She left me brehs

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HabitualChiller said:
I wouldn't say she upgraded either. She most likely just wanted someone different who was willing to tie her down more quickly.

By all indications, you did just about everything right, but might have made her wait for too long (in her eyes).
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Could be that. Or it could be that she just didn't feel attracted to him anymore, people change. Or maybe her friends convinced her the grass was greener elsewhere. Or maybe there's another man she met and caught feelings for.

Or some other reason. At the end of the day it doesn't matter, if somebody doesn't want you the only thing you can do is move on :yeshrug:
 
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acri1 said:
Could be that. Or it could be that she just didn't feel attracted to him anymore, people change. Or maybe her friends convinced her the grass was greener elsewhere. Or maybe there's another man she met and caught feelings for.

Or some other reason. At the end of the day it doesn't matter, if somebody doesn't want you the only thing you can do is move on :yeshrug:
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That too. People change like the seasons.
 
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Water said:
We were together for 5 years, met at 25 and she just told me she don't wanna be with me anymore. We were going through rough patches but I was willing to fight through them but i guess she wasn't.

Brehs I bought this beautiful engagement ring custom made and I was ready and boom she's done with me just like that after all the shyt we went through. It feels like I lost my best friend and I just don't know how I'm gonna get through this shyt. I ain't never hurt this bad before. I even begged her like a fukkkng simp even though i knew it was pointless. I can't eat and I'm barely sleeping I'm scared of what I might do :mjcry:
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You'll be aight...just focus on yourself and BOSS UP.
 
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Water said:
She said i didn't support her the way she needed during some hard times but she didn't realize how she needed to be supported until recently which I don't think is fair. I tried my best. She also was pushing for me to propose last year but I wasn't ready so I spent the last year getting ready but seems like she spent that time detaching.

For the last 6 or so months sex became sparse and she would get annoyed when I tried pushing up on her and for the last two months we just didn't so anything anymore. That built resentment in me and we would have petty Lil arguments over bs.
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So, considering her temperament, you likely dodged an inevitable bullet bro. But 5 years is a long time, so it hurts. But women who expect you to read their minds even when they don't have their own mind understood, is a recipe for a headache. And ask yourself, can you deal with THAT for another 35-40 years of your life?

Are you able to return the ring? If so, that's a major W.

Get the refund and take you a vacation to Miami or California where you can at least look at beautiful women, even if you don't talk to them yet
 
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Been there. Take some time to yourself and then start dating again. Don't do it too quick since rebound relationships aren't stable but don't stay away too long and get fearful of being hurt again.

Trust me, once you get a new chick in your life she may try to reach out again. Be cordial but don't take her back unless you are super sure she is the one and she admits her mistakes and changes.

Breh, you are in ATL. You can throw a rock and find a good woman.
 
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Water said:
We were together for 5 years, met at 25 and she just told me she don't wanna be with me anymore. We were going through rough patches but I was willing to fight through them but i guess she wasn't.

Brehs I bought this beautiful engagement ring custom made and I was ready and boom she's done with me just like that after all the shyt we went through. It feels like I lost my best friend and I just don't know how I'm gonna get through this shyt. I ain't never hurt this bad before. I even begged her like a fukkkng simp even though i knew it was pointless. I can't eat and I'm barely sleeping I'm scared of what I might do :mjcry:
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Man fųck that bītch
 
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Ohene said:
a woman who wants to marry a man for the right reasons...who presumably really loves her man...isnt going to just start all over at age 29.
not with at least a last ditch convo/discussion about where the relationship going
it's dudes who are abusing their women, cheating on their women, stringing them along for ten years and still not gettin left.
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I’ll be honest breh, her bailing out at that age makes sense :francis:


She knows she isn’t getting younger and probably started to believe the OP was stringing her along and may have never planned to marry her. She probably had her friends and family in her ear also.

That’s why as soon as I heard the ages and OP talking about how she was complaining about a proposal I said it was probably a wrap midway through year 3.

Women ain’t stupid.

Better to get out early than be waiting at 35+ and possibly getting dumped. Self preservation will always kick in:yeshrug:
 
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