She Showed Up 10 Minutes Late to The Date

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Remote said:
Well I don't think the reason for being late matters. Not to me.
I think it's about setting the appropriate expectations. I mean this is common courtesy.

If you're going to be late, a quick call or text lets the other person know the situation and they can respond accordingly. Either he can leave, make other plans, or wait. But you're on the same page.

I mean we all do this in other aspects of our lives.
You're at your job and your boss wants you to complete a report. What do you do? You let them know when they can expect it, right? You don't just let the deadline pass and then email it 2 hours later.

I'm just making a broad point but you know what I mean, right?

So I'm not defending the girl. I just think the guy could have said he was leaving and she was inconsiderate and left it at that. Move on. I just don't like the ghosting part. Just my opinion.
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I'm not saying the reason matters. What I'm pointing out is that when you communicate with people, you're giving them more material to spin a narrative that works in their favour.

You leave and call someone inconsiderate, that is going to get spun into a story of you showing hostility for a perfectly sympathetic reason. Messages can get shown to people outside of context. You can get roped into an argument if you're not prepared to just dead things.

Walking away circumvent all of that. The person knows exactly why they were cut off and, as evidenced by the video posted, there's no wiggle room for them to create a story where you're the aggressor.
 
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Umoja said:
I'm not saying the reason matters. What I'm pointing out is that when you communicate with people, you're giving them more material to spin a narrative that works in their favour.

You leave and call someone inconsiderate, that is going to get spun into a story of you showing hostility for a perfectly sympathetic reason. Messages can get shown to people outside of context. You can get roped into an argument if you're not prepared to just dead things.

Walking away circumvent all of that. The person knows exactly why they were cut off and, as evidenced by the video posted, there's no wiggle room for them to create a story where you're the aggressor.
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I mean you do have a point.

I guess I would rather explain myself because I feel like that's the integrity move. I'm going to tell you why I left. You were late. You didn't give me a heads-up. I think that's disrespectful. It doesn't take a lot to send a quick text message, voice message, make a 10 second phone call.

If I just leave quietly, I don't open the door for the woman to try to justify her tardiness. That's true. You are right.

But in both circumstances, she's still going to make me look like the jerk no matter what. And if I'm going to be the jerk, you're at least going to know why. I'm not going to leave it up in the air. It's going to be clear.
 
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I like it. Social media is full of women telling you what they demand. I got no issue with standards, and it's time for dudes to play that game too. Lot of shyt would change if men had higher standards.
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Men without honorable men in their life have set the bar too low. At one point men demanded virgins to marry. Imagine that …
 
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Then she got mad that people were dragging her. "Guys it's just a skit, well how were people supposed to know that?


:comeon:



They want the attention not realizing all of the attention isn't going to be good attention
 
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Men aren’t shy about complaining about women to other men. Somehow it’s quite convenient to stay quiet when it comes to telling a woman why you’re upset? Ok.
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Internet brehs: i don't block any coli breh, even posters that ill never meet who troll and harass me, that's for punk p*ssy bytches!

IRL men: i'll hide and block girls that i want to put my tongue inside of if she dont text me back in 30 minutes!


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Remote said:
If he felt disrespected that she wasn’t on time and didn’t give him notice ahead of time, that’s fine. Everyone has their pet peeves.

But I don’t agree with him ghosting her like that. I think he should have communicated his frustration and disappointment.

Men aren’t shy about complaining about women to other men. Somehow it’s quite convenient to stay quiet when it comes to telling a woman why you’re upset? Ok.
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Wait.

So you would want him to be at the place and then when she texts at 6:10 that she is on her way, that he should spare her feelings and be honest with her, saving her time and energy when she wasn’t respectful of his :dahell:


Naw, if he drove and showed up and wasted his time, it’s ok for her to waste hers too :yeshrug:
 
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I mean you do have a point.

I guess I would rather explain myself because I feel like that's the integrity move. I'm going to tell you why I left. You were late. You didn't give me a heads-up. I think that's disrespectful. It doesn't take a lot to send a quick text message, voice message, make a 10 second phone call.

If I just leave quietly, I don't open the door for the woman to try to justify her tardiness. That's true. You are right.

But in both circumstances, she's still going to make me look like the jerk no matter what. And if I'm going to be the jerk, you're at least going to know why. I'm not going to leave it up in the air. It's going to be clear.
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No offense bro but you’re missing dudes whole point.
 
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I woulda had the meal if I'm sitting in a restaurant regardless of if they show up or not :pachaha:might as well make use of time spent
If they show up mid meal, I'm probably vibing off the good eats, possibly a good drink and will talk to them still 🤷‍♀️

I find my contentness in myself, can't always base it on the actions of others
 
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