She Made The First Move, They Got Married 4 Months Later

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This won't end well...

:francis: Spoke the gospel before I could even speak on it. The whole "4 months MY BOAZ" bullshyt is dangerous, as folks are going by lustful intentions, puppy love feelings, and blind faith without believing in the future. Hell, it's a test of time in itself when you have known the person for years and then get married.

Marriage needs to be treated like a permanent solution, instead of a temporary fukk session.
 

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I bought one of his courses back in the day. Breh is a real estate/wholesale investor. :ehh:
 

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Why is what not working? What have you been doing for years? You need to be more specific
Cohabiting and dating for 1-2yrs and engaged for 1-2yrs? That’s 2-4yrs. A woman is literally wasting years and sleeping with a man that isn’t even financing her. The only reason it appeared to work for a time is because of media brainwashing and witchcraft. Then we had the casual sex era, which is even worse, but now a tide is turning and men are starting to get aware that they don’t want finance women in marriage under these conditions.

When I say finance, I mean all that comes with marriage (being the rock, paying majority of bills, problem solving, ect..). The pendulum is swinging back, as we speak. Why would any sane women, waste years with a man, when they have much more too lose? Hookup culture is dying, it seems as well, and men aren’t simply going to just get married anymore at this point. We are heading to the final frontier it seems.
 

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funny cuz I follow random black youtubers in the hustle culture/entrepreneurship space so im familiar with Max
and then I see him pop up with this chick who I knew from this video :mjlol:


GMB never steered anyone wrong...

Seriously though, can you imagine grinding out for years just to split the reward with someone you met 4 months ago, worst yet, who wouldn't have given you the time of day when you were grinding your way up, worst yet, who brags about the fact that she's just waiting at the finish line to her legion of followers? 4 months...you didn't even make her sweat for it man.

HVM should string along women as long a they please, after all, they're the ones in demand. There's more of them then there are you.
 

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I don't agree. 6 months was enough for millennia since marriage was invented.You never needed years to vet a potential wife. And you don't need to know a lot about a woman to marry her, you need to know the essentiel. You don't need to be on some micro-management shyt.

One of the problem today is that some people are not looking for a wife; they are looking for some perfect compatible friend clone. That's not a wife.

Dating is not pre-marriage. That's the mistake a lot of people make. That's why you will hear someone says 'i've dated her for five years, we've been married for 4 years, but I don"t recognize her'. Well...

GMB is an option in today's environment. You avoid the gamble that marriage is today.

But for those who choose to gamble, don't waste years vetting a woman since the divorce probability will remain globally the same. After a year of proper observation, you should know if a woman is wifeable or not. The rest is a gamble...
There is a lot of things that applied for millennia that no longer apply. 6 months before marriage is one of them. The "essentials" is basically what I said, a nanny/secretary with sexual favors.

Dating is pre-marriage. It only is not pre-marriage, again, if you think a few months is sufficient. That same man wouldn't recognize her if they were dating 1 year and married 8.

"Wasting years" is how I expect women to talk due to biological clocks.
 

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Cohabiting and dating for 1-2yrs and engaged for 1-2yrs? That’s 2-4yrs. A woman is literally wasting years and sleeping with a man that isn’t even financing her. The only reason it appeared to work for a time is because of media brainwashing and witchcraft. Then we had the casual sex era, which is even worse, but now a tide is turning and men are starting to get aware that they don’t want finance women in marriage under these conditions.

When I say finance, I mean all that comes with marriage (being the rock, paying majority of bills, problem solving, ect..). The pendulum is swinging back, as we speak. Why would any sane women, waste years with a man, when they have much more too lose? Hookup culture is dying, it seems as well, and men aren’t simply going to just get married anymore at this point. We are heading to the final frontier it seems.
Again, a societal issue spurred by women being hypocritical about gender roles. Nothing to do "taking too long".

The fact you only speak from the vantage point of the woman wasting years supports what I keep saying in here. It's beginning to come across as if the 3 of you advocating for this only value a woman for her childbearing window being as large as possible.
 

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There is a lot of things that applied for millennia that no longer apply. 6 months before marriage is one of them. The "essentials" is basically what I said, a nanny/secretary with sexual favors.

Dating is pre-marriage. It only is not pre-marriage, again, if you think a few months is sufficient. That same man wouldn't recognize her if they were dating 1 year and married 8.

"Wasting years" is how I expect women to talk due to biological clocks.
Not when it comes to a wife. You look for wife for the same reason men did a millennia ago. Marriage is an old institution. Once again, some of you are not looking for a wife.

Dating is not pre-marriage, it's dating. The confusion between dating and marriage is one of the ills of modern societies on that field. Difference of nature and purpose. And as the perpetual rise of divorce number shows, dating does not help marriage.

Time is precious, not only for women. If you're vetting a woman for marriage, 3 years is a waste of time. It adds no benefit to your quest. It's indeed a waste. A waste for you and her.
 

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Cohabiting and dating for 1-2yrs and engaged for 1-2yrs? That’s 2-4yrs. A woman is literally wasting years and sleeping with a man that isn’t even financing her. The only reason it appeared to work for a time is because of media brainwashing and witchcraft. Then we had the casual sex era, which is even worse, but now a tide is turning and men are starting to get aware that they don’t want finance women in marriage under these conditions.

