My pops going through the same shyt rn. At least he got to see a grandson
So my Pops doesn't want dialysis anymore and chose to die
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Isaiah Bradley
Banned
can't begin to imagine how you feel, but respect his decision and be thankful he communicated his plans so that precious time for closures/bonding/book keeping etc isn't wasted
Suleiman Bey
Banned
Went thru this before. Buddy didn't want it at all. Buddy said he lived a good life and what would be would be.
Damn, that sucks...sorry to hear about this shyt breh. Just go and spend time with your dad man.
One thing I really regret is when my paternal grandfather passed, I wasn't able to see him beforehand. I vowed not to let that happen again, and when my maternal grandfather had a stroke, I had just got back from a trip overseas and wasn't able to go see him, and ultimately he passed too...Really wished I could've had one last convo with both of those guys, as they were stand-up black men that were loved and respected in their families and communities. I really think being able to have those last conversations is extremely important, and while you may not like the decision, you both have the power to make the time spent great and fruitful. I urge you to sit down with him and have a conversation about his affairs and estate. Try to get it in legal writing. See if he has a life insurance policy, as the cost for a funeral can be quite expensive and that whole process can be very stressful, especially now with COVID deaths piling up. Parents passing can leave a lot on the childrens plate, and if you can get a head start on it in any way, man I urge you to do it. Ultimately tho, spend time doing his favorite things. If he's ready to go, send him out proper, and cherish the time you have left. Ask him about some of his favorite pieces of advice he'd want to pass on to grandkids, etc. and record the conversations with him. Watch his favorite shows and movies. If he's religious, read scripture and/or pray with him. Just anything man.
And just as importantly, stay healthy yourself man. Physically and mentally.
One thing I really regret is when my paternal grandfather passed, I wasn't able to see him beforehand. I vowed not to let that happen again, and when my maternal grandfather had a stroke, I had just got back from a trip overseas and wasn't able to go see him, and ultimately he passed too...Really wished I could've had one last convo with both of those guys, as they were stand-up black men that were loved and respected in their families and communities. I really think being able to have those last conversations is extremely important, and while you may not like the decision, you both have the power to make the time spent great and fruitful. I urge you to sit down with him and have a conversation about his affairs and estate. Try to get it in legal writing. See if he has a life insurance policy, as the cost for a funeral can be quite expensive and that whole process can be very stressful, especially now with COVID deaths piling up. Parents passing can leave a lot on the childrens plate, and if you can get a head start on it in any way, man I urge you to do it. Ultimately tho, spend time doing his favorite things. If he's ready to go, send him out proper, and cherish the time you have left. Ask him about some of his favorite pieces of advice he'd want to pass on to grandkids, etc. and record the conversations with him. Watch his favorite shows and movies. If he's religious, read scripture and/or pray with him. Just anything man.
And just as importantly, stay healthy yourself man. Physically and mentally.
gldnone913
Integrity and Consistency
Sankofa Alwayz
#FBADOS #B1 #D(M)V #KnowThyself #WaveGod
Sorry for your loss but try not to feel too bad about it. Trust me when I say he’s in a much better realm now compared to here. He’s an Ancestor now and will now reside within you. He’ll definitely be checking in on you at times and when he does, give him your time breh and communicate with him
Tbh they never truly die, they just ascend and wake up from their deep sleep
Always celebrate his birthday too, especially if it involves the food and drink that he liked during his time here. You’ll know he’s in the house when you feel his energy and spirit, particularly when something random about his life pops up. Their physical body is gone but trust me, they’re always around.
I’ve learned this years after both my Auntie and Grandma died a year apart from each other
Best regards and blessings Brotha
Tbh they never truly die, they just ascend and wake up from their deep sleep
Always celebrate his birthday too, especially if it involves the food and drink that he liked during his time here. You’ll know he’s in the house when you feel his energy and spirit, particularly when something random about his life pops up. Their physical body is gone but trust me, they’re always around.
I’ve learned this years after both my Auntie and Grandma died a year apart from each other
Best regards and blessings Brotha
I’m so sorry to hear this. It’s tough b/c when you love them you wanna take that journey with them but you can’t.
Provide him with every option possible. Try everything. But when it’s time, just be there for him. You are in my heart.
Provide him with every option possible. Try everything. But when it’s time, just be there for him. You are in my heart.
