I've had this "I need some space" thing happen to me. Oh, how I can still remember that fateful day.
Lying in bed together after after having sex. Mind you, I knew something was VERY wrong because this woman never gave any push back when it came to sex. But this day, she did. However, we still had sex. Then she started to cry. I asked her what's wrong because I could feel something had been amiss between us the last month or so.
Then she hit me with:
"Ya know, I love you and you make me happy. But, but....I'm just not in a good space right now. Sometimes, I feel like we need a break." As soft tears streamed down her cheeks like rain drops falling on outstretched tree leafs.
It felt like she had put on a steel boxing glove and hit me in the chest. I lay there in bed perplexed yet with steel resolve and pride. I fixed my eyes and retorted with:
"Well, if that's how you feel, then we're not taking a break. We are breaking up...we have to end this. I don't take breaks because there's no such thing."
I could see the wind knocked out of her sails...in the back of her mind, I'm sure she expected me to wilt and fold under pressure. She expected me to break down, beg her to stay and ask "why" continuously. But that didn't happen, even though I felt like my very soul was being walked on by football cleats.
After that day, I did not call, text or email. She did all the phoning and texting...I'm sure she couldn't help but wonder "why he didn't accept my BS" as she hoped/thought I would. But mama didn't raise no fool.
Oh, but behold the beauty of such perverse wisdom, because she never quite left the fold. Never got over that day and still calls regularly months later...even though she's with someone else. Constantly professing her love, disappointment in her choice and her desire for us to be together again. I shall continue to play along until I decide to pull a deathly trigger or maybe I'll just tell her to leave me alone...I haven't decided how much far I want to play this out yet.
As others have said, just do you and improve yourself, Urbanmiracle. Don't call, text or beg to work things out. Move on and become better each day. And soon and very soon, she'll notice that she is not on your radar, which will drive her intrigue through the roof.
Then the fun begins....if you so choose.
Peace