Serious question for the married men on the coli...

[Wise]

Now I know there's this whole notion of GMB and HOH on this site, but that tends to come up when we read about a woman cheating on her man or one who takes all the money from him. My question is intended to "normal" married couples.

Do you recommend marriage? If you could back, would you still get married?

Not that I have a woman in my life. but the problem I have is almost every married couple I see seem "fed up". They argue over the dumbest things, constantly. They don't seem happy. Life is basically the same routine. They gotta wake up early to make lunches for the kid and drop them off at daycare, school, grandma, work etc. It seems there's nothing fun going on in the lives of the spouses. They don't got time for the movies, restaurant, vacation, get together with friends, etc. They're tired of life and just lay back at home. Just order the other one around to get milk and the diapers.

Not that I'm a super savage, but how do you wake up every morning for the rest of your life to the same woman? Both physically and emotionally? After a while she might fall off in looks, but importantly, 10, 15, 20 years from now... what are the chances she'll be the same person you chose to get married with?

Do you cheat on your wife or ever have?

Things that cross my mind.

 

[Kobes Two Jerseys]

If I could have a family without getting married, I would have done it. But I wanted sons. So I dove in. Better than being a lonely old man though.

 

[ManxOfxThexYear]

I'd rather have a wife then a baby momma



But would I stop myself in the past? Nah, I found the only women who could handle my stupid ass plus have my daughter and life isn't great but it could be a whole lot worse. I love the woman, but if it was any other broad hell fukking nah.

 

[TNOT]

Now I know there's this whole notion of GMB and HOH on this site, but that tends to come up when we read about a woman cheating on her man or one who takes all the money from him. My question is intended to "normal" married couples.

Do you recommend marriage? If you could back, would you still get married?

Not that I have a woman in my life. but the problem I have is almost every married couple I see seem "fed up". They argue over the dumbest things, constantly. They don't seem happy. Life is basically the same routine. They gotta wake up early to make lunches for the kid and drop them off at daycare, school, grandma, work etc. It seems there's nothing fun going on in the lives of the spouses. They don't got time for the movies, restaurant, vacation, get together with friends, etc. They're tired of life and just lay back at home. Just order the other one around to get milk and the diapers.

Not that I'm a super savage, but how do you wake up every morning for the rest of your life to the same woman? Both physically and emotionally? After a while she might fall off in looks, but importantly, 10, 15, 20 years from now... what are the chances she'll be the same person you chose to get married with?

Things that cross my mind.

Do you recommend marriage? Yes

If you could back, would you still get married? Yes, I know some cats my age who aren't married, they still trying to do shyt we did 10 or 15 years ago, except they aren't the same person they were back then. We had this discussion about marriage last weekend, and them nikkas really think that if they don't get married they will miss out on all this p*ssy. I told them they are delusional, they're all average in looks, income, and earning potential, but feel like they will be limited in what they can do if they settle down.

As far as the routine shyt, that's the sacrifice you make as a parent, it's not about you anymore, it's about your kids. I have two kids under the age of 6 we still go out to eat, take vacations, all the shyt regular people do.

You're young.... you don't see it know... but eventually you'll want to have a greater purpose in life... something more than trying fuk these hoes at the drop of a dime...you just have to be honest with yourself when you realize it.

 

[Heafcliffe]

Now I know there's this whole notion of GMB and HOH on this site, but that tends to come up when we read about a woman cheating on her man or one who takes all the money from him. My question is intended to "normal" married couples.

Do you recommend marriage? If you could back, would you still get married?

Not that I have a woman in my life. but the problem I have is almost every married couple I see seem "fed up". They argue over the dumbest things, constantly. They don't seem happy. Life is basically the same routine. They gotta wake up early to make lunches for the kid and drop them off at daycare, school, grandma, work etc. It seems there's nothing fun going on in the lives of the spouses. They don't got time for the movies, restaurant, vacation, get together with friends, etc. They're tired of life and just lay back at home. Just order the other one around to get milk and the diapers.

Not that I'm a super savage, but how do you wake up every morning for the rest of your life to the same woman? Both physically and emotionally? After a while she might fall off in looks, but importantly, 10, 15, 20 years from now... what are the chances she'll be the same person you chose to get married with?

Things that cross my mind.

