So if a female says she needs space that =

[Busted_Toes]

What the fukk is space? Writing poems and drinking hot coco? Any man that listen to that bullshyt is a sucka.

 

[MikelArteta]

And if they don't, that is 100% okay sir. It's a message board so I offered my perspective on why I took a break from someone. If you don't believe or like it, oh well.

Listen to advice from men who have never had a successful adult relationship. Listen to advice from men who don't know how to choose women. You see how that goes both ways?

Actually I have had successful relationships if you were trying to throw shots at me.

 

[MikelArteta]

The alternative.....

alternative is listen to men

When you ask a woman for advice, she doesn’t tell you what works in a world based on reality; instead, she tells you what would work in a perfect, harmonius world where attention is free and plentiful, where no one hurts each other and no one plays any games. She tells you what would work if no one got punished for expressing feelings and interest. She tells you advice that always seems to work in television and movies where the beta always gets the beautiful girl. (Not suprisingly, most mainstream movies are written by beta white guys.)

Want to talk to a girl? “Go tell her how beautiful she is. Her heart will melt.”

Girl not putting out in a timely manner? “Be patient and get to know her better. She will reward you with intense passion.”

Marriage getting a little loveless? “Send her on a week-long spa vacation. She will come back home ready to cook and clean with gusto once again.”

Girlfriend spending your money at expensive dinners? “Spoil her and treat her like the princess she is. The monetary investment will come back ten-fold with eternal love.”

In love with a girl who has a alpha-male jerk boyfriend? “Spend quality time with her and remind her how much better you will treat her. Eventually she will dump the alpha for you, an emotional sack of love who loves going down on women.”

Listening to advice from woman is like asking a car dealer what’s the best way to deal with other car dealers. They are not going to sell out their kind.

 

[SouthernBelle]

Why would you tell them you need space? Why not Be direct and communicate exactly how you feel. And what you're contemplating.

Just honesty

When I told them I needed space I DID tell him how I felt (also me needing space WAS how I felt at the time). I told him that I needed space to think about our relationship. I told him that we seemed to be on different pages. I also told him that it felt like we were both trying to mold each other into someone else to make it work and that maybe we should take time to figure out whether we wanted each other and NOT who we wanted the other person to be. IMO, it's best to evaluate those types of things BY YOURSELF so that you ultimate decision is NOT affected by what's going right at that very moment versus what's right in general.

Also, he was about to move to Chicago and I was going to potentially leave my job and go to graduate school in a different midwest city to be closer to him (we both lived in Atlanta). That is a big decision to make for someone that you aren't sure about in regard to marriage.

I wasn't deceptive. I WAS VERY upfront and open about what space me and I DIDN'T date anyone else.

I don't want to end up married to someone who is trying to mold me into someone else and the same with me to him. So I had to think about whether I wanted HIM for who he truly was and he definitely needed to think about whether he wanted ME for who I truly was. I'm not the type of person who is going to end up in a loveless/hopeless relationship/marriage just because I was too scared to seriously evaluate the relationship.

 

[Dwolf]

alternative is listen to men that don't do relationships or havent been in one.

Also you be talking to some dumb ass females

 

[Poh SIti Dawn]

you answered your own question homie....

Let her go...

If you want kids and she dont,then thats already a dealbreaker

Yeeeeeep

 

[Suge Knight]

This is some real shyt right here. Dont ever let yourself get caught up in female doublespeak. For all the hassle women give men about not communicating, it's usually them that beat around the bush and dont give it to us straight. "I need space" can mean a million things to her, but to you all it should mean is "I'm not committed to you at this time". Best thing you can do is let her go, dont initiate any contact and focus on making yourself better. If it's meant to be, she'll come back.

Exactly, its games they play. They want you to call and miss them, once you say "oh you need space" give back her shyt, delete that number and keep it moving. They pull this shyt soon as they start hanging out with their friends, you know the ones she "hates and dislikes" but talk once in awhile. Those single moms and ratchet ass chicks that are always quick to make those little comments to you and her.

You should always focus on yourself and goals, never let a female or anyone hold you back from any of your dreams.

 

[Seea]

Maybe. Or maybe she doesn't like you like that anymore.

 

[LebronsHairline]

Listening to advice from woman is like asking a car dealer what’s the best way to deal with other car dealers. They are not going to sell out their kind.

 

[flusterose]

Why would you tell them you need space? Why not Be direct and communicate exactly how you feel. And what you're contemplating.

Just honesty

because you need space....

 

[Uncle Kingpin]

because you need space....

You need to be direct and stop being vague. If you want to break up, say that. If you need a week to be to yourself, say that. "I need space" could mean we need a bigger house, or it could mean you need to go to the International Space Station.

 

[JackBrannigan]

Yeah, a large percentage of why women shouldn't say is it sounds very vague/fukking stupid. It's something you should only hear if you watch Dawson's Creek reruns for some shytty reason. So you can tell the person next to you "That's fukking stupid."

 

[SouthernBelle]

Actually I have had successful relationships if you were trying to throw shots at me.

 

[flusterose]

You need to be direct and stop being vague. If you want to break up, say that. If you need a week to be to yourself, say that. "I need space" could mean we need a bigger house, or it could mean you need to go to the International Space Station.

i need space = i need time alone how direct can that be?

 

[DreadHead P]

give her the space she askin for but take that same space for yourself as well, don't be sittin around on hold for this bytch to get fukked ova by whatever nikka she eyein and come crawlin back to you. Let her flap her wings, but let her know that you gone be living your life while she livin hers