social anxiety brehs..
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Music Fiend
Superstar
I've had terrible social anxiety my whole life. You gotta fight through it, not with it. Fighting with it is when you get nervous and start trying to take attention off yourself. I'm weird af bruh, and I've pulled some pretty bad chicks. Easiest way to pull on the first date, talk less. Escalate more.
Exactly why I try not to do dinners and movies on the first date. I take em to putt-putt, straight up. Guess what, you start touching em and pushing the envelope, the confidence will come when she responds willingly. After that it's a breeze.
You're too worried about presenting an image of someone people like. Keep the strong point in your actions not words. Have the balls to go for it pretty quick. Actions are going have u running in them sugarwalls before you know it bruh. Words gonna get you on speed dial for bored talk and free meals.
Exactly why I try not to do dinners and movies on the first date. I take em to putt-putt, straight up. Guess what, you start touching em and pushing the envelope, the confidence will come when she responds willingly. After that it's a breeze.
You're too worried about presenting an image of someone people like. Keep the strong point in your actions not words. Have the balls to go for it pretty quick. Actions are going have u running in them sugarwalls before you know it bruh. Words gonna get you on speed dial for bored talk and free meals.
the cac mamba
Veteran
im about to bite the bullet on this shyt
my friend has a scrip and hes gave me a couple, and i gotta say when i take em before work, im just a lot more relaxed
BrownSound
Pro
this. dont rely on xanax for everyday use tho or else youll get addicted like i was
but every now n then its the best feeling everrr
LexDiamonds
Superstar
What did you tell the Doc to get it prescribed though brehthis. dont rely on xanax for everyday use tho or else youll get addicted like i was
but every now n then its the best feeling everrr
BrownSound
Pro
i never had it prescribed i wish i did, i bought it off the streets, withdrawals were the worst feeling ever when i couldnt find any
BrownSound
Pro
double
LexDiamonds
Superstar
Yeah I heard about those withdrawals
Klyk21
Hate is Rising, Love is Dying....
Now ALL of your coworkers are gonna know how lame you are.
I had this my freshman year in HS when I moved to a new city.
My advice is to just tough it out. Eventually conversation will just come naturally to you after all the trial and error.
Im sure theres way better advice in here but thats how I got over it.
Joining the football team helped too
My advice is to just tough it out. Eventually conversation will just come naturally to you after all the trial and error.
Im sure theres way better advice in here but thats how I got over it.
Joining the football team helped too
Oroko Saki
The Shredder
I have terrible social anxiety and I had a date tonight...My voice was a little hoarse as it often is. I was stuttering a little and maybe making weird faces at times but I didnt really pay much attention to that stuff. I just did the best I could. As someone who hasnt dated much at all recently, I know ill get more comfortable but I gotta continue to push myself.
I think if anyone with anxiety stays in a very uncomfortable position long enough, they'll adapt to it. Im working on getting my certification as a personal trainer...I know it could be very difficult for me early on and part of me wants to give up, but I know if i stick with it and show a good chin to punches coming my way...ill eventually be able to slip those punches and fire back anytime i want with a jab, a hook, a uppercut. Confidence is somethin u get from repetition. I was a garbage basketball player compared to other kids when I was 10 but i practiced and practiced, when i was 17 i was takin more athletic and stronger kids to school.
So just do the best u can and dont give up, dont be hard on yourself etiher. Everybody makes mistakes, and u might have small social blunders. Girls have told me about guys that hardly say anything at all and have no personality. U can always try to do something dumb to make her laugh, and take the edge off a little. As far as knowing when the time is right for that first kiss, thats instinctive but when u do it dont question yourself at all. Do what us humans naturally do...same thing goes for when its time to pipe her. Its hard having the social anxiety and in my case a long layoff, but we both gotta be champs and battle through adversity
I think if anyone with anxiety stays in a very uncomfortable position long enough, they'll adapt to it. Im working on getting my certification as a personal trainer...I know it could be very difficult for me early on and part of me wants to give up, but I know if i stick with it and show a good chin to punches coming my way...ill eventually be able to slip those punches and fire back anytime i want with a jab, a hook, a uppercut. Confidence is somethin u get from repetition. I was a garbage basketball player compared to other kids when I was 10 but i practiced and practiced, when i was 17 i was takin more athletic and stronger kids to school.
So just do the best u can and dont give up, dont be hard on yourself etiher. Everybody makes mistakes, and u might have small social blunders. Girls have told me about guys that hardly say anything at all and have no personality. U can always try to do something dumb to make her laugh, and take the edge off a little. As far as knowing when the time is right for that first kiss, thats instinctive but when u do it dont question yourself at all. Do what us humans naturally do...same thing goes for when its time to pipe her. Its hard having the social anxiety and in my case a long layoff, but we both gotta be champs and battle through adversity
aXiom
Maximized Potential
y'all nikkas is fukking retarded I swearHow do you relax around women you find attractive and are trying to scoop?
Finally ask my co-worker out to a movie, it goes well in the beginning but afterwards in the bar i can't hide my awkwardness
feel dehydrated
rubbing my face persistently
unable to remember any interesting anecdotes
rambling on about tv shows she doesn't watch
afraid to stop talking so we're not sitting in silence
brehs, i had thein a thought bubble above my head the whole time
While youre maybe making a huge mistake of dating a co-worker. Clearly you didnt ask for our feed back about that so im gonna answer your question friend.
1. Bust a nut before you leave out; maybe some movie shyt but it works.
2. Multi focus task; use your environment to your advantage. Use anything to help make a conversation. Whatever is on television, the food, etc. This is good to kill them long silence moments.
3. Put ya phone away, keep up with eye contract and don't think about any small mistake you think youre making.
4. Learn when to call it quits. Don't stall and prolong something that clearly isnt working out. Especially if shes not longer interested.
relax breh. Its just date. focus and u will do fine
I even tried to steer the conversation towards music but then she draws a blank and couldn't tell me any music she likes
She was real guarded about it.. shyt was the damndest thing
I tell her i like hip hop, she's like "oh, i like Run DMC"
bytch, everyone likes Run DMC
this bytch said Run DMC????? is she like 40 years old?
Reverend Jesse Jackson
Somebody I Am
Get addicted to drugs to impress a girl brehs