Should Men Always -- Or Even Usually -- Pay For Dates?

[Chill]

What city do you live in?

Detroit, spend a good amount of time in ATL.

 

[Taadow]

Your always competing though and people honestly know it. That's why some cats are nervous to talk to certain girls cause they assume by the stuff they are wearing, how she carries herself, etc if they think they can get with her because of who it looks like she deals with even if its not true. That's where nervousness comes in at then add on if your not confident in your own situation that just compound things. I think its less comp than people think cause more than a few guys are shook at getting at chicks esp they badder they are or perceived to be.

I agree, and this is why at times you see (for lack of a better word) "average" dudes
with a superbad notch and wonder how he got her. If he ain't nervous about his situation
or being "out of his league", he'll just go up and lay his game flat.

 

[Jahmal]

Detroit, spend a good amount of time in ATL.

A lot of women in ATL are serial daters. They have different dudes taking them out everyday and the only interest they have in the guy is how many free meals they can get out of him. I no longer date anymore. I just invite chicks over to my condo in Atlantic Station, smash and kick them out.

 

[Jahmal]

I remember years ago I took a fly ass chick on a date. The date went well and we even made out in the parking lot afterwards. The next day I went out to a sports bar with my boys and saw her on a date with another dude. She didnt see me because I posotioned myself in a way that she wouldnt be able to see my face. Two days later I was walking around at the mall and saw her in a restaurant with another dude. I deleted her number. These women getting all these free meals from guys and the guys wont even get a whiff of the p*ssy.

 

[Chill]

A lot of women in ATL are serial daters. They have different dudes taking them out everyday and the only interest they have in the guy is how many free meals they can get out of him. I no longer date anymore. I just invite chicks over to my condo in Atlantic Station, smash and kick them out.

Possibly so, but that's women everywhere. I'm not too fond of having a roster and would rather just have that one chick to hold me down so I gotta play differently. If I find she's on some bullshyt then it ain't like I can't find anyone else. If I got options then I'm assuming she has options since I haven't given her a title yet.

 

[Jahmal]

Possibly so, but that's women everywhere. I'm not too fond of having a roster and would rather just have that one chick to hold me down so I gotta play differently. If I find she's on some bullshyt then it ain't like I can't find anyone else. If I got options then I'm assuming she has options since I haven't given her a title yet.

Dinner dates should be reserved for someone you are exclusively dating. How would you feel if you took a chick you met out on 5 dinner dates and then you invited her over your crib and she flakes? Would you still be after you spent all that money and wasted time?

 

[Chill]

Dinner dates should be reserved for someone you are exclusively dating. How would you feel if you took a chick you met out on 5 dinner dates and then you invited her over your crib and she flakes?

Charge it to the game, cut her off, and move on.

 

[Jahmal]

Charge it to the game, cut her off, and move on.

Ok so you charge her to the game...

You meet another pretty woman and you go out on 3 dinner dates. On the fourth "date" , You invite her over to your place to watch movies and she says she doesnt want to be in the house and suggests going out to a new steakhouse that her homegirl tells her about. Do you take her out to said steakhouse?

 

[Kuwka_Atcha_Ratcha]

Women dont think logicly there emotional more than anything else. They'll have thought but no purpose behind that thought and worse no philosophy wit most the things they do in life. Something ive learned being 30yrs old is at the end of your FEELINGS is nothing BUT at the end of every PRINCIPAL is a promise. Men just have to be more principle when dealing with women.

breh, this chick talking about yeah men should pay more.... just cause. with no reasoning or logic. smh then says if men dont pay more they are cheap lol wth.

 

[Chill]

Ok so you charge her to the game...

You meet another pretty woman and you go out on 3 dinner dates. On the fourth "date" , You invite her over to your place to watch movies and she says she doesnt want to be in the house and suggests going out to a new steakhouse that her homegirl tells her about. Do you take her out to said steakhouse?

Tell her maybe another time and see if she brings it up in the future and suggest something else. Keep a close eye on her in the coming time to how she reacts to different types of dates.

 

[Kuwka_Atcha_Ratcha]

I don't think a person who isn't kicking out money theirselves and is ready to goto war over not paying $30-40 themselves to get know a person is in the greatest position to call anybody cheap.

exactly, a woman saying she doesn't want to spend much, is calling other cheap

 

[Kuwka_Atcha_Ratcha]

It's gentlemanly and attractive to pay for a date.

that isn't logic, there is no founding reason for this. so my question remains.

 

[Jahmal]

Tell her maybe another time and see if she brings it up in the future and suggest something else. Keep a close eye on her in the coming time to how she reacts to different types of dates.

She hits you up a few days later and says "Hey Chill, I'm on your side of town. Lets get drinks at this new Martini place nearby" Would you go?

 

[flipstacks]

that isn't logic, there is no founding reason for this. so my question remains.

where does logic really lie in this? i can give a lot of reasons, but you probably won't find them logical

 

[Kuwka_Atcha_Ratcha]

where does logic really lie in this? i can give a lot of reasons, but you probably won't find them logical

i don't think you understand logic, you cant say men should pay because its gentleman thing to do, because who decides whats gentleman thing to do? why is it a gentleman thing to do? why should ANYONE aspire to be a gentleman? and if it is the gentleman thing to do wouldnt the woman paying be the lady like thing to do? this is why the logic in your belief doesn't tally up.