my best to talk it out but you didn't budge. Yeah, we might lose time with each other, but that was a risk I was willing to take since the very beginning. You don't care about me enough, it's very clear."

She hasn't replied


Sorry for derailing this thread brehs...just having a hard time coping with this. Sucks cause we're in the same internship, so we'll have to see each other and our mutual friends every Wednesday. It's going to be super awkward those days. I hope she's mature enough to not be flirting or doing dumb shyt while I'm there with her.

Happy Friday brehs

 

[blotter]

waking up early and becoming rooted in whatever your intention is might be the best thing we can do for ourselves. that in between wake/sleep/dream state allows us to bring conscious and unconscious parts of ourselves together. it's possible to do at any time, but a lot of traditions point out that ~4-6 am window

you're already manifesting her acting silly, let that go breh. keep waking up early and take that time to set your intention

 

[4Eyez]

waking up early and becoming rooted in whatever your intention is might be the best thing we can do for ourselves. that in between wake/sleep/dream state allows us to bring conscious and unconscious parts of ourselves together. it's possible to do at any time, but a lot of traditions point out that ~4-6 am window

you're already manifesting her acting silly, let that go breh. keep waking up early and take that time to set your intention

Thanks brother.

Was gonna give you and Killimanjaro +rep, but I just realized I can't. Probably don't have enough posts or something. Been on since the sohh days though...

No respeck outchea

 

[Poh SIti Dawn]

I seriously gotta get out of bed when I wake up in the morning. I usually just stay in bed. Can't lie, been way too attached to my phone lately too. This sounds like an excellent way to start your day.

My ideal daily routine is to wake up super early. 5:30 ish. Go to the park near me and cycle around or run. Two completely different things mentally, so I gotta decide. Maybe rest/chill/daydream/meditate for about an hour. Go home. Shower, eat. Head to work.

Might sound like a lot, but I use to do it all the time when I lived with an ex of mine nearly two years ago.

Once I'm free from work do something productive as well. Maybe write more, pursue my interest in photography, maybe workout more. Not sure yet. I can switch it up regularly. Use the last hour of my day to my leisure. Have a healthy good night sleep. I have this printed and taped on my wall.

You motivated me to get on this, thanks brother! Morning to everyone!
Lee Fields got me feeling great lately.

yeah forreal, put that down, screw this tech because it takes away from embracing reality.

That's good, warm up on them choices. Sounds like a great thing now.

U gonna start back up?

word, that will be good for u.

You're welcome brother. Morning, and night.

 

[Poh SIti Dawn]

Might as well give an update. I'm good, my shoulder seems to be healing, my legs are still weak so I'm holding off on running, maybe only swimming.

I'm in great spirits again since my burn out and I'm looking to better myself. I've got finals on tue and wed and then it's summer time.

I'm unclear of my objectives so far. For one I'm unsure of whether to allow destiny to lead me towards a new job or to gain more hours at the one I'm at now so that I can gain more experience at a restaurant.

Other than that, I'm great!

I am reading think and grow rich by Napoleon Hill at it's odd all kinds of opportunities to build are appearing.

Like yesterday an associate of mine who I play soccer with works at the main headquarters at adidas in germany and I am working towards obtaining an exchange program in Germany (it's the language I study) so that could lean towards an internship and if not just the awesome experience of studying in Germany. Plus I want to work on business, but I know school is the most important imo.

My cousin defined by life great he said that life gives me these little tastes of things, but then says "not yet, you still gotta work on it, but keep working", so I never want to give up on achieving piece and happiness and the rest because with the more happiness and self respect I gain, the more in life I gain. And so I want to invest in myself morally and by doing so acting to better the world around me.

Peace brehs, lets get better and strive for what it is that centers us in tranquility and stability.

 

[Poh SIti Dawn]

waking up early and becoming rooted in whatever your intention is might be the best thing we can do for ourselves. that in between wake/sleep/dream state allows us to bring conscious and unconscious parts of ourselves together. it's possible to do at any time, but a lot of traditions point out that ~4-6 am window

you're already manifesting her acting silly, let that go breh. keep waking up early and take that time to set your intention

Thank you, I needed this as well.

 

[4Eyez]

I got homework, gotta get to that, did my group project with my group, went to martial arts, home, ate, meditated, stretched, now focus on homework.

I'm leaning because I want to make a lot of money, but also I realize that I want to make a difference and I also want to be free and travel. My youth has to be used to travel I believe, and then my 30's things will start to get more in focus.

There's a Russian girl in my Linguistics class, I'll act like I'm looking the other way and I keep seeing her look at me, I need to take an opportunity to ask her about herself.

