Spending Thousands of Dollars on a Wedding Ring is Ridiculous!

[Remote]

Well think about it from a woman's point of view. How you gonna be married and have a weak wedding and a $1K ring? If a friend of mine got engaged had some weak ass, cheap ring and didn't even have a wedding ceremony I'd be looking at her man like . It reflects negatively on them and you as well.

It's like sending your kids out there in weak ass, rundown clothes and unkept hair. It's a negative reflection on you.

Not saying whether it's right or wrong but that's how things work. You have to pick and choose when you want to buck a trend or when it makes sense to just go with it.

statisically people who spend more on weddings divorce at a much higher rate. So reflection be damned, the more you spend the more likely you're going to get fukked.

But if you want to get on a social/psychological level....what does it say about society and human beings that you have to spend more or else it "looks bad" ??
That's basically saying that you're allowing public perception influence your most personal relationship and future. It's not only fukking stupid...it's sad.

Yeah I know..."but that's how it is"

But that's not how it has to be.

Everybody swears they're not a follower until their friends look at them funny.

 

[Remote]

blah blah blah. la dee dee dah.

Exactly

 

[Action Mike]

blah blah blah. la dee dee dah.

Then why do you want these things...yours reasons for the expense even if it kills dudes pocket...

 

[Aceofspades404]

Then why do you want these things...yours reasons for the expense even if it kills dudes pocket...

I don't plan on being with a guy where that is an issue

 

[Action Mike]

I don't plan on being with a guy where that is an issue

Who said you get to choose a man of means..what makes you desireable to a man of means..

 

[Aceofspades404]

Who said you get to choose a man of means..what makes you desireable to a man of means..

First of all, your assuming I want a rich man probably bc you assumed I wanted an expensive wedding when I never said any of that.

 

[Action Mike]

First of all, your assuming I want a rich man probably bc you assumed I wanted an expensive wedding when I never said any of that.

An easy assumption to make when your fighting for that corner though and claiming future husband wont sweat it...
....why would that breh choose you..

 

[Aceofspades404]

An easy assumption to make when your fighting for that corner though and claiming future husband wont sweat it...
....why would that breh choose you..

where did you see me fighting for that corner?

 

[JLova]

statisically people who spend more on weddings divorce at a much higher rate. So reflection be damned, the more you spend the more likely you're going to get fukked.

But if you want to get on a social/psychological level....what does it say about society and human beings that you have to spend more or else it "looks bad" ??
That's basically saying that you're allowing public perception influence your most personal relationship and future. It's not only fukking stupid...it's sad.

Yeah I know..."but that's how it is"

But that's not how it has to be.

Everybody swears they're not a follower until their friends look at them funny.

Alright then.... you be "different" when you want to be then. My issue with the pseudo-revolutionaires is they are not consistent. Spewing that leader/follower shyt but not sticking to it.

Statistically I should be a lot of things that I'm not, what's your point?

If you're not influenced by public perception you're a damn liar.

 

[Remote]

Alright then.... you be "different" when you want to be then. My issue with the e-revolutionaires is they are not consistent. Spewing that leader/follower shyt but not sticking to it.

Statistically I should be a lot of things that I'm not, what's your point?

If you're not influenced by public perception you're a damn liar.

Okay, but there are trends to follow and there are things to put your foot down on.

Spending 15k on an engagement ring and another 20k on a party (which is basically all a wedding is) just because of appearances to friends and family is just stupid. It just is.

It's this "happy wife/happy life" bullshyt that adds to the problem.

Overwhelmingly finances are the #1 cause of divorce in America. And what? Nobody thinks that going into a marriage with tens of thousands of dollars of debt from a wedding isn't part of that major strain and stress? On top of the thousands of dollars both people owe from student loans (most likely). On top of the financial stress that married couples take on with having children and buying a home?

This is systemic, breh.
All I'm saying is that maybe foregoing all that debt over a 1-day fairy tale is the smarter thing to do in the long run.

 

[JLova]

Okay, but there are trends to follow and there are things to put your foot down on.

Spending 15k on an engagement ring and another 20k on a party (which is basically all a wedding is) just because of appearances to friends and family is just stupid. It just is.

