Since gender roles are reserving anyway. Wouldn't it make sense for women to approach men?

[AquaCityBoy]

. Approach women, brehs.

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

True, but at least brehs would know for 100% sure that women didn't want them, instead of all the "rah rah any dude can get dimes" speak that's going on.

You would know where you stood, and that would be that. Right now dudes are lost in the wilderness, because the attractive women of the world are telling them aren't desirable, but the rest of society is saying that they can get these women and it's based on confidence and/or effort.

But yeah, it wouldn't change the opportunities, in fact it would probably diminish them. But it would give dudes closure.

Not really. Women don't work like men. I usually don't feel sexual attraction until I get to talk to someone. I only see maybe a handful of dudes a year that catch my eye just off of looks.

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

How so? If women are getting rejected and putting in the work as much as men, that doesnt make you slut or whore, therefore that double standard of women having a lot of sex partners is bad would be invalid. You are the catered to gender when it comes dating. Thats why it looks bad when yall have a lot of sex partners. It's not hard for you to go out and lose your virginity, it is for men though which is why they are congratulated for it.

Men aren't catered to when it comes to dating, if men don't sell themselves, they get nothing.

But it would still be easy b/c men are pretty easy. It wouldn't change a thing.

 

[shutterguy]

I agree it would be great if they did approach, but that is really gonna be a long shot because of that thick wall of rejection factor (heard about it from plenty of them). I have had a few cold approach, however most of the girlfriends I've had have done enough extra flirting for me to know whats up and take it from there.


Edit: I have heard from my brehs that have traveled overseas that many times women do approach, so maybe it is a thing in the states.

 

[Larry Lambo]

Not really. Women don't work like men. I usually don't feel sexual attraction until I get to talk to someone. I only see maybe a handful of dudes a year that catch my eye just off of looks.

Regardless of when you feel attraction to a man, he either has it or he doesn't. So the men don't have it would know they don't have it, instead of people trying to convince them that their game is wack, or they don't approach the right women, or they approach in the wrong venues, etc.

Women may take time to develop attraction, but there's nothing a man can really do to become more attractive to her. At least that what women say themselves. If I make a thread in the salon on how to convince a girl to like me, it would get laughed at.

 

[Neuromancer]

But it would still be easy b/c men are pretty easy. It wouldn't change a thing.

Are men naturally easy or is it the way our roles have played out? Testosterone aside we've been socialized to pedstalize women. Hence why you got dudes making money and working out just to get women. I think if the roles were even we might have different results. And I'm referring solely to cold approach.

 

[the cac mamba]

Chick is approaching me right now....she's married though

me too

her husband cheated on her though

 

[Shadow King]

Men. Men have told me this.

I wouldn't call a woman who approached me desperate but I'd think it was a prank

 

[Neuromancer]

. Approach women, brehs.

How do you meet women then? Even online you got to approach first.

 

[Neuromancer]

Regardless of when you feel attraction to a man, he either has it or he doesn't. So the men don't have it would know they don't have it, instead of people trying to convince them that their game is wack, or they don't approach the right women, or they approach in the wrong venues, etc.

Women may take time to develop attraction, but there's nothing a man can really do to become more attractive to her. At least that what women say themselves. If I make a thread in the salon on how to convince a girl to like me, it would get laughed at.

Nah you should do it anyway. Might surprise you.

 

[BrokePhiBroke]

He talking about how times changed from now versus how things were during our parents and grandparents era....where more women stayed at home, men had the top managerial jobs, women took care of the home....u know the traditional gender roles.

Nowadays women have rights and don't need a man to survive hence the "independent woman" mindset.

Is that a bad thing?

 

[BrokePhiBroke]

yup....if yall couldn't provide for yourselves that would force yall to submit to a man ....women have too much power

So basically because you don't have a woman to submit to you by default (helplessness) it's an issue?

 

[Neuromancer]

So basically because you don't have a woman to submit to you by default (helplessness) it's an issue?

If everything was equal between men and women. Would Op's question make more sense. And let's be hypocritical here. Say it was all down the middle?

 

[DrunkerThanAMotherfucker]

How do you meet women then? Even online you got to approach first.

Don't worry about meeting women. Don't get yourself worked up over finding a woman. Even if you are good around woman, don't stress out about it.

Continue to invest in yourself, get money, prioritize your own self-interests. And when I say invest in yourself, engage in some new meaningful hobbies that you genuinely enjoy. The chips will fall in place.

Some of the best things in life happen when we least expect them to.

 

[Neuromancer]

Don't worry about meeting women. Don't get yourself worked up over finding a woman. Even if you are good around woman, don't stress out about it.

Continue to invest in yourself, get money, prioritize your own self-interests. And when I say invest in yourself, engage in some new meaningful hobbies that you genuinely enjoy. The chips will fall in place.

Some of the best things in life happen when we least expect them to.

I have a girl, breh. I was asking him, how he does it.