Anyway, I wanted to bump this because I started this thread and I want to reinforce the importance of encouraging each other, loving each other, and respecting each other.

We have so much, but our minds create problems for us to solve. Tell yourself that these problems aren't anywhere except for in your mind and dismiss them. Some things are inevitable, but we have friends and family to discuss with, most of the times they're little made up things.

I've started to choose to read wikipedia pages instead of the coli, so today was the first day and I enjoyed what I learned. I read about the Yakuza, the KGB, A german physicist that sold information to the Russians.

Right now I'm reading about Vladimir Lenin (need to get on my HW) but I read something encouraging and cool, and I didn't know it, but just to post something cool. Feel free to do the same...

Dunno how I didn't see this post.

What's your current major in school breh? What kind of martial art do you study?

Yeah, I feel like travelling is literally one of the most important things, ever. Have to do it more often. Alone as well, perhaps.

Wooord? Russian cutie? Killiaman about to be eating lol. I always hated universities when it comes to shorties though. Yeah, there's an abundance of them, but everyone is pretty much doing their own thing. Some come from work, some got friends to meet up with, some have children to pick up, etc. Outside of the chilly, large, and hollowish classrooms with the professor speaking over everyone, there's never really a time or place to just sit back and enjoy each others company.

100% agree. It's really easy to turn small things into an H-Bomb explosion within our mind. Before you overreact next time at an unfortunate situation perform some breathing techniques. Reflect on whats happening. You'll perceive and go into said event with a much clearer head.

I've been looking at interesting YouTube channels that touch on art, education, films, etc. Really enjoyed this breakdown of one of my favorite movies "Heat"


Wiki be taking me on a trip sometimes lol. I read some really dope shyt recently. The Psychology of music preference and the Big Five personality traits. It's kind of long or whatever, but after digesting all of it I was completely blown away. The fact that there has been studies which have proven the likelihood of an individual enjoying a specific kind of music based on their personality traits...is pretty bananas to me lol. Haven't done a thorough investigation, after all it is Wikipedia, but man was it dope to think about.

Keep moving forward brother. Sounds like you're in a good flow as of late. Hang on to it and try your best to hone it. It's so easy to let it go.

 

[Poh SIti Dawn]

Dunno how I didn't see this post.

What's your current major in school breh? What kind of martial art do you study?

Yeah, I feel like travelling is literally one of the most important things, ever. Have to do it more often. Alone as well, perhaps.

Wooord? Russian cutie? Killiaman about to be eating lol. I always hated universities when it comes to shorties though. Yeah, there's an abundance of them, but everyone is pretty much doing their own thing. Some come from work, some got friends to meet up with, some have children to pick up, etc. Outside of the chilly, large, and hollowish classrooms with the professor speaking over everyone, there's never really a time or place to just sit back and enjoy each others company.

100% agree. It's really easy to turn small things into an H-Bomb explosion within our mind. Before you overreact next time at an unfortunate situation perform some breathing techniques. Reflect on whats happening. You'll perceive and go into said event with a much clearer head.

I've been looking at interesting YouTube channels that touch on art, education, films, etc. Really enjoyed this breakdown of one of my favorite movies "Heat"


Wiki be taking me on a trip sometimes lol. I read some really dope shyt recently. The Psychology of music preference and the Big Five personality traits. It's kind of long or whatever, but after digesting all of it I was completely blown away. The fact that there has been studies which have proven the likelihood of an individual enjoying a specific kind of music based on their personality traits...is pretty bananas to me lol. Haven't done a thorough investigation, after all it is Wikipedia, but man was it dope to think about.

Keep moving forward brother. Sounds like you're in a good flow as of late. Hang on to it and try your best to hone it. It's so easy to let it go.

My major is linguistics and my other major is German. And I study muay thai.

Have you ever done it before brother? Go alone, Dont be afraid, its enjoyable and you meet people. Stay in hostels, you need this time to adventure.

Lool I'm not sure, tomorrow is finals. I'm thinking should I wait for her by the door before class and let her know what it is because she might finish her final before me or something and I don't wanna rush through mine but its basically the last day I might see her before summer starts. Yeah I feel you on that, you know I think you really have to catch em on the right day. Word, I was telling my friend that, just to have some female company would be really nice. I been so caught up in grinding and I've been smoked out that I ignored everything.

That's true. How are you doing getting over lil shawty? Has she hit u or nah?

Heat>>> ima check the video out later. I gotta study for this rawtid final.

Lool I can see that, that seems like an interesting article as well. Do you ever approach your job using psychology like advertising agency's do?

Thank you, you too bruv. Lemme know how life is going. I'm glad to hear. I'll have some things to post in here as well.

Stay up everybody, fill me in on things.

Peace