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And also, being introverted doesn't mean that you are a quiet loner. It means that you prefer to be alone, like that saying that you "feel alone in a crowd full of people". Thought I should reiterate that.
Serious Question: Why are introverted people vilified?
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Just a observation, but I noticed that women don't really get the same treatment if they're introverted. Like if you're a women and introverted, people assume you're studious or a book reader or something in that bracket. But if you're a male, especially a young Black man, if you're not turning up 25/8 then you get labelled a lot differently.
This isn't a women bashing post and please don't take it there, just something I noticed.
By men, I've been called mean looking, stuck up, clearly needing penis in my life, Diva and anti social. All for being quiet and introverted.
Some people like to talk just to hear their own voices. I enjoy being lost in my own thoughts.
People are insecure with quietness. They want to know why you are quiet, why you don't want to talk to them. Some project their insecurities on you. "Oh he is quiet because he thinks he is better than me. Oh he must think I'm ____., He is over there silently judging me"
Also people are just nosy.
Also people are just nosy.
Yeah my phone is on auto correct but for words I've never spelled.
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Wow, it's crazy that you said that. Me and my homies have admittedly been guilty of this. If we're spitting game and get turned down or she straight up acts like she doesn't hear us, we'll say some shyt like "All she needs is some dikk" or "Stuck up biatch" lol just to be funny. But I'm actually really glad you said that since I never looked at it that way. She might have had a bad day, or having cramps, or like you said just been in her own thoughts.
Because people fear the unknown. Introverts stay to themselves and some people can't understand that. Most people operate under the assumption that more outgoing people are more trustworthy and easier to get along with, that is clearly not the case. Also, more outgoing people feed off of the energy of other extroverts, so they consider introverts to be boring. Introverts are also looked at as soft or easy to walk over even when that's not true.
I just started reading "Quiet" by Susan Cain and "How to win friends and Influence People" by Dale Carniege to better understand my introvert personality and how to improve my social skills.
I just started reading "Quiet" by Susan Cain and "How to win friends and Influence People" by Dale Carniege to better understand my introvert personality and how to improve my social skills.
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And that's the frustrating part. I feel like I'm the nicest person ever (that's subjective but I digress) but people build up this mental image of me in their head before we even have a conversation. And I'm to blame for that as well since conversation and relationships work both ways. But normally after we begin talking, that's when I get hit with the, "Oh so you do talk?" or "Wow, you're a pretty down to Earth person." Lol and I'm just like "Of course" but I don't realize that they don't know me or how I am until afterwards.
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The bolded gets nikkas fukked up. I've noticed people like to test me to see how far they can get, then when I snap they all of a sudden
.But that's what's up, how have the books helped you so far?
And that's the frustrating part. I feel like I'm the nicest person ever (that's subjective but I digress) but people build up this mental image of me in their head before we even have a conversation. And I'm to blame for that as well since conversation and relationships work both ways. But normally after we begin talking, that's when I get hit with the, "Oh so you do talk?" or "Wow, you're a pretty down to Earth person." Lol and I'm just like "Of course" but I don't realize that they don't know me or how I am until afterwards.
I know. I'm super nice too. I never understood why people always go to the negative with quiet people.
So instead them thinking shy or quiet they automatically think mean and stuck up. But I don't care. People will always assume what they want it's not my problem. I just mind my own business and KIM. I'm not going to force myself to be a way I'm not so they can "figure me out".
The bolded gets nikkas fukked up. I've noticed people like to test me to see how far they can get, then when I snap they all of a sudden
But that's what's up, how have the books helped you so far?
I just start reading "Quiet" so far it's pretty good. She gives a lot of examples of successful introverts and gives suggestions on how to make the workplace more comfortable for introverts. I'm about half way through the book, after I finish I'll start "How to win friends and influence people".
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Dope, i'ma invest in those two for sure. I was going to torrent, but might as well show support.
Yeah they're pretty good books, and they're not that expensive I paid 30 bucks for both books, that's not too bad. I got them at barnes and noble.
simple,simpletons don't like to think,they'll do everything humanly possible to distract their selves from facing that inner self..introverts are the opposite
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Some one said it best that people are insecure of themselves so they look down on people who don't project his/herself.
I enjoy my own company a lot and it sucks because I work in a field that has me interacting with a lot of people so my co workers look at me like I'm weird because I want to go sit by myself or take a nap during my lunch so I can recharge for the second half of the day.
I feel so misunderstood sometimes
I enjoy my own company a lot and it sucks because I work in a field that has me interacting with a lot of people so my co workers look at me like I'm weird because I want to go sit by myself or take a nap during my lunch so I can recharge for the second half of the day.
I feel so misunderstood sometimes
i have no problems being social and people are naturally drawn to me. but i much prefer spending time alone w a blunt and a book though. 
i find most people to be idiotic/ low-level thinkers.
i have gotten the arrogant, hard to approach comments before though. its cause most people are so unhappy with themselves they have to constantly be entertained/stimulated b/c they can't stand being alone with their thoughts.
i find most people to be idiotic/ low-level thinkers.
i have gotten the arrogant, hard to approach comments before though. its cause most people are so unhappy with themselves they have to constantly be entertained/stimulated b/c they can't stand being alone with their thoughts.