Art Barr
INVADING SOHH CHAMPION
things you can do without bothering anyone.
or sturring up emotions because of the brevity and urgency of the issue and questions behind that.
that can be taken out of context.
due to lack of inexperience, understanding, maturity, emotions,....
invest in certified nursing training.
to understand and be trained on acute care.
the class is anywhere from three to five to a larger number of weeks.
depending on the number of classes and duration.
you will have a short moment in the field from the class.
which will give you some idea.
of the types of facilities and the level/quality of care.
which will better help you gather up and formulate an idea/ideas..
on how to better take care of your family globally.
I cannot stress how much this helps and it helped me in such a magnitude.
I would like to tell everyone.
they need a coursework on care of the lowest wage/lowest grade job in medical.
yet the reality or brunt of the real reality would damage alot.
who have not stepped into.
or been thrust into the real reality.
of the end of the life cycle being a real possible thing in their reality daily.
alternatively, the experience.
if taken by someone of the maturation level.
preparing for the death of a loved one.
can have positive profound effects.
on learning to experience and work through.
the grieving process through sheer experience of experience of the end of the life cycle.
it will also give you experience.
to know of the mayhem in administration to social dysfunction.
that can and possibly may ensue.
so as to be prescient to the experience of death.
plus what avenues become unearthed in the possibility of death as well.
do this so you can become aware of any dangers.
in care from a facility.
to your own possible inexperienced based negligence.
which may not be purposeful.
plus become aware on the magnitude of what care is.
just from a general standpoint.
this will help you better to become prescient to the matter.
plus his to gather the verbiage and open the forums and dialogues.
that will be needed and will have to take place for the sheer magnitude of death becoming a matter.
that can undermine the sheer magnitude and grief of what death is to most innately and ferrally.
look into life insurance and understanding it from a small gateway.
these are things you can do without involving any other party.
without creating the forum or dialogue of the situation.
to parties who are not capable of having a dialogue about such a topic.
things you have to inquire about that will cause some form of emotion possibly.
opening up any forum dealing or discussing death.
some people may be morbid or whatever.
cynical, aloof etc.
so you will need to gather understanding.
to become prescient.
to numerous avenues in such a pressing time.
or how to deal with that and those personalities.
either internally.
or socially you will surely encounter.
You will need to create a forum with others.
whom are legally connected to the administrative care of your family.
to discuss, and most importantly listen.
to desperately gather some level of understanding.
without eschewing any feeling of desperation or panic.
while also inquiring about and creating numerous dialogues, discoveries and subforums about;
life insurance
health care
social security
well being
right to attorney
real estate
deed to a home
possessions
paper work and miscellaneous files
will
plus being prescient and malleable to the situation and experience.
learn to understand and create dialogues.
built on entirely on what the law deems.
while mentally preparing to execute the best logistical solution.
plus being malleable to the idea.
you could be blindsided from any situation during a moment of complete sheer grief.
to build preparation on how to be malleable and effective in that exact time.
to do the most logical and factual law abiding action.
regardless of emotional blowback, discomfort etc.
stay smooth.
be liquid.
art barr
or sturring up emotions because of the brevity and urgency of the issue and questions behind that.
that can be taken out of context.
due to lack of inexperience, understanding, maturity, emotions,....
invest in certified nursing training.
to understand and be trained on acute care.
the class is anywhere from three to five to a larger number of weeks.
depending on the number of classes and duration.
you will have a short moment in the field from the class.
which will give you some idea.
of the types of facilities and the level/quality of care.
which will better help you gather up and formulate an idea/ideas..
on how to better take care of your family globally.
I cannot stress how much this helps and it helped me in such a magnitude.
I would like to tell everyone.
they need a coursework on care of the lowest wage/lowest grade job in medical.
yet the reality or brunt of the real reality would damage alot.
who have not stepped into.
or been thrust into the real reality.
of the end of the life cycle being a real possible thing in their reality daily.
alternatively, the experience.
if taken by someone of the maturation level.
preparing for the death of a loved one.
can have positive profound effects.
on learning to experience and work through.
the grieving process through sheer experience of experience of the end of the life cycle.
it will also give you experience.
to know of the mayhem in administration to social dysfunction.
that can and possibly may ensue.
so as to be prescient to the experience of death.
plus what avenues become unearthed in the possibility of death as well.
