Should Men Always -- Or Even Usually -- Pay For Dates?

[Jahmal]

It tells me that she's on some bullshyt. But In my experience I've had a woman return the favor for the dates I take her on. I've even had her invite me to a place that I didn't have to pay for anything and she covered it all. But for the most part I just prefer to pay.

So out of all the women you've dated and the thousands of dollars spent, only 1 woman has returned the favor. How nice of her!

 

[philmonroe]

It tells me that she's on some bullshyt. But In my experience I've had a woman return the favor for the dates I take her on. I've even had her invite me to a place that I didn't have to pay for anything and she covered it all. But for the most part I just prefer to pay.

Anyways I'm done with this topic, you have your ways to success and I have mine.

I don't think anybody wants to ever pay lol. Its just whats the norm so cats just roll with it and for most dudes it makes them "feel" like a man. The chick going to usually still act a fool if she chooses paying don't sot that esp now. I don't care if you pay or not if that's what works for you I just don't think you or most dudes really want to pay. If I said you could get all these chicks you get now without paying. They just come over and the relationship ends up the same regardless if you pay or not would you still pay or just have them come over? Its unrealistic but just to make you wonder do you really want to do something or is it just what we've been socialized to do.

 

[Jahmal]

This conversation sounds like an invitation from a platonic guy friend. I don't expect platonic guy friends to pay for my meals.

edit: oh that's me inviting a guy out. Again, that sounds like a platonic invitation that I'd send to a platonic guy friend. I'd expect us to pay for our own food.

KenyaDoll: Hey what are you doing?
Man: chillin whats good
KenyaDoll: I'm in your area visiting my homegirl. Have you eaten lunch yet?
Man: No I havent


^^^ How would the rest of this conversation play out if it wasnt a Platonic friend?

 

[KenyaDoll]

KenyaDoll: Hey what are you doing?
Man: chillin whats good
KenyaDoll: I'm in your area visiting my homegirl. Have you eaten lunch yet?
Man: No I havent


^^^ How would the rest of this conversation play out if it wasnt a Platonic friend?

If a guy isn't my man, I am not going to randomly hit up trying to go out to eat just because I'm in his area.

That conversation would only happen with a platonic friend.

 

[KenyaDoll]

My goal wasnt to make him feel bad. It was to make him admit that he was raised as a Trick and I was successful at getting him to admit that.

Your entire purpose has been judgment and trying to make him feel like he is bad/wrong.

 

[Kuwka_Atcha_Ratcha]

This conversation sounds like an invitation from a platonic guy friend. I don't expect platonic guy friends to pay for my meals.

edit: oh that's me inviting a guy out. Again, that sounds like a platonic invitation that I'd send to a platonic guy friend. I'd expect us to pay for our own food.

so you expect non platonic males to feed you?

 

[Jahmal]

If a guy isn't my man, I am not going to randomly hit up trying to go out to eat just because I'm in his area.

That conversation would only happen with a platonic friend.

Women who are feeling me hit me up with that "I'm in you neighborhood line. Have you eaten yet?" line all the time. I live in a nice area of Atlanta with excellent restaurants. I know exactly what game they are trying to run. They hit me up with that line hoping that I say "No, I haven't eaten yet. Lets meet up at XYZ restaurant for brunch." I just tell them to come over, I have them cook for me, smash and kick them out of my condo.

 

[KenyaDoll]

Women who are feeling me hit me up with that "I'm in you neighborhood line. Have you eaten yet?" line all the time. I live in a nice area of Atlanta with excellent restaurants. I know exactly what game they are trying to run. They hit me up with that line hoping that I say "No, I haven't eaten yet. Lets meet up at XYZ restaurant for brunch." I just tell them to come over, I have them cook for me, smash and kick them out of my condo.

More power to you brother man.

 

[Jahmal]

If a guy isn't my man, I am not going to randomly hit up trying to go out to eat just because I'm in his area.

That conversation would only happen with a platonic friend.

So if you were in a guy's neighborhood ,who you liked, on a Saturday afternoon you wouldn't hit him up and try to see him?

 

[KenyaDoll]

so you expect non platonic males to feed you?

I expect a man who asked me on a date to pay. I don't need a date and I don't need anyone to feed me so I can honestly take it or leave it since I can guarantee that I'm not pursuing him.

 

[KenyaDoll]

So if you were in a guy's neighborhood ,who you liked, on a Saturday afternoon you wouldn't hit him up and try to see him?

No. I wouldn't. If I want to see someone enough I will make actual plans. Who randomly trolls people neighborhood looking for food?

 

[Jahmal]

Your entire purpose has been judgment and trying to make him feel like he is bad/wrong.

I was successful at getting him to admit he is a Trick. He is content at being a Trick and he isn't going to change. That's cool with me. The world needs men like him to satisfy the hunger and quench the thirst of these women out chea.

 

[Jahmal]

No. I wouldn't. If I want to see someone enough I will make actual plans. Who randomly trolls people neighborhood looking for food?

Women!

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/art...Craigslist-OKCupid-dates-just-free-meals.html

New York fashion blogger Brittny Pierre is not ashamed to admit that she had gone out on dozens of dates with men for the sole purpose of getting a square meal.

Pierre, who has been writing for Village Voice Media and a hip hop website, made the confession in a piece written in the first person that appeared on the feminist blog XOJane this week.

The woman detailed how she would meet her 'victims' on the dating site OKCupid and through Craigslist, and would go out for dinner three times a week with different men, allowing them to foot the bill every time.

 

[KenyaDoll]

Women!

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/art...Craigslist-OKCupid-dates-just-free-meals.html

New York fashion blogger Brittny Pierre is not ashamed to admit that she had gone out on dozens of dates with men for the sole purpose of getting a square meal.

Pierre, who has been writing for Village Voice Media and a hip hop website, made the confession in a piece written in the first person that appeared on the feminist blog XOJane this week.

The woman detailed how she would meet her 'victims' on the dating site OKCupid and through Craigslist, and would go out for dinner three times a week with different men, allowing them to foot the bill every time.

I'm talking about regular women who are actually interested in dating guys. There are lot of bloggers who have done the free date thing.

 

[Jahmal]

I'm talking about regular women who are actually interested in dating guys. There are lot of bloggers who have done the free date thing.

You think only bloggers are going out for free meals. The everyday regular woman is meeting guys in clubs and on apps like POF and TINDER and have a line of Tricks offering to take them out for free meals. Regular women are going out with guys they arent feeling just because he offers to take them to a fancy restaurant. I see women on dates with guys they arent attracted to all the time. These women cant even make eye contact with the dude. They are just there for free food.

The trick thinks she is feeling him because he took her out on a bunch of expensive dates and when he finally musters up the courage to invite her over his place or go for a kiss he gets rejected and never hears from the woman again.