Should Men Always -- Or Even Usually -- Pay For Dates?

[philmonroe]

you dont listen. clearly i said a woman can pay too and she should pay sometimes. I simply said a man should pay more. And yea men are typically the bread winners. I dont need to do research because you already know the deal. Women have been able to work for a long ass time now. How did I know you were gonna bring that sorry ass argument up? lol Men have been paying for dates even when the woman has had a job. Basically you 2010 nikkas are cheap as shyt. Just get with a girl who doesnt care if you dont pay for anything. its no point in quoting me back.
A man should pay for more dates than a woman should.. period.

I don't think a person who isn't kicking out money theirselves and is ready to goto war over not paying $30-40 themselves to get know a person is in the greatest position to call anybody cheap.

 

[KinksandCoils]

but why don't you want to go 50/50?

i cant even understand your logic, you say you dont want to pay 50/50 then you call men who believe women should pay 50/50 cheap. do you understand why that makes no sense? you're the one objecting to paying yet you call other cheap and broke.

Ive paid for things plenty of times and those all happen to be with selfish men. It takes a certain type of man that says he doesnt want for his lady to have to pay and thats the man I want. I dont mind paying for things so its not that. Also I'm a very cheap person so even when someone pays for me they arent paying much. I never order anything over 12.99 at restaurants anyways. So if a man asks me out and he doesnt offer to pay its like but my dates pay

 

[KinksandCoils]

I don't think a person who isn't kicking out money theirselves and is ready to goto war over not paying $30-40 themselves to get know a person is in the greatest position to call anybody cheap.

Ive paid for plenty of things so you arent talking about me... again I said women should pay too. its not like Im saying that a woman should never come out of her pocket or at least offer. I am not the woman that has set there and let a man pay for everything.

 

[philmonroe]

Ive paid for plenty of things so you arent talking about me... again I said women should pay too. its not like Im saying that a woman should never come out of her pocket or at least offer. I am not the woman that has set there and let a man pay for everything.

Honestly I'm for whatever dating style works for the individual persons relationship but I'm just not for the we only enforcing gender roles that benefit you stuff. If I do all the "traditional" things I don't want a chick bytching about unfairness on her stuff. That's how I roll and mainly online some chicks do that and its pick one for me cause I be damned if we both don't compromise on something lol.

 

[Solo ✧✦✧]

Whenever a thread is made about this subject matter it always reminds me of why entitled women should be tossed in the bushes. It's so much easier to do something for someone who does not think they're entitled to it because of their gender.

 

[KinksandCoils]

Honestly I'm for whatever dating style works for the individual persons relationship but I'm just not for the we only enforcing gender roles that benefit you stuff. If I do all the "traditional" things I don't want a chick bytching about unfairness on her stuff. That's how I roll and mainly online some chicks do that and its pick one for me cause I be damned if we both don't compromise on something lol.

men love gender roles until it comes to payin for something
a man wants to be head of the household
he wants to make more money than her
he wants her to do most of the taking care of the kids (feeding,changing,bathing them, staying in when sick, etc)
He wants her to clean, probably wants her to cook.
If the kid is sick and yall cant find a baby sitter chances are its the woman stays home from work with the kid
tell me im wrong.

Now what gender role other than paying for shyt do men have problems with

 

[mamba]

I've already answered this. If a man is going to be the head of the household and the bread winner than he can pay for some dates. this has never been an issue until yall 2010 nikkas that dont understand basic concepts that have been used for 100s of yrs. if a man cant pay for dates he aint gonna take care of the house. Your father, grandfather, great grandfather, etc all knew what was up. do you think women were paying for dates back then?

Why would any woman want to get with a man that didnt want to pay for shyt? when she can get with a man that has no problem paying for his lady?

a woman can pay too of course.

100 years ago, women also didn't have a calendar of dinner dates lined up from a simp roster they've amassed from Twitter, Tumblr, Facebook, Instagram, POF, Tagged, etc.

Our fathers, grandfathers, and great grandfathers didn't have to worry about paying for something dozens of other nikkas had already had free access to.

Chicks want to bring up how men treated women 100 years ago as if they are the same quality of women from 100 years ago. with that bullshyt.

 

[mamba]

ask the same question, why would a man want to get with a woman that never wants to spend, when he can get with a woman that does?

Exactly. I only deal with women who break open the purse from time to time.

There's no place for leeches and users in my life.

 

[GrindtooFilthy]

I'm going to pull out a bullshyt analogy that you males seem to love. If I invite you to a party at my house I don't expect you to bring food drinks, etc. It's the same for a date. If YOU ask someone to go somewhere then YOU pay. If they ask you then YOU pay, and THAT is equality.

what the fukk kind of logic is this

, if i ask i pay if you ask you pay


and no if invite people to a party 9/10 they always bring food regardless even though i be cheffin it up

 

[mamba]

women almost never initiate a date.

Nope. And if she does, you better believe it's going to be some cheap shyt or some discounted shyt with a Groupon.

Let a nikka plan a date and pull out coupons or some Groupon shyt.

 

[KinksandCoils]

100 years ago, women also didn't have a calendar of dinner dates lined up from a simp roster they've amassed from Twitter, Tumblr, Facebook, Instagram, POF, Tagged, etc.

Our fathers, grandfathers, and great grandfathers didn't have to worry about paying for something dozens of other nikkas had already had free access to.

Chicks want to bring up how men treated women 100 years ago as if they are the same quality of women from 100 years ago. with that bullshyt.

If you think every girl is doing that than I suggest you not bother with those platforms. Just like I got off that shyt. and instagram doesnt count because its just pictures.

 

[mamba]

If you think every girl is doing that than I suggest you not bother with those platforms. Just like I got off that shyt. and instagram doesnt count because its just pictures.

@ that Instagram comment. I'm not sure if you meant that as a joke!

 

[KinksandCoils]

@ that Instagram comment. I'm not sure if you meant that as a joke!

instagram isnt a dating platform. If you use it as such thats your business.

 

[skeetsinternal]

Nope. And if she does, you better believe it's going to be some cheap shyt or some discounted shyt with a Groupon.

Let a nikka plan a date and pull out coupons or some Groupon shyt.

i been grouponed before. I appreciated it tho.

 

[flipstacks]

why do you think this? what is the foundation for your logic?

It's gentlemanly and attractive to pay for a date.