Should marriage be important to the black community?

[MammaSaidKnockYouOut]

Nah son. The blueprint is Black immigrants in the U.S. and their family structures, the rate at which they create businesses, major in profitable fields, and are filling up the elite colleges and universities in the U.S. Nigerian Americans are the most educated ethnic group in the U.S. Blacks from Africa and the Caribbean and their children are over 40% of Black students in America's elite colleges and universities, Blacks from Africa and the Caribbean earn and achieve educationally on par with Asian Americans and outearn most Whites.

Well that's a way more complex approach then what I had in mind. I wasn't thinking of taking over the U.S. economy I was just talking gettin the love and support and discipline in black families through two parent house holds. But I know there are broke families and people struggling out here in the black community too. But it's better to take it one step at a time.

 

[KamalaJones]

Well that's a way more complex approach then what I had in mind. I wasn't thinking of taking over the U.S. economy I was just talking gettin the love and support and discipline back in black families through two parent house holds. But I know there are broke families and people struggling out here in the black community too. But it's better to take it one step at a time.

Oh, and I forgot to mention that Black immigrants in the U.S. and their children have higher marriage rates than native born Black Americans. "Compared to U.S.-born black adults, a significantly higher share of black immigrant adults are currently married (28% among U.S. born versus 48% among foreign born). Looked at another way, just one-third (31%) of black immigrants adults have never been married, while half (49%) of U.S.-born blacks have never been married." I got the quoted portion from Chapter 1: Statistical Portrait of the U.S. Black Immigrant Population

 

[Cynic]

Yeah because slavery, Jim Crow, drugs, and white supremacy had no impact on why our family structure is fukked up. Yall stay kissing white people's ass like they're so perfect and smart. They're just devils.

THIS RIGHT fukkING HERE!!

Other cultures look at marriage as a business. Not saying they don't "fall' in love but its expected you must get married and have a family unit. A lot of the men still cheat fukk around, have side chicks but they know they must get married because that is what is expected to establish a foundation for the family.

Also American whites get married quick but they asses are quick to divorce too. And the number of white single moms IS NEVER going to be reported accurately....keep believing all these numbers. How many white chicks YOU know slutting it up. Yet they abortion and OOW baby numbers are sooooo much lower than black women . Are white chicks REALLY having that much less sex .

I told the story before about how I did clinicals at a private OBY/GYN clinic of mostly middle upper class white women and let me tell you there shyt is covered up or kept "private" ......but black women at the health department and Planned Parenthood stay being "studied" and always signing away rights to have their "information" used in studies as a result of using government ran clinics and healthcare

We were divorcing due slavery ?

The same Jim Crow that created a black utopia in Tulsa ?


You think whites ain't affected by feminism

 

[DrX]

marriage is pointless if 2 ppl cant sacrifice and have a strong connection....BM and BW need to put their differences aside and learn how to become friends first...before focusing on marriage

 

[Timeis$]

We were divorcing due slavery ?

The same Jim Crow that created a black utopia in Tulsa ?


You think whites ain't affected by feminism

So years of having families ripped apart, fathers,mothers, kids being separated, not being counted as human, had no effect on the black family okaaaaaaaay if you say so.

 

[Cynic]

So years of having families ripped apart, fathers,mothers, kids being separated, not being counted as human, had no effect on the black family okaaaaaaaay if you say so.

We were a family unit for 400 years of all that and in one generation that deteriorated....

Keep capin for feminism though

 

[Easy-E]

That was before porn, no fault divorce, child robbery and alimony.

So what's the benefit today ?

All the "benefits" are their, they culture.

Still, no nation is ran by a baby dad die and 'nem.

 

[Deflatedhoopdreams]

I'm #GMB and no kids

But if you want to have kids and live that normal lifestyle you should value marriage.

 

[Timeis$]

We were a family unit for 400 years of all that and in one generation that deteriorated....

Keep capin for feminism though

It didn't deteriorate in one generation and how the fukk can you say we had good family units when we WERE fukkING SLAVES. Yeah we SURVIVED but you act like it has NO EFFECT on the black family unit.

shyt took a turn for the worse in the 1960s due to numerous factors feminism is one but then why is the white family unit better than blacks at this point if feminism was the sole factor which was started by and practiced by many white women?? Because that wasn't the only factor. Drugs being dropped in black communities had no impact right?? It was just feminism right? Some of you are so one track minded for daps.

 

[Cynic]

All the "benefits" are their, they culture.

Still, no nation is ran by a baby dad die and 'nem.

Just as I thought.... no benefits to modern marriage :hitunes:

 

[Rawtid]

And, this is what's wrong with most Black Americans. Low expectations; no hope; no standards. Multi-generational living but most of the kids are being raised by women so the kids will be living with multiple generations of Black women who each have a net worth of like $5. How in the hell will these children not be impoverished?

I don't feel it's a low expectation to shy away from raising children in the "traditional" family. There is a general aversion to marriage and not just in the black community. Also there is a difference between a hoodrat moving in with her already poor mother and a woman with a decent paying job, sharing a home with family members and creating a six figure household.

 

[kaldurahm]

I volunteer within my community. From what I've seen yes, or at least some of these kids need positive role models hopefully male and female.

You look at the kids and they're generally good kids, but the environment will screw it up.

I don't know why people say marriage is not the norm amongst black people. Africans always get married and they have some of the most successful marriages. I know plenty that have been married for 10+ years

 

[KamalaJones]

I don't feel it's a low expectation to shy away from raising children in the "traditional" family. There is a general aversion to marriage and not just in the black community. Also there is a difference between a hoodrat moving in with her already poor mother and a woman with a decent paying job, sharing a home with family members and creating a six figure household.

I know that. But, most Black women have a net worth of $5. Most Blacks are poor so very few Black children would benefit from the living arrangement you're talking about unless some men are living in those homes.

 

[Cynic]

It didn't deteriorate in one generation and how the fukk can you say we had good family units when we WERE fukkING SLAVES. Yeah we SURVIVED but you act like it has NO EFFECT on the black family unit.

shyt took a turn for the worse in the 1960s due to numerous factors feminism is one but then why is the white family unit better than blacks at this point if feminism was the sole factor which was started by and practiced by many white women?? Because that wasn't the only factor. Drugs being dropped in black communities had no impact right?? It was just feminism right? Some of you are so one track minded for daps.

So marriage rates continued after 2nd wave feminism, right ?

And being slaves made them bad family units ?

put it like this......


Black patriarchy with men at the helm = Tulsa, OKC....... all black everything with low crime rate

Black feminism ?

 

[Rawtid]

I know that. But, most Black women have a net worth of $5. Most Blacks are poor so very few Black children would benefit from the living arrangement you're talking about unless some men are living in those homes.

I don't agree. These situations allow for families to live in better areas in terms of schooling and even allow more disposable income to go towards private schooling. Children do fair better in these conditions. Net worth is important overall but it's really not a factor in the day to day financial needs of children.