It's this "happy wife/happy life" bullshyt that adds to the problem.

Overwhelmingly finances are the #1 cause of divorce in America. And what? Nobody thinks that going into a marriage with tens of thousands of dollars of debt from a wedding isn't part of that major strain and stress? On top of the thousands of dollars both people owe from student loans (most likely). On top of the financial stress that married couples take on with having children and buying a home?

This is systemic, breh.
All I'm saying is that maybe foregoing all that debt over a 1-day fairy tale is the smarter thing to do in the long run.

If you can afford it then what is the problem? You are unable to think beyond your own personal beliefs. Not everyone is programmed the same way. The same people who would spend $15K on a ring would never buy a pair of shoes for $200. It's all about priorities and affordability.

If you're bad with money the cost of the wedding will not change anything. If the wedding was free, people with bad spending habits would still have bad spending habits.

 

[sayyestothis]

Why do we keep talking about people having weddings going into 20k debt???

If you and/or your spouse doesn't have money saved up you shouldn't be getting married anyway.

Don't rush into a life long commitment to soon.

Back in the day people didn't "charge" their weddings.

 

[Remote]

If you can afford it then what is the problem? You are unable to think beyond your own personal beliefs. Not everyone is programmed the same way. The same people who would spend $15K on a ring would never buy a pair of shoes for $200. It's all about priorities and affordability.

If you're bad with money the cost of the wedding will not change anything. If the wedding was free, people with bad spending habits would still have bad spending habits.

Most people can't afford it though.
79% of couples go over budget.

http://finance.yahoo.com/news/bride...-100500798.html;_ylt=A0LEV0uehb5T_TgALnBx.9w4

It's not simply something like "you have bad spending habits"
Weddings simply are not a good return on investment on literally any level.

 

[rapbeats]

I'm not hating on marriage but the idea of spending thousands on a ring is crazy. My boy spent 10K on a ring and it put him further in debt. He already has a car loan, student loans and now has to plan for a wedding and buying a house. Why should a man spend thousands on a ring when that money can be used towards a house, wedding or paying off other debt....

you answered your own question. paying ridiculous money for a ring is a corporate hoax. Ladies go for it because the ring is shiney. what they do not know is this tradition of buying ridiculous priced rings is not a regular person's tradition. it came from the people trying to sell you diamonds. meaning its a corporate made up gesture. so they have swindled all of us into believing we have to buy these giant rings or women think if they dont get a ring worth X amt it means their man doesnt love them or some nonsense like that. complete foolery.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Engagement_ring

20th century[edit]
In the United States, the popularity of diamond engagement rings declined after World War I, even more so after the onset of the Great Depression.[26]

In 1938, the diamond cartel De Beers began a marketing campaign that would have a major impact on engagement rings. During the Great Depression of the 1930s, the price of diamonds collapsed. At the same time, market research indicated that engagement rings were going out of style with the younger generation. While the first phase of the marketing campaign consisted of market research, the advertising phase began in 1939. One of the first elements of this campaign was to educate the public about the 4 Cs (cut, carats, color, and clarity). In 1947 the slogan "a diamond is forever" was introduced. Ultimately, the De Beers campaign sought to persuade the consumer that an engagement ring is indispensable, and that a diamond is the only acceptable stone for an engagement ring.

The idea that a man should spend a significant fraction of his annual income for an engagement ring originated de novo from De Beers marketing materials in the mid-20th century, in an effort to increase the sale of diamonds. In the 1930s, they suggested that a man should spend the equivalent of one month's income in the engagement ring; later they suggested that he should spend two months' income on it.[30] In 2012, the average cost of an engagement ring in USA as reported by the industry was US$4,000.[31]

Dont be fooled by a corporation trying to get your money.


I triple dare a coli lady respond to this post.

 

[PrnzHakeem]

I plan on having a very small wedding, If I decide to have one, so I expect my ring to be more expensive. Some of the money that he would've spent on the wedding shoud go towards my ring and the rest could go towards our honeymoon. He can keep what's left over, I guess, since it'll be our money after the wedding.

The bride's family is traditionally supposed to pay for the wedding. So why are you going to skimp on your financial contribution and expect your groom to be to go all out on his?