Serious Question: Why are introverted people vilified?

[Man Down]

This is just something that has been on my mind for a minute and I really do not have anyone that is willing to have a serious discussion about it with.

Sometimes my friends say stuff like, "Before I met you, I thought you were stuck up/mean/weird/etc. because you were so quiet. But you're a cool guy!"

I'm just like

Really? Really? Because someone is okay with not having to talk just to hear themselves talk, they are stuck up all of a sudden?

Even in the workplace, the people that usually get promoted are the ones with exceptional social skills. And the ones who actually know their job but are quiet are treated .

It's almost 12 PM and I'm already tipsy, so I figured I'd ask the Coli brethren and brethrenettes (?) about their experiences about this

 

[Neuromancer]

This is just something that has been on my mind for a minute and I really do not have anyone that is willing to have a serious discussion about it with.

Sometimes my friends say stuff like, "Before I met you, I thought you were stuck up/mean/weird/etc. because you were so quiet. But you're a cool guy!"

I'm just like

Really? Really? Because someone is okay with not having to talk just to hear themselves talk, they are stuck up all of a sudden?

Even in the workplace, the people that usually get promoted are the ones with exceptional social skills. And the ones who actually know their job but are quiet are treated .

It's almost 12 PM and I'm already tipsy, so I figured I'd ask the Coli brethren and brethrenettes (?) about their experiences about this

Because of Dale Carnegie. Seriously read Quiet by Susan Cain. I wondered this myself. I think it's because our society doesn’t know how to handle private people or those who are internally involved.

 

[Man Down]

Because of Dale Carnegie. Seriously read Qunite by Susan Cain. I wondered this myself. I think it's because our society doesn’t know how to handle private people or those who are internally involved.

No doubt bro i'ma check the book out

 

[Champagne Kudo]

I've never gotten that even though I am quiet

But it would explain a few things

 

[StarGirl]

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[brother walt]

try to diagnose yourself with a medical disorder because u a scared loser brehs

 

[Neuromancer]

Quiet? You always come through with the book recommendations

Yes, well I enjoy books more than people.

 

[iFightSeagullsForBread]

Because you're c*nts.

 

[Audemar]

I'm used to it. Even worse, if you happen to be a Black man trapped in a predominately White environment. We live in a social world.

Also, in before the "I'm an introvert when in reality I'm really just weird as hell" posters.

 

[DaRealness]

Because of Dale Carnegie. Seriously read Qunite by Susan Cain. I wondered this myself. I think it's because our society doesn’t know how to handle private people or those who are internally involved.

You mean Quiet, lol.

I've had that on my kindle for over a year and haven't read it yet.

 

[Ronald McDonald]

try to diagnose yourself with a medical disorder because u a scared loser brehs

think introversion is a medical disorder brehs

 

[Man Down]

try to diagnose yourself with a medical disorder because u a scared loser brehs

Come on bro, you're better than that. This isn't a "medical disorder" and it's not always Black and White. You can be introverted with extroverted qualities and vice versa. This is just a question on why the culture today rewards loud idiots over quiet professionals.

Because you're c*nts.

Why thank you.

 

[YeLovesBoston]

think introversion is a medical disorder brehs

Dude really said being introverted is a medical disorder .

The folks who dapped him take the L too

 

[Man Down]

I've never gotten that even though I am quiet

But it would explain a few things

Can you expand on that bruh?

 

[Man Down]

Just a observation, but I noticed that women don't really get the same treatment if they're introverted. Like if you're a women and introverted, people assume you're studious or a book reader or something in that bracket. But if you're a male, especially a young Black man, if you're not turning up 25/8 then you get labelled a lot differently.


This isn't a women bashing post and please don't take it there, just something I noticed.