Serious question for the married men on the coli...

[Heafcliffe]

Married brehs. Is your wife supportive of your endeavors?

Yeah, at least the plausible ones. She will on a nikka on the ones that may need more development.

 

[Jean Jacket]

Marriage brings expectations. It can turn best friends into worst enemies. You benefit from marriage when the standards of the relationship are static and agreed upon based on goals, morals, and transparency/honesty.

 

[Clayton Endicott]

For me, potential bullshyt in my relationship/marriage were quelled because I:

1. Nurtured a relationship w/ my wife for almost 10 years. It was complete with ups and downs but we made it work.
2. Realized that I had to let go of the notion that my wife would remain a 10 for the duration. That was simply . This allowed me to delve further into who she was on the inside as well. It was at that point, I began to fully fall in love with her.
3. We married at an older age (our 30s). We got all the bullshyt out of systems.
4. When we argue (not matter how big), its just that. An argument! Not the end of the marriage.
5. Personally, I realize that I have too much to lose. My wife does so many "intangible" things that I don't even think about. Can't lose that.

We know the true test will be when we have kids but she knows I ain't the dude to dip on my responsibilities or cheat.

. Sounds like us, but we already got the kids.

 

[AtomicUse]

I ended up married to a woman who earns more than me, comes from a good family, has a good history, very pretty, and is compatible with me. Do I recommend it? It's a way to save money and get input on situations in life, but honestly, if youre a man whos comfortable in his own space, you do not need to get married. I did it because there were virtually no downsides(for me) and several benefits(she pays some of the bills, buys things for the house, pays the HOA fees, etc). If you marry a woman that doesn't out earn you, has a gang of bodies and male friends and comes from a bad family, etc etc, that's dumb to me, but people do it all the time then complain.

 

[Clayton Endicott]

It's not for everyone. I wish society would quit forcing that shyt on people. There's a reason why some folks be on their third and fourth marriages and shyt. They ain't marriage material .

It's definitely worth it if that person loves during the lowest of the lows as well as the highs cuz there WILL be both. If that person makes you want to be a better person and supports your dreams and is your ride or die, that shyt is a beautiful thing .

Marry for the right reasons, and at the right age. I think lots of folks get married too young when they haven't reached their full growth and development. I think that's why couples grow apart. That person at 25 sure as hell ain't gonna be the same person at 35, and some people can't handle that.

 

[Dominicansbelit]

Literally no purpose for marriage.. This is a female thing.. You're a man .. You can be alone

 

[Wise]

If I could have a family without getting married, I would have done it. But I wanted sons. So I dove in. Better than being a lonely old man though.

I'd rather have a wife then a baby momma



But would I stop myself in the past? Nah, I found the only women who could handle my stupid ass plus have my daughter and life isn't great but it could be a whole lot worse. I love the woman, but if it was any other broad hell fukking nah.

Do you recommend marriage? Yes

If you could back, would you still get married? Yes, I know some cats my age who aren't married, they still trying to do shyt we did 10 or 15 years ago, except they aren't the same person they were back then. We had this discussion about marriage last weekend, and them nikkas really think that if they don't get married they will miss out on all this p*ssy. I told them they are delusional, they're all average in looks, income, and earning potential, but feel like they will be limited in what they can do if they settle down.

As far as the routine shyt, that's the sacrifice you make as a parent, it's not about you anymore, it's about your kids. I have two kids under the age of 6 we still go out to eat, take vacations, all the shyt regular people do.

You're young.... you don't see it know... but eventually you'll want to have a greater purpose in life... something more than trying fuk these hoes at the drop of a dime...you just have to be honest with yourself when you realize it.

For me, potential bullshyt in my relationship/marriage were quelled because I:

1. Nurtured a relationship w/ my wife for almost 10 years. It was complete with ups and downs but we made it work.
2. Realized that I had to let go of the notion that my wife would remain a 10 for the duration. That was simply . This allowed me to delve further into who she was on the inside as well. It was at that point, I began to fully fall in love with her.
3. We married at an older age (our 30s). We got all the bullshyt out of systems.
4. When we argue (not matter how big), its just that. An argument! Not the end of the marriage.
5. Personally, I realize that I have too much to lose. My wife does so many "intangible" things that I don't even think about. Can't lose that.

We know the true test will be when we have kids but she knows I ain't the dude to dip on my responsibilities or cheat.

Marriage is great. Nothing like having a woman that excerpts everything about you and holds you down. Nothing like raising kids together. It's a beautiful thing. People unhappy in their marriage are usually dealing with selfishness in some form from one or both people. It ain't easy to get through the early stages but if you're committed to the marriage it's amazing

I don't think most people are built for marriage. If you are naturally selfish person who hates to compromise DO NOT GET MARRIED. A lot of people get fed that Disney b*llshyt of what marriage is, it ain't all roses. It takes hard work and constant dedication. Both people have to be mature enough to compromise and communicate properly.

For me it's worth it. My Queen is my life partner someone I can build a dynasty with. Someone I know that when we pass on we'll have made the world a better place with our legacy. We don't always get along but I know she'd take a bullet for,me and vice versa. You have to know what you want in a woman and be man enough to handle that type of woman.

Ain't nothing wrong with being single out here, but don't get married just because you are lonely, or you want to look like the huxtables, or because she got a phat ass and the pu$$y good, it won't last. She has to have a soul worth being around.