do this so you can become aware of any dangers.
in care from a facility.
to your own possible inexperienced based negligence.
which may not be purposeful.
plus become aware on the magnitude of what care is.
just from a general standpoint.
this will help you better to become prescient to the matter.
plus his to gather the verbiage and open the forums and dialogues.
that will be needed and will have to take place for the sheer magnitude of death becoming a matter.
that can undermine the sheer magnitude and grief of what death is to most innately and ferrally.
look into life insurance and understanding it from a small gateway.
these are things you can do without involving any other party.
without creating the forum or dialogue of the situation.
to parties who are not capable of having a dialogue about such a topic.
things you have to inquire about that will cause some form of emotion possibly.
opening up any forum dealing or discussing death.
some people may be morbid or whatever.
cynical, aloof etc.
so you will need to gather understanding.
to become prescient.
to numerous avenues in such a pressing time.
or how to deal with that and those personalities.
either internally.
or socially you will surely encounter.
You will need to create a forum with others.
whom are legally connected to the administrative care of your family.
to discuss, and most importantly listen.
to desperately gather some level of understanding.
without eschewing any feeling of desperation or panic.
while also inquiring about and creating numerous dialogues, discoveries and subforums about;
life insurance
health care
social security
well being
right to attorney
real estate
deed to a home
possessions
paper work and miscellaneous files
will
plus being prescient and malleable to the situation and experience.
learn to understand and create dialogues.
built on entirely on what the law deems.
while mentally preparing to execute the best logistical solution.
plus being malleable to the idea.
you could be blindsided from any situation during a moment of complete sheer grief.
to build preparation on how to be malleable and effective in that exact time.
to do the most logical and factual law abiding action.
regardless of emotional blowback, discomfort etc.
stay smooth.
be liquid.
art barr
Formerly Black Trash
Philosopher, Connoisseur, Future Legend
I'd feel the same if I was him honestly
RIP to your father
RIP to your father
Blackrogue
Superstar
I was in boarding school and used to sneak out of school and come home every Sunday when my dad was sick. One particular Sunday we had a heart to heart. He told me how scared he was. How he had Dreams where he'd be alone in the house with all the lights on. How his clothes don't fit him anymore. It's the most open I've seen him. We hugged and I consoled him and told him everything would be better.
When I went to school it was the first time ever they had discovered I wasn't around. But it was a big school 270 acres. I lied and said I was somewhere else in the compound.. They tried to get me to confess I was out. Made up some Bs punishment cause they couldn't pin me down. The released me later to continue doing exams. An hour later my aunt comes to school. I'm like damn? Is it that serious? Why are they pulling me out of a test again?
Turns out my father had passed away that morning. When he woke he asked if I was around and he was told nah. I already headed to school. He said, Oh he didn't say goodbye?
I'm glad I had that moment where we had our heart to heart. OPS dad has probably thought about it long and hard and the best you can do is cherish these last few days on his terms. Make recordings. Messages he wants to leave directly to his grand kids. Things he wants to say. How his estate is. Who knows maybe in the middle of that he might get passion to continue living until everything is done and set.
When I went to school it was the first time ever they had discovered I wasn't around. But it was a big school 270 acres. I lied and said I was somewhere else in the compound.. They tried to get me to confess I was out. Made up some Bs punishment cause they couldn't pin me down. The released me later to continue doing exams. An hour later my aunt comes to school. I'm like damn? Is it that serious? Why are they pulling me out of a test again?
Turns out my father had passed away that morning. When he woke he asked if I was around and he was told nah. I already headed to school. He said, Oh he didn't say goodbye?
I'm glad I had that moment where we had our heart to heart. OPS dad has probably thought about it long and hard and the best you can do is cherish these last few days on his terms. Make recordings. Messages he wants to leave directly to his grand kids. Things he wants to say. How his estate is. Who knows maybe in the middle of that he might get passion to continue living until everything is done and set.
Big Boda
My Family Are Not Immigrants.
Personally I'd like to know more about your pops so that maybe I can take inspiration and lessons from his life. rest in peace to him.
Honor him by doing things that he would be proud of while you're here. My thoughts are with you and your family.
Honor him by doing things that he would be proud of while you're here. My thoughts are with you and your family.
Diondon
Thanks to the lawyers uh, I marbled the foyer
Dialysis is terrible. My best wishes for your Pops.
