Shaq keeps it 100% (Confiding in women)

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I'm an old head (52), I've been with my wife 30 years (married 25) she doesnt throw SERIOUS things in my face that I've confided in her about, however, I have a co-worker whose a mean a$$hole , I'll call him "Smith" ...I dont like the guy, whenever we have a disagreement she'll say "Your being mean like Smith". I dont like it when she does this, I asked her to stop doing it, she's cut back a lot but not %100 and its starting to irritate me. So I kind of agree with Shaq and I kind of dont.
They have to get that gut punch in from time to time. It sounds like given yalls length of time together she knows better than to say something really bad, so she resorts to little things like what you mentioned.
 

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I think if it's your wife she should know you lost your job as it affects her but you're selective in what you say. You don't tell her about the stress or pressure. You just hustle. She shouldn't feel any anxiety.

In my opinion a part of being a man is self sacrifice. Women are naturally more prone to depression and anxiety. As a man it's your job to not burden your woman with extra anxiety and emotional labor. So if there's a problem you fukking fix it. You do not wallow. Whether the water pipes need to be winterized or if you lost your job. You just get up and find a solution. Nothing more, nothing less.

Are you high RN :dahell:



Cot damn breh you be talking in circles saying a whole lotta irrelevant shyt....u didn't need to quote me for any of that :dead:

at least u back tracked n realized how crazy it is to LIE to your wifey about getting canned :salute:



the way u communicate is wild....no home but you must be People's sexiest man alive or cut from a different cloth if u slaying em based off the way u talk:russ:

Anyway I'm done with this exchange Wordsworth; PEACE
 

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I'm just now seeing this, but it's not even "I never encountered", they take the 2-3 outlier women out 25 they've ever dealt with and try to project that as the norm or a sizeable ratio.

1) A defense mechanism for what they perceive as red pill/incel rhetoric
2) Relationship insulation and belief the negative won't happen to them
3) Militancy

Are what is comes down to.
The key part is this stuff can happen if she gets sufficiently mad at you, rightly or wrongly. Not every woman you're involved with will get mad enough at you to resort to this. So it happening as you say maybe 3/25 doesn't mean much on its own. Of those 25 women how many did you have a knock down drag out argument or fight with? Maybe 7 or 8? Ok, so now we're talking about 3 out of 7 or 3 out of 8. Those numbers are much more stark.
 

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Are you high RN :dahell:



Cot damn breh you be talking in circles saying a whole lotta irrelevant shyt....u didn't need to quote me for any of that :dead:

at least u back tracked n realized how crazy it is to LIE to your wifey about getting canned :salute:



the way u communicate is wild....no home but you must be People's sexiest man alive or cut from a different cloth if u slaying em based off the way u talk:russ:

Anyway I'm done with this exchange Wordsworth; PEACE
I've been clear this whole time. Maybe you should read more.
 

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The key part is this stuff can happen if she gets sufficiently mad at you, rightly or wrongly. Not every woman you're involved with will get mad enough at you to resort to this. So it happening as you say maybe 3/25 doesn't mean much on its own. Of those 25 women how many did you have a knock down drag out argument or fight with? Maybe 7 or 8? Ok, so now we're talking about 3 out of 7 or 3 out of 8. Those numbers are much more stark.
Maybe, but when a pattern is shown, you recognize it and move accordingly. It's safe to assume the next 17 women will feature a similar ratio. And even for those that do it outwardly don't, their view of you will decline.
 

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Maybe, but when a pattern is shown, you recognize it and move accordingly. It's safe to assume the next 17 women will feature a similar ratio. And even for those that do it outwardly don't, their view of you will decline.
Treat all women the same. You think you found a real one, exception to the rule. A real needle in the haystack. You slip up. BZZT. Lesson learned. They can't help their biological imperative.
 

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She's trying to manipulate and get under your skin.


You act like this comes just from Shaq when we know men married for decades that have the same mentality. You are being willfully ignorant and have been warned.