There is a lot of truth about your perception of marriage BUT some of its misinformed.

My wife was my baby mom first. Me being broke as hell trying to get in pharmacy school with a brand new baby, BM trying to be an accountant. I had to do a LOT of growing up. I was whoring a lot before I matured. I was like let me trying being in a monogamous relationship with my son's mother and its been great.

Now we're both successful, two boys, house, etc.. But there a always war brewing in a marriage just gotta pick your battles. Married people argue over silly things but its harmless most of the time. We have date nights, mini vacations and family vacations. After 9 years of being together and 3 years of marriage she still does it for me...

To me marriage brings stability and assurance that someone has your back. As far as your comment about waking up to the same woman. I mean if you still wanna fukk like a bachelor while being married then your marriage wont work.

I don't recommend nor am I advocating cheating because I see so many married men trying to have mistresses and sideline hoez and it ends up costing them everything. You pay a whore to leave not to fukk, so if you go that route out of boredom and/curiosity at least be smart about it. I recommend marriage but it isnt for everyone.

My married life is full of drama, ups and downs, good times & bad times and even though it's hard at times, being surrounded by the women in my life and my kids at night make it all worth it. I can't tell another man if marriage is worth it because all situations are different but for me, it's the only thing.

Marriage brings expectations. It can turn best friends into worst enemies. You benefit from marriage when the standards of the relationship are static and agreed upon based on goals, morals, and transparency/honesty.

I ended up married to a woman who earns more than me, comes from a good family, has a good history, very pretty, and is compatible with me. Do I recommend it? It's a way to save money and get input on situations in life, but honestly, if youre a man whos comfortable in his own space, you do not need to get married. I did it because there were virtually no downsides(for me) and several benefits(she pays some of the bills, buys things for the house, pays the HOA fees, etc). If you marry a woman that doesn't out earn you, has a gang of bodies and male friends and comes from a bad family, etc etc, that's dumb to me, but people do it all the time then complain.

It's not for everyone. I wish society would quit forcing that shyt on people. There's a reason why some folks be on their third and fourth marriages and shyt. They ain't marriage material .

It's definitely worth it if that person loves during the lowest of the lows as well as the highs cuz there WILL be both. If that person makes you want to be a better person and supports your dreams and is your ride or die, that shyt is a beautiful thing .

Marry for the right reasons, and at the right age. I think lots of folks get married too young when they haven't reached their full growth and development. I think that's why couples grow apart. That person at 25 sure as hell ain't gonna be the same person at 35, and some people can't handle that.

I should've put this in my initial post but I will as it now.

Do yall cheat on your wives or ever have?

 

[TNOT]

I should've put this in my initial post but I will as it now.

Do yall cheat on your wives or ever have?

You will always want some new p*ssy, it's inevitable. Ask yourself if it's worth the risk financially or emotionally to cheat on your wife?

You need to ask yourself that before you get married.

 

[Malcolmxxx_23]

I wanna get married and find just one girl
Only problem is that I don't think I know how to be a husband

Deep down I desire multiple femLes etc
I'm addicted to these hoes
The chase is like a drug
I still wanna travel and fukk random foreign females
Plus I'm 6'7 ..it's kinda hard to settle

Or I'll just be lonley and single line the bretta @Colicat

 

[Elle Driver]

Literally no purpose for marriage.. This is a female thing.. You're a man .. You can be alone

Being alone is horrible if you don't have kids or family, interaction between a married couple who've been together a long time actually prolongs their lives.

My husband recently discovered his mother has Alzheimer's disease, and it's been progressing rapidly. It's because of the environment factors, she's a widow, and she barely has any family around outside her son. You look at old couples in Africa, they're less likely to develop it due to having familial support. Marriage is beneficial if you want someone to progress your life and be there for you. It's not for those who are intrinsically selfish because it involves a whole lot of compromise.

 

[Colicat]

I wanna get married and find just one girl
Only problem is that I don't think I know how to be a husband

Deep down I desire multiple femLes etc
I'm addicted to these hoes
The chase is like a drug
I still wanna travel and fukk random foreign females
Plus I'm 6'7 ..it's kinda hard to settle

Or I'll just be lonley and single line the bretta @Colicat

Good luck being the old man in the club...

Better start collecting your socks and sandals now

 

[heart]

You will always want some new p*ssy, it's inevitable. Ask yourself if it's worth the risk financially or emotionally to cheat on your wife?

You need to ask yourself that before you get married.

@Wise
You should really ask yourself that question. Women dont stop getting attractive once your married. Temptations are always there.

Like I said you're not married yet breh, and if you're already thinking about other puzzy even before you get married then you aren't ready.

Men who have been married for years, I dont know what they all do, but I know a fair amount try to get mistresses and side bytches and get caught up.

I havent cheated on my wife but If I did, I would rather do a lil trickin' for an escort verses keeping secrets and telling lies to my wife and getting caught up and having a nasty divorce. I'm not condoning anything, I'm just saying you gotta be smart..

 

[Family Man]

Marriage was one of the best decision I've made. Especially getting married young.

 

[Malcolmxxx_23]

Good luck being the old man in the club...

Better start collecting your socks and sandals now

 

[benjamin]

I should've put this in my initial post but I will as it now.

Do yall cheat on your wives or ever have?

What you think