For me, potential bullshyt in my relationship/marriage were quelled because I:

1. Nurtured a relationship w/ my wife for almost 10 years. It was complete with ups and downs but we made it work.
2. Realized that I had to let go of the notion that my wife would remain a 10 for the duration. That was simply . This allowed me to delve further into who she was on the inside as well. It was at that point, I began to fully fall in love with her.
3. We married at an older age (our 30s). We got all the bullshyt out of systems.
4. When we argue (not matter how big), its just that. An argument! Not the end of the marriage.
5. Personally, I realize that I have too much to lose. My wife does so many "intangible" things that I don't even think about. Can't lose that.

We know the true test will be when we have kids but she knows I ain't the dude to dip on my responsibilities or cheat.

 

[Verbal Kint]

Marriage is great. Nothing like having a woman that excerpts everything about you and holds you down. Nothing like raising kids together. It's a beautiful thing. People unhappy in their marriage are usually dealing with selfishness in some form from one or both people. It ain't easy to get through the early stages but if you're committed to the marriage it's amazing

 

[Wise]

Expected some depressing answers

 

[Swirv]

Married brehs. Is your wife supportive of your endeavors?

 

[Wise]

bump

 

[Treblemaka]

I don't think most people are built for marriage. If you are naturally selfish person who hates to compromise DO NOT GET MARRIED. A lot of people get fed that Disney b*llshyt of what marriage is, it ain't all roses. It takes hard work and constant dedication. Both people have to be mature enough to compromise and communicate properly.

For me it's worth it. My Queen is my life partner someone I can build a dynasty with. Someone I know that when we pass on we'll have made the world a better place with our legacy. We don't always get along but I know she'd take a bullet for,me and vice versa. You have to know what you want in a woman and be man enough to handle that type of woman.

Ain't nothing wrong with being single out here, but don't get married just because you are lonely, or you want to look like the huxtables, or because she got a phat ass and the pu$$y good, it won't last. She has to have a soul worth being around.

 

[TNOT]

Married brehs. Is your wife supportive of your endeavors?

If they make sense, She has supported me on some shyt, and also told me to pump brakes on other stuff. She batting a 1000 right now.

 

[heart]

Now I know there's this whole notion of GMB and HOH on this site, but that tends to come up when we read about a woman cheating on her man or one who takes all the money from him. My question is intended to "normal" married couples.

Do you recommend marriage? If you could back, would you still get married?

Not that I have a woman in my life. but the problem I have is almost every married couple I see seem "fed up". They argue over the dumbest things, constantly. They don't seem happy. Life is basically the same routine. They gotta wake up early to make lunches for the kid and drop them off at daycare, school, grandma, work etc. It seems there's nothing fun going on in the lives of the spouses. They don't got time for the movies, restaurant, vacation, get together with friends, etc. They're tired of life and just lay back at home. Just order the other one around to get milk and the diapers.

Not that I'm a super savage, but how do you wake up every morning for the rest of your life to the same woman? Both physically and emotionally? After a while she might fall off in looks, but importantly, 10, 15, 20 years from now... what are the chances she'll be the same person you chose to get married with?

Things that cross my mind.

There is a lot of truth about your perception of marriage BUT some of its misinformed.

My wife was my baby mom first. Me being broke as hell trying to get in pharmacy school with a brand new baby, BM trying to be an accountant. I had to do a LOT of growing up. I was whoring a lot before I matured. I was like let me trying being in a monogamous relationship with my son's mother and its been great.

Now we're both successful, two boys, house, etc.. But there a always war brewing in a marriage just gotta pick your battles. Married people argue over silly things but its harmless most of the time. We have date nights, mini vacations and family vacations. After 9 years of being together and 3 years of marriage she still does it for me...

To me marriage brings stability and assurance that someone has your back. As far as your comment about waking up to the same woman. I mean if you still wanna fukk like a bachelor while being married then your marriage wont work.

I don't recommend nor am I advocating cheating because I see so many married men trying to have mistresses and sideline hoez and it ends up costing them everything. You pay a whore to leave not to fukk, so if you go that route out of boredom and/curiosity at least be smart about it. I recommend marriage but it isnt for everyone.

 

[Wise]

bump.

I actually expected a lot of responses

 

[b_b]

If I could have a family without getting married, I would have done it. But I wanted sons. So I dove in. Better than being a lonely old man though.

Pretty much this. You can know someone a long fukkin time and as soon as you wife them prepare for a new level of crazy. Quadruple that when they have a kid.

 

[benjamin]

My married life is full of drama, ups and downs, good times & bad times and even though it's hard at times, being surrounded by the women in my life and my kids at night make it all worth it. I can't tell another man if marriage is worth it because all situations are different but for me, it's the only thing.