You brothers trying to be buddy buddy with your lady gonna learn.
So what's gonna happen if I confide in her?
 
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So what's gonna happen if I confide in her?
Because all over social media there's a movement to push vulnerability we have to establish what you even mean by condide.

Let's say you have a bad day at work. This is what Tik Tok says.



Even if some of this is a joke the movement on being vulnerable is self defeating because it turns women off and has no respect for a man's role.

In the second video dude complains about his boss but does absolutely nothing about it. Your woman is going to think you're a fukking bytch after a stretch of that.

Dude comes home angry and bytches about his boss and gives his woman negative energy versus a dude that hates his boss so when he gets home he gives time to himself to watch the football game or put some negative energy into fighting someone in Street Fighter online. Who do you think women would prefer? Then after that he eats dinner and says he's going to look for a new job because of conflicts with the boss and then right there pulls out his laptop and starts looking over classifieds.

Emotion oriented vs solution oriented.

Honestly I feel sorry for today's women in an age where men want to be soft and want their woman to know how they're feeling. Growing up we didn't have any of this shyt whether on TV or in real life. Why the fukk you want your woman to know about your struggles to begin with? You should want her to have an easy life. If you need her advice and counsel ask away, many women are great at polishing a man's ideas. But confide? Without a solution? Why?
 

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Like is not black and white.

Words are though. Thats why people need to make sure they understand the definitions of them n know what they're actually saying.

Since u want to be philosophical; a lot of people have ended up being a loser for misusing them.

"THATS NOT WHAT I MEANT". BOOM :dead:

feel me?
 

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Because all over social media there's a movement to push vulnerability we have to establish what you even mean by condide.

Let's say you have a bad day at work. This is what Tik Tok says.



Even if some of this is a joke the movement on being vulnerable is self defeating because it turns women off and has no respect for a man's role.

In the second video dude complains about his boss but does absolutely nothing about it. Your woman is going to think you're a fukking bytch after a stretch of that.

Dude comes home angry and bytches about his boss and gives his woman negative energy versus a dude that hates his boss so when he gets home he gives time to himself to watch the football game or put some negative energy into fighting someone in Street Fighter online. Who do you think women would prefer? Then after that he eats dinner and says he's going to look for a new job because of conflicts with the boss and then right there pulls out his laptop and starts looking over classifieds.

Emotion oriented vs solution oriented.

Honestly I feel sorry for today's women in an age where men want to be soft and want their woman to know how they're feeling. Growing up we didn't have any of this shyt whether on TV or in real life. Why the fukk you want your woman to know about your struggles to begin with? You should want her to have an easy life. If you need her advice and counsel ask away, many women are great at polishing a man's ideas. But confide? Without a solution? Why?

So basically a man who comes home and tells his woman about the boss he hates, is soft? :dahell:

A strong man comes home and keeps it to himself and just plays mortal kombat? Because bytches prefer dudes that play mortal kombat?:dahell:


And you're serious :snoop:
 

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It’s typically bad advice to tell someone to never or always do something. Life don’t work in absolutes like that. You nikkas acting like yall be pulling out handbooks when dealing with these hoes. Most important thing a nikka can do is be themselves, do what the fukk you wanna do and learn from experience. You not that nikka anyway if you even seeking out or taking advice regarding women.

You spittin. This isn't math. 1+1 doesn't always equal 2 when dealing with people.


Word 2 Phil Jackson n the triangle :lolbron:

These "gurus" entertaining tho :russ:
 

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So basically a man who comes home and tells his woman about the boss he hates, is soft? :dahell:

A strong man comes home and keeps it to himself and just plays mortal kombat? Because bytches prefer dudes that play mortal kombat?:dahell:


And you're serious :snoop:
It's about the solution portion. Now I don't agree with that being the way we're supposed to live, because you can't have the answers every damn time, and I do actually believe that your woman is supposed to be your psychiatrist-lite, as the nurturing nature of a devoted woman shouldn't conveniently skip over the psyche, but that's not the reality.
 
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