MrPentatonic
Superstar
Be wary of anybody who is against building strong black families & family ties through marriage. They are preaching stagnation at the very least or destruction at the very most.
Should marriage be important to the black community?
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I definitely agree, but as a woman who is older, and wants more children, I have the right to go with an alternative. I will physically be unable to have children after a certain time and I cant' assume i will find a man on the same page about marriage and parenting before that time frame is up. I don't want you to think my views are lighthearted, this is something I've thought about heavily.
filial_piety
Banned
Absolutely. It's probably the single most destructive force harming the black community today.
That being said, that doesn't mean that it's the best thing for Black Men specifically.
A lot of marriages come with a sacrifice, especially for men in general.
One issue is at odds with the other.
That being said, that doesn't mean that it's the best thing for Black Men specifically.
A lot of marriages come with a sacrifice, especially for men in general.
One issue is at odds with the other.
emerald
Mother Earth
worth the read.
this chick from the motherland is ride or die.
her cheating husband's jump-offs be sending her screen shots.
Monday, April 4
Caroline Danjuma clears the air on her marriage status and husband's cheating ways
Caroline’s billionaire husband, Musa Danjuma has been accused, several times of having multiple extra-marital affairs, and fathering a child with a mistress.
On April 2, he was again spotted at Villa Medici restaurant, Victoria Island, Lagos, with a yet-to-be identified woman, enjoying what appeared to be an intimate dinner for two. Caroline first reacted to the story by having a good laugh. She just came clean of her relationship status and how she's dealing with her husband's cheating.
Please read what the actress just shared on her IG page.
- See more at: Caroline Danjuma clears the air on her marriage status and husband's cheating ways | Nigerian: Breaking News In Nigeria | Laila's Blog
she's staying in an open marriage because he's a good father (idk how cheating on your wife and putting their lives in danger makes you a good role model to your kids) and for the financial benefits. like I said, the quality of black marriages like this are very poor.
He didn't say shyt about marriage though lol you can get kids from anyone. Half the time that's all dude is offering.
ottorocket
All Star
If anything we should be pushing for arranged marriages.
EpicStoryTeller
Blazé Blazé
I'll pass on marriage and settle for a lifetime relationship, that way I'm not binded legally and if we split we just go our separate ways.
Folks will disagree but marriage is just a job title to a shytty ass contact and mostly benefits the woman
Folks will disagree but marriage is just a job title to a shytty ass contact and mostly benefits the woman
We need the more attractive black women to stop talking to Harry potter lookin ass white dudes
And that goes for light skin too
If you ugly it's alright, you can go with the white dudes
- blackierobinson
And that goes for light skin too
If you ugly it's alright, you can go with the white dudes
- blackierobinson
a few months back i posted an Atlantic magazine article on the break down of the family. it's been occurring for decades.
The Black Family in the Age of Mass Incarceration
All the baby mama bullshyt is not very healthy. You see all this about "my bm want me to buy her other kids shoes but I only buy for mine". Babymamas telling the kids they father ain't shyt. Drama between new bf/gf and bm/bd. And the main thing: kids raising themselves cause they moms is 22 and out doing her.
All these lost ass youth are products of broken homes. Can't even call it a broken home cause all it ever was was a niqqa tryna get a nut and a woman without discipline enough to employ birth control methods.
Welfare. Is a fukcing trap. You pay people to sit around.. they gonna sit around.
The two parent set up is best for the kids and ultimately best for the community. The problem with us is like the problem with fat people. We just grin and tell them they are doing a great job. We don't even bat an eyelash when a 16 YO gets preggo. We throw a party.
Selfishness is the difference. Backinnaday my grands didn't even talk hardly, but they held it down together. They forgot about personal fun and focused on us.
My mom's was one of the OG babymamas from 75. I got out ok for the most part but Baby Bro did 20 in the box. Most of my homies robbed and sold crack. All had single parents.
All these lost ass youth are products of broken homes. Can't even call it a broken home cause all it ever was was a niqqa tryna get a nut and a woman without discipline enough to employ birth control methods.
Welfare. Is a fukcing trap. You pay people to sit around.. they gonna sit around.
The two parent set up is best for the kids and ultimately best for the community. The problem with us is like the problem with fat people. We just grin and tell them they are doing a great job. We don't even bat an eyelash when a 16 YO gets preggo. We throw a party.
Selfishness is the difference. Backinnaday my grands didn't even talk hardly, but they held it down together. They forgot about personal fun and focused on us.
My mom's was one of the OG babymamas from 75. I got out ok for the most part but Baby Bro did 20 in the box. Most of my homies robbed and sold crack. All had single parents.
There's no "religion aside"...it's plays a huge part of the social fabric there
There are huge expectations from parents, friends and family members...
They bring their language and customs with them once they are here and their kids
if they don't fall under the influence of others ...replicate the model they were raised under
Dominant husband >>>> subservient wife ( how marriage should be/was intended)
Their value system is completely different... so it's not applicable to westerners
who see divorce and children out of wedlock as normal....
Marriage is economically beneficial for the woman and the state in America/Europe
It's a one sided contract with a sole benefactor
GMB
Concerning VIolence
Decolonizer
Yes, it should.