Blame comes in when things go wrong. Few poeple look at themselves. But when folks play a lesser role, they are even less likely to look at themselves.Where is blame in this? Thinking with the mind set of social constructs that's part of the life. Both people have an active role once contact is made. The issue is who approaches. Dudes say on here all the time, women get approached daily. If that's the case they are approached by duds or good ones nothing changes. If she approached dudes daily the same thing would happen. Your time can get wasted either way. The only difference is if you are talking about in a relationship.
You mentioned motive. Most dudes approach with the mind of sex. Most women are different. We have seen dudes on here say over and over how they would have sex with the ugliest woman and then throw her in the bushes after. I can imagine someone woman approaching men who would go along with something for the chance of easy ass when they wouldn't have bothered other wise. Not saying that will be all men but on here and real life men have tended to be more sex driven. Different motives and that is why they "hunt" so to speak. There are things women can do to actively seek companionship it doesn't men approaching men the street.
If a dud tries to holla, what do many women say to their friends? Ain't no men in here. Ugly dudes always tryin' to holla. The men in here are lame. Why don't men know how to approach women? Etc.
Turn that around. You holla at a dude or 2. Duds. Because you were more active, you now have to analyze yourself. What are you attracted to? Where are you when you meet all these duds? And so on. If you're on top of it and honest, you make changes.
And that's just the duds. What happens when you holla at what you perceive as a good dude and he doesn't bite? "Damn! He was smart, funny, etc. Why didn't he ask for my number?" Again, you have to analyze yourself. "Did he not think I was smart? Did he think I lacked a sense of humor?" We (men) do this all the time and make adjustments. Women don't, or only seem to do it regardin' their looks hopin' that will get more men to approach. And you're relyin' on a single trait to attract men.
I only mention motive to point out why we can get away with what we get away with. Gettin' laid is easy. Findin' a quality mate is more difficult, and the stakes are higher. With the assumption that women tend to look for more than just sex, the stakes are always higher for women. Why leave that up to the men that are willin' to approach? You wouldn't use that mindset in any other aspect of your life. For example, if you want a good job, you don't sit around hopin' & wishin'. You don't wait for "work from home" email blast. You put together the best resume you can and "approach" employers.
And again, don't forget the opportunity cost.
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But that was the reverse, she wasn't approaching dudes at all but my point still stands.
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