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Social Anxiety/Phobia???
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This, writing and martial arts is helping me.
how old are you?
What did you do in therapy and what kind of medicine did they give you?
sertraline 50 mg and just helping me realize it was in my head
Check out Phenibut and L-Theanine brehs. Just be careful with Phenibut.
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I've always hated social gatherings. Large crowds and such were even worse. I would get nervous, my palms would get sweaty, my eyes would start shifting, I would have a sudden urge to go to the bathroom, and I couldn't wipe off this damn nervous smile.
I got a job where I had to communicate with hundreds of staff members (not my choice). That was my first job. The first few weeks were terrifying. I dreaded receiving any calls and I would rely on someone to come with me at all times. Even though most of the calls were easy (looking back now), I would trade with staff members for the more difficult internal tasks that didn't require any social interaction.
I would also try to hide in my little office at all times. When I couldn't hide any longer, I would be rehearsing entire conversations of what would go wrong when I met a person.
Eventually, I got over it. I identified why I was feeling this way:
I got over this by recognizing that:
- I was shy
- I was afraid of looking like an uncool, awkward dork
- I didn't want to fukk up and be judged for it
- I didn't want to be laughed at (childhood years)
- I sucked at small talk
- etc...
- I can't remain socially handicapped forever; I'm not going to eat financially if I go through life being shook at the hint of any social interaction
- Its not a good look
- I don't have to take myself so seriously all of the time; I learned to laugh at myself for the many mistakes that I made and will continue to make
- I'm not the only one. Social Anxiety Forum and Social Phobia Forums You may have seen some of these people at your school, places of worship, online, etc. The tech field is overcrowded with people like this. Walk into a computer science lab on campus and then compare it to a business/law/psychology lab. There is simply no comparison. I've befriended many this way. Chances are, they're dealing with what you deal with
- There are hundreds of thousands of people like you and I who were like this at some point and they've gotten over it. Why can't I?
- As long as I remained liked that,it was an open invitation for people to start fukkery
- More importantly, why did I care so much about what other people thought? Why was I so concerned with getting people to like me? (Its really not that serious) I should be more concerned with liking myself
That's all I got.
How old were you?
Im taking lexipro and abilify. I suffer from manic depression. In therapy we try to trace all of my issues back to a root. For me it was bring an outcast nearly everywhere I went.
Abilify scares me. Had a friend start taking it and passed away shortly after. She was bipolar and manic and I personally don't think it mixed well with her other meds.
It can be dangerous.
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This is a good thread 
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I took klonopin and xanax briefly, adderall too.
Klonopin is a lot like drinking imo, without the euphoria. For the most part while on it, I still had anxiety, but it was lessened to the degree that I could stop talking to myself in my head about things. Icould feel the anxiety and either shrug and not judge it or do what I was gonna do. But I used to drink within 24 hrs of it, and I'd blank out and wake up random places.
Xanax, was like a tired euphoria. Since it's short lasting, It would pump me up right before events or performances, but I wouldnt wanna do too much moving (used to rap on stage).
Adderall helped but I have no self-control so I was taking it just cuz, wouldn't eat sometimes, sometimes I'd go a couple days without sleeping, and then pass out for 24 hrs.
Never had therapy, but I still have the anxiety for the most part. I've just become much more confident in who I am. The best thing to do that helped me, was taking action. Anxiety can prevent you from ever living normal life. Especially if you were dealing with it through early life, your frame of reference is likely limited.
So when I did put myself out there, I was amazed at how much people were doing everyday.... things In my mind I made to be such huge deals, people participated in it in everyday life. Thats when I knew I couldn't avoid it.
Klonopin is a lot like drinking imo, without the euphoria. For the most part while on it, I still had anxiety, but it was lessened to the degree that I could stop talking to myself in my head about things. Icould feel the anxiety and either shrug and not judge it or do what I was gonna do. But I used to drink within 24 hrs of it, and I'd blank out and wake up random places.
Xanax, was like a tired euphoria. Since it's short lasting, It would pump me up right before events or performances, but I wouldnt wanna do too much moving (used to rap on stage).
Adderall helped but I have no self-control so I was taking it just cuz, wouldn't eat sometimes, sometimes I'd go a couple days without sleeping, and then pass out for 24 hrs.
Never had therapy, but I still have the anxiety for the most part. I've just become much more confident in who I am. The best thing to do that helped me, was taking action. Anxiety can prevent you from ever living normal life. Especially if you were dealing with it through early life, your frame of reference is likely limited.
So when I did put myself out there, I was amazed at how much people were doing everyday.... things In my mind I made to be such huge deals, people participated in it in everyday life. Thats when I knew I couldn't avoid it.
I can deal with anxiety. I hate how it fukks with my sleeping pattern, other than that idgaf 
I took klonopin for years. I thought it was helping by numbing the anxiety, but all it does is temporarily mask it, while digging the hole you're in deeper.
The biggest parts of getting over my anxiety have been
That's how I manage my social anxiety, and how I've made my life 100000x better. BTW having a close bond with your mother helps.
The biggest parts of getting over my anxiety have been
- Smart medication management. Use only what you need when you need it. Not a fan of SSRI's at all
- Exercising
- Places like SOHH/The Coli. No bullshyt, being on SOHH as a young man helped me change from introverted into more of a social outgoing guy. You feel comfortable, at home etc. etc. Coli keeps me going most days at work (
) - Strong relationship with family
- Talking about your problems
- Finding a job I'm comfortable in
That's how I manage my social anxiety, and how I've made my life 100000x better. BTW having a close bond with your mother helps.