When I say finance, I mean all that comes with marriage (being the rock, paying majority of bills, problem solving, ect..). The pendulum is swinging back, as we speak. Why would any sane women, waste years with a man, when they have much more too lose? Hookup culture is dying, it seems as well, and men aren’t simply going to just get married anymore at this point. We are heading to the final frontier it seems.
You need to go reread and re add the years bc I said something different than what you wrote.

& Yes casual sex did ruin things and that’s modern feminism fault.

People who are healthy and realistic will still have relationships. If men don’t like xyz, then they can find a partner who aligns with them. Those who don’t will remain single.

I don’t think you know what your point was tbh
 

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:francis: Spoke the gospel before I could even speak on it. The whole "4 months MY BOAZ" bullshyt is dangerous, as folks are going by lustful intentions, puppy love feelings, and blind faith without believing in the future. Hell, it's a test of time in itself when you have known the person for years and then get married.

Marriage needs to be treated like a permanent solution, instead of a temporary fukk session.
Get married and stay married?
I don't agree. 6 months was enough for millennia since marriage was invented.You never needed years to vet a potential wife. And you don't need to know a lot about a woman to marry her, you need to know the essentiel. You don't need to be on some micro-management shyt.

One of the problem today is that some people are not looking for a wife; they are looking for some perfect compatible friend clone. That's not a wife.

Dating is not pre-marriage. That's the mistake a lot of people make. That's why you will hear someone says 'i've dated her for five years, we've been married for 4 years, but I don"t recognize her'. Well...

GMB is an option in today's environment. You avoid the gamble that marriage is today.

But for those who choose to gamble, don't waste years vetting a woman since the divorce probability will remain globally the same. After a year of proper observation, you should know if a woman is wifeable or not. The rest is a gamble...

Because women have the illusion of power in the west, this strange “dating” has manifested. The issue is, this next gen of men, are aware of the escapades women and a small number of men engage in, so it’s not going to go well for this next gen of women, who believe they will continue whatever they’ve been doing for the past 60yrs.
 

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GMB never steered anyone wrong...

Seriously though, can you imagine grinding out for years just to split the reward with someone you met 4 months ago, worst yet, who wouldn't have given you the time of day when you were grinding your way up, worst yet, who brags about the fact that she's just waiting at the finish line to her legion of followers? 4 months...you didn't even make her sweat for it man.

HVM should string along women as long a they please, after all, they're the ones in demand. There's more of them then there are you.
I was with you for the first paragraph, absolutely not for the second
 

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Get married and stay married?


Because women have the illusion of power in the west, this strange “dating” has manifested. The issue is, this next gen of men, are aware of the escapades women and a small number of men engage in, so it’s not going to go well for this next gen of women, who believe they will continue whatever they’ve been doing for the past 60yrs.
The dating culture is ONE of the things that destroyed marriage.
 

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I don't agree. 6 months was enough for millennia since marriage was invented.You never needed years to vet a potential wife. And you don't need to know a lot about a woman to marry her, you need to know the essentiel. You don't need to be on some micro-management shyt.

One of the problem today is that some people are not looking for a wife; they are looking for some perfect compatible friend clone. That's not a wife.

Dating is not pre-marriage. That's the mistake a lot of people make. That's why you will hear someone says 'i've dated her for five years, we've been married for 4 years, but I don"t recognize her'. Well...

GMB is an option in today's environment. You avoid the gamble that marriage is today.

But for those who choose to gamble, don't waste years vetting a woman since the divorce probability will remain globally the same. After a year of proper observation, you should know if a woman is wifeable or not. The rest is a gamble...
That 6 months was back when there was no internet and no casual sex, no premarital sex for some gens and the only options they had were who they met in their town irl. They were getting married at 18 just so they could fck at one point. Today is not the same.

Also, African women are always complaining about African men cheating, having multiple wives etc. and Africa has a very high false paternity rate, so y’all might want to rethink that 6 months.
 

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You need to go reread and re add the years bc I said something different than what you wrote.

& Yes casual sex did ruin things and that’s modern feminism fault.

People who are healthy and realistic will still have relationships. If men don’t like xyz, then they can find a partner who aligns with them. Those who don’t will remain single.

I don’t think you know what your point was tbh
My point is, whatever you’re saying has never worked and has destroyed the black community, beyond terrestrial repair.
 

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Get married and stay married?

Yeah:ehh:

Its like this. When a man and a woman go through hell and back, they might as well stop p*ssyfooting and get to the courthouse or alter. Time is getting shorter by the essence and the dating scene is WOAT and continues to be terrible as technology, social destruction, and society crumbles. I take marriage seriously because there's no coming back from the "I Do". Once it's official, souls intertwine, bodies experiencing each other's pain, seasaw effects financially and emotionally, and other forms of obstacles will come to be the testament of faith between both parties.

I can tell from the picture that they are not going to last long. Not because of changes with feelings, but the fact that they haven't experienced a single damn thing to justify the "I Do".
 

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That 6 months was back when there was no internet and no casual sex, no premarital sex for some gens and the only options they had were who they met in their town irl. They were getting married at 18 just so they could fck at one point. Today is not the same.

Also, African women are always complaining about African men cheating, having multiple wives etc. and Africa has a very high false paternity rate, so y’all might want to rethink that 6 months.
Africans don't marry after 6 months anymore, outside of rural areas.

What Africa has to do with this?

Also, adding 3 years of dating to that 6 months does not solve the issue you named. People date for a long time today and it does not stop divorce number from rising.


Wasting years before marring is not an antidote, it's therefore a waste of time.
 
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