Personally, I would not agree to an unbalanced situation nor would I marry anyone who doesn’t have any tangibles! That is non-negotiable at this point in my life.
I am down for splitting things 50/ 50 that is acquired within a marriage providing that the spouse is also contributing towards the wealth gain.
But, what has to be stated in any agreement I sign, is that my house is off limits! My pension is off limits! But, I would not marry someone who doesn’t also have a pension, so if that person hit up my pension, then I will hit hers up!
Now, I prefer to add in a mortality clause as well that both parties must honor..
Basically, honor the marriage vows and then should I pass away, then all assets and tangibles goes to the spouse! No problem.
No rewards for those who can’t honor marriage vows, on both ends!
So BPE, I may be one of those dudes who simply can’t get married. I have to get something out of it that benefits me, financially and emotionally.
Call it fear based and insecure. It’s all good! Never said I am perfect nor will I beat myself up to be someone who have to be perfect and flawless when everyone else have flaws and imperfections..
Btw, what sparked this thread was a conversation I had with a woman co-worker/union sister during lunch the other day..It was an interesting conversation..
Well a 50/50 split is standard and if you acquired the house before the marriage it wouldn't be on the table anyway.
Also from that scenario you just listed what exactly are you trying to gain?