Shaq keeps it 100% (Confiding in women)

[Wild self]

No one said anything about bottling up feelings. The post above you literally says this is why you get close male friends and a straight male therapist. It's good to express yourself and worries and doubts. Just not with your woman. You're supposed to be strong for her. Women have the luxury to be weak; men do not. That is our role that God gave us. Embrace it.

Not going to wreck my health just to look 'strong' for a delusional woman that probably doesn't respect men in the first place. By no means i'm going to be sad in a regular basis, just that no one got mad at Mike Tyson or DMX for shedding tears in the general public.

 

[BigTyme Records]

It’s a mixture of both. Life ain’t black and white.

You can be open emotionally (to a certain extent) and still be a Rock.

 

[UpNext]

Why are they calling us bitter in this thread? We are being honest and real. It's why our grandfather's were distant and didn't tell grandma everything. This is man knowledge passed down. A man must be stoic in the eyes of a woman. He shoulders the pain and burdens for her. He is her rock. This doesn't mean we are bitter. We just know our role as men.

They're calling us bitter because IRL they're the guys who tell their woman EVERYTHING. You know who those dudes are. This is their safe space and a place where they can come and not be known as the homie that tells his woman everything.

 

[Starburst]

If she lacks that grace as your girlfriend she'll lack it as your wife.

They are who they are.

Depends. If you give her little nuggets of information, you can determine if she is worth getting serious with

 

[Ol’Otis]

don’t think shaunie cared for shaq

bytch is an OG gold digger

 

[Space Cowboy]

It’s a mixture of both. Life ain’t black and white.

You can be open emotionally (to a certain extent) and still be a Rock.

I agree. It's circumstantial. So far example a girl asks me something interesting about. I tell her I used to have social anxiety until I overcame it with hard work. This shows 1. Something I've overcome which shows I have a capability to win and 2. A willingness to be slightly vulnerable. This especially works if currently you have gift of gab and charisma out the ass. It shows how much you truly worked on yourself which is a turn on. Or you cry because your father died. Women seem fine with that.

Those are different from opening up and telling her you feel like you're not going to be promoted at your job, or that you got fired, or that someone makes you feel insecure, or something like that which shows weakness and an inability to rise to the occasion.

So the word never is a stretch but men use a different threshold and definition for confiding.

 

[Shadow King]

Depends. If you give her little nuggets of information, you can determine if she is worth getting serious with

A girlfriend is already serious...

 

[Space Cowboy]

Of course as most men know, he's right.

The interesting thing is how much alot of the women are denying this, pushing back, or trying to assign ultimate blame to the men for the women doing this to them.

I think women don't see much of a problem here because women do this to everyone. They throw sensitive things in each other's faces as well. Women are more likely than men to engage in low blows, emotional gut punches and dredging up old, settled issues. It's all fair game to them and they accept it. Women let their emotions flow more easily in their personal lives. They see it as necessary. As men, we try to avoid this kind of thing because we (should) try to check emotional outburts, because outbursts can often lead to physical violence and other bad outcomes.

You underestimate women.

It's less about women's emotions and more about how women fight.

Men fight with fists.

Women fight with their brains and tongues because they're physically weak and lack the physicality of a man. It's why women - if they do fight - it's almost always in groups and numbers.

Which is why they master the ability to manipulate. There's less risk. Which is why when the new girl shows up and all the guys like her, to hurt her they don't have to clench a fist. All they have to do is spread a rumor that the new girl is a slut and her rep is tarnished. This is why women will accuse a man of rape knowing damn well he didn't do it. Women learn to manipulate from when they're babies and their daddy let's them get away with shyt because she's daddy's girl. It's an evolutionary tick that allows them to survive. The better the ability to manipulate the more likely her genes survive. Which is why she will tell a man she's on birth control and he can nut in her raw when she's not on any bc.

Such is the nature of women just like how the nature of man is violence.

Boys give wedgies and dunk you in the toilet.

Girls fight you through emotional warfare because they're not as physical as men. They are cunning. There's a reason women have been compared to cats.

 

[BigTyme Records]

I agree. It's circumstantial. So far example a girl asks me something interesting about. I tell her I used to have social anxiety until I overcame it with hard work. This shows 1. Something I've overcome which shows I have a capability to win and 2. A willingness to be slightly vulnerable. This especially works if currently you have gift of gab and charisma out the ass. It shows how much you truly worked on yourself which is a turn on. Or you cry because your father died. Women seem fine with that.

Those are different from opening up and telling her you feel like you're not going to be promoted at your job, or that you got fired, or that someone makes you feel insecure, or something like that which shows weakness and an inability to rise to the occasion.

So the word never is a stretch but men use a different threshold and definition for confiding.

right you don’t even gotta be rich but in my experience women like Nikkas who can “make shyt happen” or is working towards something or overcome something

If you are aimless, complaining with no solutions or got a victim mentality and display that around women you won’t fare well. I’ve been on both sides

 

[Space Cowboy]

I got friend of mine was seriously struggling with gambling addiction. Told his gf and she really helped him get over it, sponsored him through gamblers anonymous meetings and all that i think. Years later they married

Was he masculine in other ways? I don't think this is the same vulnerability we are talking about. Like women hold down drug addicts all the time. I don't think admitting you struggling with gambling is a sign of weakness.

 

[maxamusa]

Lets take it a little deeper.

what are you telling your women? that you cried when your mom died. yeah a decent women is not going to throw that in your face or use it against you.

or are you telling her you feel insecure by your boss. yeah thats a type of weakness a women is going to see as something else and will make her feel some type of way about you.

But if your a tried and true tested man you shouldn't be confiding in your women on some BS.

See alot of males are walking around thinking jus cause they hit a certain age their a Man, especially nowadays and cant tell the difference between game and simpin.

does the definition of confiding mean something else....I'm looking at replies in this thread and am confused AF

I thought confiding in someone meant u can really trust them...like on real heavy shyt......is that wrong?

 

[JNew]

does the definition of confiding mean something else....I'm looking at replies in this thread and am confused AF

I thought confiding in someone meant u can really trust them...like on real heavy shyt......is that wrong?

Like is not black and white.

 

[Space Cowboy]

does the definition of confiding mean something else....I'm looking at replies in this thread and am confused AF

I thought confiding in someone meant u can really trust them...like on real heavy shyt......is that wrong?

What many of us are saying is that you should be selective in what you tell your woman. You don't tell her nothing. If you do that you can't emotionally connect with her and women thrive off of that. But if you tell her every damn thing then you are going to get bushed real quick. Your woman ain't gotta know everything. She should live from a place of stability and comfort. She should be able to look up to her man.

 

[Starburst]

A girlfriend is already serious...

Depends on who you ask. Getting serious means you see a future and you are thinking of getting a ring.

 

[maxamusa]

What many of us are saying is that you should be selective in what you tell your woman. You don't tell her nothing. If you do that you can't emotionally connect with her and women thrive off of that. But if you tell her every damn thing then you are going to get bushed real quick. Your woman ain't gotta know everything. She should live from a place of stability and comfort. She should be able to look up to her man.

yea no shyt.....but thats not the definition of being able to confide in someone ...

isn't that the premise of the thread