Should Men Always -- Or Even Usually -- Pay For Dates?

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I like how @Yup conviently skipped my response.

Did your parents raise you to accept hand outs from men? And, if a woman always pays for everything, are you OK with that?
women don't look at a man paying for dates as a hand out. Her parents probably told her that the man should pay. This is something that most parents and grandparents say to the young women in their fam
 

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women don't look at a man paying for dates as a hand out. Her parents probably told her that the man should pay. This is something that most parents and grandparents say to the young women in their fam

Do your parents tell you to not sleep with multiple men and to always submit to the man?
 

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women don't look at a man paying for dates as a hand out. Her parents probably told her that the man should pay. This is something that most parents and grandparents say to the young women in their fam

It doesn't matter what women "look" at it as, its a hand out.

No most parents don't, what type of parenting skills is teaching your daughter to expect to be paid for in life and not being responsible for herself? What happened to the independent movement

And like I asked in the post, how do you feel about women always paying?
 

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It doesn't matter what women "look" at it as, its a hand out.

No most parents don't, what type of parenting skills is teaching your daughter to expect to be paid for in life and not being responsible for herself? What happened to the independent movement

And like I asked in the post, how do you feel about women always paying?
if u are a man u cant speak on this. As a matter of fact from your response i can tell that u are clueless to the advice young girls are given in life. Also this is just about paying for dates not everything.and i didnt say the man should always pay. Yup did.not me
 

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if u are a man u cant speak on this. As a matter of fact from your response i can tell that u are clueless to the advice young girls are given in life

You didn't answer my question.

Grew up with 2 sisters and female cousin in the house. My ma taught me how to cook for myself so I wouldn't ever have to depend on a women

And my old man taught my sisters to make their own money (accountant and nurse) and never rely on a man or anyone

Wrong on that point but answer the question you keep dodging? Or are you avoiding it because you already know where it's going?

Just be straight up, don't lie or bullshyt to prove a point
 

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yea. Submitting is fine as long as he is a good man that im married to. I dont need to submit now cause im not married.

So, going by your logic, a man need not pay for dates for women that aren't his wife.

And I bet you've slept with multiple men.
 

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You didn't answer my question.

Grew up with 2 sisters and female cousin in the house. My ma taught me how to cook for myself so I wouldn't ever have to depend on a women

And my old man taught my sisters to make their own money (accountant and nurse) and never rely on a man or anyone

Wrong on that point but answer the question you keep dodging? Or are you avoiding it because you already know where it's going?

Just be straight up, don't lie or bullshyt to prove a point
a man paying for a womans dinner doesnt mean that she isnt independent. Are you serious right now? We just talking about dates not monthly bills:mjlol:
 

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a man paying for a womans dinner doesnt mean that she isnt independent. Are you serious right now? We just talking about dates not monthly bills:mjlol:

How do you feel about women always paying???

I don't now how to rephrase that any clearer
 

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your response makes no sense

Yes it does. I'll break it into baby pieces for you:

You agreed that a man should pay for dates because that's what females' parents expect. Fine.

I then asked, and you admitted that, your parents told you to submit to men and not to sleep with multiple men. Fine.

But then you said that you don't submit to men that aren't your husband. You also refused to answer whether you've slept with multiple men.

So if a man refuses to pay for dates with a woman unless she's his wife (similar to how you will not submit to a man unless he's your husband), you have no cause for complaint.
 
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How do you feel about women always paying???

I don't now how to rephrase that any clearer
overall i dont care what another woman does but most women want their man to treat them out. U guys acting like this is a new concept.
 

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Yes it does. I'll break it into baby pieces for you:

You agreed that a man should pay for dates because that's what females' parents expect. Fine.

I then asked, and you admitted that, your parents told you to submit to men and not to sleep with multiple men. Fine.

But then you said that you don't submit to men that aren't your husband. You also refused to answer whether you've slept with multiple men.

So if refuses to pay for dates for women unless they're his wife (similar to how you will not submit to a man unless he's your husband), you have no cause for complaint.
what man is getting married that doesnt do for his woman? My sex life is none of your business and has nothing to do with the conversation. Who the fukk are u to ask that and then question it when i dont answer you? A woman doesnt need to submit to a man if its not her husband. She can if she likes. There's nothing wrong in submitting to a good man.either way this doesnt have anything to do with paying for a date. If u and your lady go dutch cool. I dont care.
 

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overall i dont care what another woman does but most women want their man to treat them out. U guys acting like this is a new concept.

The problem is women only want traditional roles and progressive gender roles when it's convenient for them. They basically want the best of both worlds without having to deal with the worst of either.

If you want men to take you out/pay for dates, fine. On the same token, you shouldn't be sleeping with multiple men and you should be ready to submit to that man.

If you want to have gender equality and be treated like men by society, fine. On the same token, you shouldn't expect men to pay for dates if/when you go out on dates.

Make up your mind, ladies.

Is it oochie-wally :hula: or black girl lost?
 

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what man is getting married that doesnt do for his woman? My sex life is none of your business and has nothing to do with the conversation. Who the fukk are u to ask that and then question it when i dont answer you? A woman doesnt need to submit to a man if its not her husband. She can if she likes. There's nothing wrong in submitting to a good man.either way this doesnt have anything to do with paying for a date. If u and your lady go dutch cool. I dont care.

Another estrogen-driven fit of fury...:mjlol:


A man doesn't have to pay for dates if the woman isn't his wife. You arguing otherwise will end up with you exposing yourself as a hypocrite.
 
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