She Made The First Move, They Got Married 4 Months Later

[Shadow King]

Modern dating exist because of feminist. Before, ppl courted. Now men are fine, knowing a random guy is plugging their sister, because they’re doing the same to some one elses. The women did it, so they can give their best to “HVM” and have a backburner man, to marry if things didn’t work out with the “HVM”.

Yea. Even in highschool this goes on. The woman is all used up by the time talks of marriage arrive. Heartbroken, skeptical, and over anxious. Some just become plain evil. Children born into less than great circumstances and dysfunction. No wonder we don’t hardly have a community anymore.

This is not necessarily wrong but this 4 month and 6 month decision time y'all on doesn't fix it and brings about a miserable and resentful people who are carrying marriages as a social obligation and not a healthy partnership.

Plenty of dysfunctional families are started by married people and they were moving on this type of time y'all on.

You know the phrase about people by being in your life for a reason, season, or lifetime?

Can't know that if after 1 season you bend the knee and sign your life away.

 

[Umoja]

If you know what you want in life and are ready to settle down, 4 months is more than enough time to decide you want to marry someone.

I hope that it works out for them.

 

[Giselle]

I'm not to worried, I'm a passport bro.

That’s sad you want someone to use you for citizenship.

 

[RareHunter]

This is not necessarily wrong but this 4 month and 6 month decision time y'all on doesn't fix it and brings about a miserable and resentful people who are carrying marriages as a social obligation and not a healthy partnership.

Plenty of dysfunctional families are started by married people and they were moving on this type of time y'all on.

You know the phrase about people by being in your life for a reason, season, or lifetime?

Can't know that if after 1 season you bend the knee and sign your life away.

I hear u. Truthfully the culture no longer fosters marriage. I dnt see it getting better on the whole, tho ppl of like minds in small pockets may still be able to salvage.

 

[Giselle]

No it doesn't. What are you going to learn about a person in 10 or 12 months, that you can't learn in 4? Not saying it should happen in four months, but I am just curious. Because nobody would bat an eye if they got married after a year.

3 questions. Out of curiosity

So how long should a couple date before getting engaged?

Then also how long should a couple be engaged before getting married?

And lastly how long should a couple be married before having their 1st child?

Minimum of 3 years. If young, much longer. Their own paths need to be established before attempting to forge one. If older/established, time flies/shortens as you get older. 4 months ago was Labor Day.

You're not dealing with any adversity or changes as a couple in 4 months to understand the true nature of a relationship as intended to last decades or a lifetime.

All couples need to cohabitate before walking down the aisle.

Length of engagement is up to the couple their circumstances. Realistically most will be about a year.

Timeframe to conceive a child is up to them.

This quickstrike approach to marriage is what I expect from women and their clocks.

Xxog you sound impulsive and like you’d fck up your life and end up bitter/divorced after less than 3 years of marriage marrying someone you didn’t even know a full year.

It takes at least 1.5-2 years of dating to get to really know someone thoroughly enough to marry them. And after that 1-1.5 years of cohabitated engagement to be really sure. So about 3 years total including a year of engagement/cohabitation. Shouldn’t take shorter or longer than that unless you’re a teen/college age.

People are fake to get you to like them for the first 8 months and you need to let the honeymoon phase pass.

 

[RareHunter]

Xxog you sound impulsive and like you’d fck up your life and end up bitter/divorced after less than 3 years of marriage marrying someone you didn’t even know a full year.

It takes at least 1.5-2 years of dating to get to really know someone thoroughly enough to marry them. And after that 1-1.5 years of cohabitated engagement to be really sure. So about 3 years total including a year of engagement/cohabitation. Shouldn’t take shorter or longer than that unless you’re a teen/college age.

People are fake to get you to like them for the first 8 months and you need to let the honeymoon phase pass.

So why is that not working? We’ve been doing this for what? 60yrs? And ppl are more screwed than ever, dancing on tik tok.

 

[Shadow King]

What’s funny about that sentence?

The sentence itself.

 

[AquaCityBoy]

The Coli really advocating getting married after 4-6 months now?

 

[FS4LFE]

The sentence itself.

Are these responses supposed to be a counter argument or hateful projections?

 

[Shadow King]

Are these responses supposed to be a counter argument or hateful projections?

These responses are sprung from this magical spell called logic.

 

[FS4LFE]

These responses are sprung from this magical spell called logic.

Hateful projecting confirmed. Enjoy being miserable.

 

[LurkMoar]

Good for them though, I wouldn't want my wife working 40 hours either


It's crazy how women fought so hard to work, but a lot don't want to work. I mean what's what?

I know women with masters who wanna be housewives, don’t blame em honestly.

 

[Shadow King]

Hateful projecting confirmed. Enjoy being miserable.

Nothing hateful about my posts. I was able to objectively answer 3 questions about a marriage-driven timeline in spite of personally opting out of marriage because it is not the endeavor that's negative, but the institution that governs it.

In spite of being GMB, not one post told men not to marry.

Do you have any actual portions of my posts being hateful projecting that you can highlight, or are you this strong of an estrogen harboring son of bytch who got upset that I chuckled at your fairytale catchphrase justifying a grown ass man getting swept off his feet in a rash decision?

 

[Giselle]

So why is that not working? We’ve been doing this for what? 60yrs? And ppl are more screwed than ever, dancing on tik tok.

Why is what not working? What have you been doing for years? You need to be more specific

 

[African Peasant]

If they dated a long time and got a quick divorce they got married thinking a piece of paper and ceremony would fix their issues. If they married in 6 months of knowing each other there's no real difference in time together other than time on a contract.

If you're conceding that a divorce is mandatory this only supports the GMB stance which I'm on.

6 months again is not enough time to see how your partner handles the different nuances of a relationship. If you're only looking for a nanny/secretary with sexual favors then maybe.

I don't agree. 6 months was enough for millennia since marriage was invented.You never needed years to vet a potential wife. And you don't need to know a lot about a woman to marry her, you need to know the essentiel. You don't need to be on some micro-management shyt.

One of the problem today is that some people are not looking for a wife; they are looking for some perfect compatible friend clone. That's not a wife.

Dating is not pre-marriage. That's the mistake a lot of people make. That's why you will hear someone says 'i've dated her for five years, we've been married for 4 years, but I don"t recognize her'. Well...

GMB is an option in today's environment. You avoid the gamble that marriage is today.

But for those who choose to gamble, don't waste years vetting a woman since the divorce probability will remain globally the same. After a year of proper observation, you should know if a woman is wifeable or not. The rest is a gamble...