Is that what I said?
...Or was it something that isn't that?
No.
There no kinda thing you can do at the outset to "protect your marriage", per se.
Sure there is. If dudes are such great catches with so much to lose a prenup should be no issue 
Because ultimately here protecting one's marriage really boils down to protecting one's assets.
A marriage can only be as good as the two people in it. So if one (or both) of those two
in it changes from being the "vetted" person they were at the beginning to the point they
don't wanna work with the other person in said marriage, that marriage will die.
...and even still, some people will stay in a dead marriage. But to count those as a
win for marriage because they aren't divorced is to not be honest about that union.
Speaking of things people didn't say... where did I say a dead miserable marriage was a win for marriage?
And yea, marrying someone comes with the risk that they might change for the worst. But that's unlikely. People don't really change, for better or worse. They generally keep going the same direction they were before marriage. If someone is a go-getter when they're single they will prob stay that when they're married. If someone is a cheater, or lazy, or bad with money or w/e when they're single.... they will prob stay that way with a ring
But a lot of people ignore the red flags because it's easier in the short term to marry the wrong person than to break things off, start over and tell all your friends and family you made a mistake. You act like there are never any marriages where everyone around is like "yea this is a trainwreck waiting to happen". What's different about those vs happy marriages that last? Luck?
