She Showed Up 10 Minutes Late to The Date

[Serious]

@Serious What if you have to wait 30 minutes to be interviewd for a job? How would you take that? Say you have a job interview for 3:00 PM and then you arrive for the interview at 2:45 PM but they don't actually see you until 3:30-3:40 PM. How would you take that?

I might stay and hear them out, but I'm mostly going ghost off principle.

 

[Dave24]

I was 15 mins late to a date to the riverside (he put a lot if thought to it)
He said straight up

'My time is my money and i dont play with both'

I was never late to meet him again. Respect is respect

I don't think it would have been disrespectful to be 15 minutes late depending on the reason you were late. I would have understood and not said that to you. Now if you were 25-30 minutes late that wuld have been a different case. But just being 15 minutes late....

 

[Dave24]

I might stay and hear them out, but I'm mostly going ghost off principle.

Doctor appointments/medical appointments are another one now that I think about it. In those cases sometimes you don't really have a choice.

 

[Doobie Doo]

@Serious What if you have to wait 30 minutes to be interviewd for a job? How would you take that? Say you have a job interview for 3:00 PM and then you arrive for the interview at 2:45 PM but they don't actually see you until 3:30-3:40 PM. How would you take that?

unprofessional as fukk

 

[-DMP-]

I agree with this fictional scenario

 

[NkrumahWasRight Is Wrong]

As soon as you know you are going to be late, you message the other person. This is common sense. And yeah I'm definitely not paying for the date either if you're late

 

[Umoja]

I mean you do have a point.

I guess I would rather explain myself because I feel like that's the integrity move. I'm going to tell you why I left. You were late. You didn't give me a heads-up. I think that's disrespectful. It doesn't take a lot to send a quick text message, voice message, make a 10 second phone call.

If I just leave quietly, I don't open the door for the woman to try to justify her tardiness. That's true. You are right.

But in both circumstances, she's still going to make me look like the jerk no matter what. And if I'm going to be the jerk, you're at least going to know why. I'm not going to leave it up in the air. It's going to be clear.

A couple of things:

1) If you leave when someone waits until after they're late to give you the heads up, the reason is going to self-explanatory. You explaining why you walked away is not going to provide them with insight, it is going to provide them with material.

2) That material is often used to spin a narrative. You say that you will look like a jerk in either situation. It is limited when you do not engage with the person. Much of unfavourable stories are built around people taking sentences out of context which they would not be able to do if you simply walked away.

The talk of integrity is nice but, unless things are done out in the open, you're going to end up with people hearing/seeing what you have to say in unfavourable light.

 

[XannyWarbucks]

@Serious What if you have to wait 30 minutes to be interviewd for a job? How would you take that? Say you have a job interview for 3:00 PM and then you arrive for the interview at 2:45 PM but they don't actually see you until 3:30-3:40 PM. How would you take that?

That shyt is unprofessional as fukk. I brought that up at a place I was interviewing. If they want to fill a position, put some fukking effort for the people taking time out of work, or who are broke and have to waste their savings on this shyt.

 

[Dave24]

That shyt is unprofessional as fukk. I brought that up at a place I was interviewing. If they want to fill a position, put some fukking effort for the people taking time out of work, or who are broke and have to waste their savings on this shyt.

What did they say after you brought it up?

 

[XannyWarbucks]

What did they say after you brought it up?

What else? They Juelzed, and apologized. They said it wouldn't happen again (because they're probably not going to call me back for bringing that up). . I brought it up towards the end when they gave me the floor and went through corporate spiel for everything. I think they said, "We're desperate to fill this position" which I found funny because it's been up for more than a month and they had me waiting for 40 minutes on top of the 20 that I came early for.

 

[OperationNumbNutts]

It would be cool if she was clear of the time being 6:50 p.m. Did she get there at that time or sometime after 6 and waited. Still I can understand the dude's frustration though. The last couple of years I rarely have gone on dates where women are on time and it's mad annoying. Sometimes it'll take a while for me to get out my mood of being annoyed. -+

 

[Mazino]

shyt is fake as hell but still that's how to deal with such a situation if it arises

 

[Klawstrider]

I was 15 mins late to a date to the riverside (he put a lot if thought to it)
He said straight up

'My time is my money and i dont play with both'

I was never late to meet him again. Respect is respect

 

[Hoshi_Toshi]

I agree with this fictional scenario

Breh probably went to the bathroom and she decided to record that for content.

 

[Mass]

If he felt disrespected that she wasn’t on time and didn’t give him notice ahead of time, that’s fine. Everyone has their pet peeves.

But I don’t agree with him ghosting her like that. I think he should have communicated his frustration and disappointment.

Men aren’t shy about complaining about women to other men. Somehow it’s quite convenient to stay quiet when it comes to telling a woman why you’re upset? Ok.

She would have ghosted him.. His choice.