Single people on the coli

[Liquid]

Yea, its ass. And tinders dime, in real life, can be a lemon. Bold in the profile, cold in person.

For instance, just speaking of me, im 5'7 184lbs. On a profile if i listed those stats, I'm fukking bushed. And i take, what i consider, awful photos. Like looking in the mirror, i have a slight idea what other people see, but pictures, angles emphasize my huge lips, nose, ears, whatever. A lady i might have came off quirky and cute in the grocery aisle will see a drow elf looking mothafukka on a dating app. I lose the advantage of witticism and charisma if i cant see them first. Same with women, posing and shyt, pretty face, next thing i know, in person she is 30+lbs heavier than i imagined, lacks fashion sense, and myspace angled the fukk outta her profile. I want what i saw in those pictures, a slimmer, confident, outgoing girl who "loves to laugh" but instead i get a slightly awkward chick who clearly used her best clothing for her profile pictures. Had i run into her during a college class or something, what i see would have been what i may have wanted, not the "best foot forward" approach she took which is the nature of dating apps and websites.

You are posting issues that will be incredibly difficult to tackle because it is an asynchronous way of communicating. You will always have the opportunity to put your best foot forward before the others can see you and talk to you. We are all on our phones, but it will be virtually impossible to have a complete network with 1:1 matchups in real-time with current tech...you are looking at the possibility of having millions of people connect with each other via video feed on a dating site. I can't see that working right now.

Plus the whole idea at that point will feel like one of those spots in where people meet up to chat with another (speed dating) and I don't think that will be an effective way to build a lasting relationship.

@houston911 please move this to TLR.

 

[Liquid]

I like to watch people, see how they act. A profile only does so much for me. Talking online only does so much, eventually I will need to be surrounded by your energy in person.


I would, but it would take time.

If you have put some thought into it, what would you like to see in an app?

 

[Spike Tarantino]

Sounds like a noise problem. How far is too far?

Do you even read messages from people who don't have a high match percentage?

Longer than 30 minutes out


I read and reply to every message I get. No exceptions.

 

[.༼-◕_◕-༽.]

If you are using dating apps/websites what are they? I've tested them all, but all feedback is welcomed.

Pros/Cons? I don't need personal information. I just want to know what you like or dislike about them.

Just go outside. Join a soccer team or tennis playing group. Use meetup. Go to Trader Joes or Whole Foods. I believe in meeting people while living your life.

 

[concise]

I actually look at the time that send me the message lmaooooo. After 10pm, auto delete.
I actually will go through them and respond if I see anything that catches my eye.

What if they have unusual work/sleep schedules? This is the definition of overthinking.

 

[Liquid]

Just go outside. Join a soccer team or tennis playing group. Use meetup. Go to Trader Joes or Whole Foods. I believe in meeting people while living your life.

Apps open up your options, why limit yourself if great tools are available?

 

[Liquid]

Longer than 30 minutes out


I read and reply to every message I get. No exceptions.

Do you get tired at times?

 

[Liquid]

What if they have unusual work/sleep schedules? This is the definition of overthinking.

Yeah, that's what I thought when I first read that.

 

[thirdeye]

What if they have unusual work/sleep schedules? This is the definition of overthinking.

Well, I guess I'll be able to tell then.
For example: a user named bigteddy messages you, with a barely filled out profile who says he's looking for friends at 2 am. This is what I'm talking about. I already know this guy ain't shyt.

 

[audemarzz]

I used them all at least once out of boredom and curiosity.

Depends on what's your endgame: sex or relationship.

Pof has some pretty cool people. Pretty chill.

Tinder I hear is good for hookups. Skout is probably better for that. However, guys have to watch out for trannies and prostitutes on these sites.

This nig told me to get skout didn't tell me how to operate or use it got weird old men hitting me up saying "hi"

Cinna

 

[Spike Tarantino]

Do you get tired at times?

Tired of being harassed when I decline people, yes. Tired of people out of my area messaging me, yes.

Otherwise the experience is nice, I enjoy a good convo

 

[concise]

I actually look at the time that send me the message lmaooooo. After 10pm, auto delete.
I actually will go through them and respond if I see anything that catches my eye.

Well, I guess I'll be able to tell then.
For example: a user named bigteddy messages you, with a barely filled out profile who says he's looking for friends at 2 am. This is what I'm talking about. I already know this guy ain't shyt.

So which one is it?

 

[thirdeye]

So which one is it?

Depends, are you bigteddy?

 

[DrX]

tinder is used mostly for sex, POF i would avoid and CL will get u str8 up robbed

 

[thirdeye]

hey what the hell? i thought this was in the salon....