Should Men Always -- Or Even Usually -- Pay For Dates?
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a question that hardly get answered seriously 
KinksandCoils
African American Queen
I've already answered this. If a man is going to be the head of the household and the bread winner than he can pay for some dates. this has never been an issue until yall 2010 nikkas that dont understand basic concepts that have been used for 100s of yrs. if a man cant pay for dates he aint gonna take care of the house. Your father, grandfather, great grandfather, etc all knew what was up. do you think women were paying for dates back then?
Why would any woman want to get with a man that didnt want to pay for shyt? when she can get with a man that has no problem paying for his lady?
a woman can pay too of course.
Kuwka_Atcha_Ratcha
Superstar
man of the house? so he has to pay more to be man of the house? i thought being man of the house ment the man who lives in the house he owns. so manhood is directly linked to finances? so if a man doesn't want to pay for all dates because he feels its unfiar he somehow wont take care of the house? what research do you have to back this up? so if he doesn't want to pay for all the meals he will somehow i dunno.. some how not pay the light or gas bill?
women didn't pay for dates decades ago and even hundreds of years ago because a) alot of women were not allowed to work or offered jobs, and b) were paid next to nothing, literally hardly anything. so men had to pick up the slack. fast forward to 2015 women are not limited like they once were they can earn the same wage and more.
ask the same question, why would a man want to get with a woman that never wants to spend, when he can get with a woman that does?
you logic is terrible flawed.
bitter
prude
twit
with gold digger game
Why? Because I disagree with you saying all Black women do one thing? Where are your receipts for your baseless claims?
Ol fling mud to detract from my ignorance brehs...
Youseenmywork
KING
Anything you do in life should be to invest in yourself[/QUOTE]
very underrated post. Society has changed the game FOREVER putting women before men. Hell even gays have more of a say so than men. This is why i look at relationships as a gladiator sport.
very underrated post. Society has changed the game FOREVER putting women before men. Hell even gays have more of a say so than men. This is why i look at relationships as a gladiator sport.
Jhoon
Spontaneous Mishaps and Hijinks
This gender roles shyt goes both ways.
Women complain that men don't like gender roles when it applies to them...like having to approach men or pay for dates.
Men complain that women don't like gender roles when it applies to them...like cooking, cleaning, staying home and raising kids.
You want to hold on to the shyt that YOU like, and then modernize the shyt you DON'T like.
Women: You have to approach me. Pay for the date. I'm a traditional girl. What? Cooking? Cleaning? No. Let's share those.
Vice versa for men.
You people want to have your cake and eat it too.
You can't.
Women complain that men don't like gender roles when it applies to them...like having to approach men or pay for dates.
Men complain that women don't like gender roles when it applies to them...like cooking, cleaning, staying home and raising kids.
You want to hold on to the shyt that YOU like, and then modernize the shyt you DON'T like.
Women: You have to approach me. Pay for the date. I'm a traditional girl. What? Cooking? Cleaning? No. Let's share those.
Vice versa for men.
You people want to have your cake and eat it too.
You can't.
KinksandCoils
African American Queen
you dont listen. clearly i said a woman can pay too and she should pay sometimes. I simply said a man should pay more. And yea men are typically the bread winners. I dont need to do research because you already know the deal. Women have been able to work for a long ass time now. How did I know you were gonna bring that sorry ass argument up? lol Men have been paying for dates even when the woman has had a job. Basically you 2010 nikkas are cheap as shyt. Just get with a girl who doesnt care if you dont pay for anything. its no point in quoting me back.
A man should pay for more dates than a woman should.. period.
KinksandCoils
African American Queen
True. It's like this... I don't like to cook but I can cook. I automatically know that when I get married I will have to do most of the cooking and cleaning because what man is gonna want a woman that doesn't do those things? Same goes for a man, he should be willing to fork over a little extra money to pay for dates. We have gender roles that not everyone follows but they are still there for most people.This gender roles shyt goes both ways.
Women complain that men don't like gender roles when it applies to them...like having to approach men or pay for dates.
Men complain that women don't like gender roles when it applies to them...like cooking, cleaning, staying home and raising kids.
You want to hold on to the shyt that YOU like, and then modernize the shyt you DON'T like.
Women: You have to approach me. Pay for the date. I'm a traditional girl. What? Cooking? Cleaning? No. Let's share those.
Vice versa for men.
You people want to have your cake and eat it too.
You can't.
Kuwka_Atcha_Ratcha
Superstar
no you didn't read right, why should it not be 50/50? why oh sometimes yeah she can pay. it should be 50/50. what don't you understand i never said women haven't been able to work, i said the tradition of women not paying started when they were PAID way less.
the irony of you, someone who doesn't think you should pay as much, telling a man he is cheap for thinking things should be fair. do you understand how stupid that is?
you have proven you have an idea but not logical reason as to why that idea lives in your mind, you just have it because thats what you're conditioned to believe instead of questioning it. which makes you stupid.
KinksandCoils
African American Queen
It can be 50/50 if thats what the couple wants. I am not speaking for other relationships because people do all sorts of things. I said that the man should pay more because thats what I want. If sally sue up the street wants to pay for every damn date thats her business.
anyways......
Now what else would be 50/50? Is cleaning 50/50? is cooking 50/50? is changing diapers, giving the kids baths 50/50 etc? the bottom line is that the modern woman these days does way more than the man. Not only does she work full time she also comes home, cooks, and takes care of the kids. and this info was presented in my psych book but it doesnt matter anyways because you know thats what women do.
Now if a woman is doing that than a man can at least come out of his pocket more financially. Like I said before every man has understood this basic concept except for cheap ass broke men of the 2010's shoot even broke men back in the day knew women expected for men to pay for dates and be the bread winners.
Kuwka_Atcha_Ratcha
Superstar
but why don't you want to go 50/50?
i cant even understand your logic, you say you dont want to pay 50/50 then you call men who believe women should pay 50/50 cheap. do you understand why that makes no sense? you're the one objecting to paying yet you call other cheap and broke.
nah, ...cant be feeding random bytches cheddar biscuits at red lobsters.
Youseenmywork
KING
Women dont think logicly there emotional more than anything else. They'll have thought but no purpose behind that thought and worse no philosophy wit most the things they do in life. Something ive learned being 30yrs old is at the end of your FEELINGS is nothing BUT at the end of every PRINCIPAL is a promise. Men just have to be more principle when dealing with women.
women almost never initiate a date.