Serious Question: Why are introverted people vilified?

[plushcarpet]

because humans are social creatures by nature and if you aren't super social, then you're seen as not normal

 

[Neuromancer]

Just a observation, but I noticed that women don't really get the same treatment if they're introverted. Like if you're a women and introverted, people assume you're studious or a book reader or something in that bracket. But if you're a male, especially a young Black man, if you're not turning up 25/8 then you get labelled a lot differently.


This isn't a women bashing post and please don't take it there, just something I noticed.

Women aren't approachers. Men are that is whym

 

[Man Down]

Some one said it best that people are insecure of themselves so they look down on people who don't project his/herself.

I enjoy my own company a lot and it sucks because I work in a field that has me interacting with a lot of people so my co workers look at me like I'm weird because I want to go sit by myself or take a nap during my lunch so I can recharge for the second half of the day.

I feel so misunderstood sometimes

I feel your pain brotha. I work in retail and I actually like talking to people, but it just gets draining at the end of the day.

 

[Neuromancer]

Because people fear the unknown. Introverts stay to themselves and some people can't understand that. Most people operate under the assumption that more outgoing people are more trustworthy and easier to get along with, that is clearly not the case. Also, more outgoing people feed off of the energy of other extroverts, so they consider introverts to be boring. Introverts are also looked at as soft or easy to walk over even when that's not true.

I just started reading "Quiet" by Susan Cain and "How to win friends and Influence People" by Dale Carniege to better understand my introvert personality and how to improve my social skills.

Great post.

 

[Man Down]

Women aren't approachers. Men are that is whym

I understand that. I'm not talking about approaching, but just in general on the "labels" people make up in regards to describing others. I'm young, so maybe it's just me, but I have never heard someone say, "Yeah that girl is so quiet, its weird."

 

[Another Man]

try to diagnose yourself with a medical disorder because u a scared loser brehs

Be a fukkin idiot brehs

 

[brother walt]

Be a fukkin idiot brehs

I bet u wont say it to my face

 

[Neuromancer]

I understand that. I'm not talking about approaching, but just in general on the "labels" people make up in regards to describing others. I'm young, so maybe it's just me, but I have never heard someone say, "Yeah that girl is so quiet, its weird."

Me either, maybe girls do it to other girls. I once was asked why I'm so quiet and told I should smile by two girls in college. I don't recall my response. I did smile though it was nice.

 

[Man Down]

I'm used to it. Even worse, if you happen to be a Black man trapped in a predominately White environment. We live in a social world.

Also, in before the "I'm an introvert when in reality I'm really just weird as hell" posters.

Funny you say that too, because I'm in Orange County, California, home of White girls and Starbucks coffee lol. But I have thought, however minutely, that it may be because I'm a young handsome nikka surrounded by White people.

Oh well

 

[Another Man]

I bet u wont say it to my face

Pull up

 

[brother walt]

Pull up

address

 

[Another Man]

address

130 N Fountain Ave, Springfield OH

 

[Man Down]

130 N Fountain Ave, Springfield OH

Don't waste your breathe (fingers?), you know damn well nobody is going to do a damn thing.

 

[GetSomeMoney]

Looks like this thread just took a turn

 

[1thouwow]

Lol some people just get insulted when you don't wanna have a conversation with em.