Spin: Are women more afraid of approaching than men are?

[At30wecashout]

The bolded is all you have to say


I just hate that when men feel the same way we're ridiculed and shamed by women who know damn well they are scared to approach as well.

Facts, and ain't no support system for being a spineless dude. You STARVE, and get made fun of.
Women may not necessarily get the best men coming to them (an issue fixed by talking to the ones they like, but whatever), but that soul-shattering ether as a dude
that everything you try hasn't worked...even when frumpy chicks give you the :justgodude:I ain't forget them days. I was never shy, but for the longest I was
convinced I couldn't get a girl under any circumstances.

 

[BezO]

Fear is part of it, but there's other issues, as well.

For the average woman, the "courting" process has, for the most part of several millennia, been a passive act. All a woman has to be is presentable (if that, considering some of the no-standard, thirsty ass nikkas out here), and chances are a guy will take a chance and strike up a convo.
So why would the average woman, who gets hit on maybe once or twice a day, even try to make the first move when she doesn't have to?

Also, women can't take rejection well. There's the guy who will lose his shyt if he gets shot down, but the everyday guy will be like "no problem, have a nice day." and move on; with various degrees of feeling on the inside.
Reject a woman that put herself out there, even politely, and more often than not, they hurl all kinds of insults and "faq this" "fukk you that."

And the last two points that can kinda tie in with the last one is that:
1) Making the first move puts the onus onto yourself, and
2) Women have absolutely no game.

Making the first move means if things don't go the way you want, it means that you weren't able to pique the dude's interest (if he is in a relationship, has no time to date, etc.; it doesn't apply here... Which can imply that you weren't good enough... Which means you have to change to become better.

And also, have you heard some of the lines women use to start a conversation?
Only one I've ever heard is "I know you from somewhere..."
And them same girls on dating apps with the "And DON'T message me with just 'Hi.' be more creative!" line...
What the first thing they say if they decide to leakage first?

I think it's a combination of fear & conditionin'. But, like anything else, fear is overcome by experience.

If a chick gettin' hit on twice a day finds a good man, cool. But the women who can't find a good man from those 2 hits a day needs to try somethin' else.

I think women take rejection just fine. They don't get every job they apply for. They don't make every team they try out for. And so on. Rejection from men is just another hurdle they have to oversome.

They can blame it on men all they want, but I can't imagine not gettin' approached doesn't sting just as bad. A chick puttin' on her sexiest outfit, gettin' dolled up & goin home havin' not been approached by anyone has to sting. But I doubt it stops them from tryin' the next time.

Do women need game? Do men even need game? General convo works just fine. Humor works. Interestin' stories work. Or are you callin' this game? I tend to think of game as minipulative.

Never understood what was wrong with "hi". But I've only heard it was a problem online. I've initiated almost every convo with a woman with some form of hello. It worked often. What else are folks openin' with? Lines?

 

[O.T.I.S.]

Lol but I'll do all that but if you are not getting the hints and don't ask me out or ask for a number, that's all I'm willing to do. I'm not about to be like AYO let me take you to the movies .

Damn y'all over complicate shyt

Just ask the kid if he's not busy someday if he would like to hang out and catch a movie

 

[AITheAnswerAI]

You see, women can talk all the feminist shyt they want to, but they still fall back into familiar gender roles when shyt gets real.

 

[QuavoFlow]

yea womens egos are worse than ours they fear rejection like the plague

every girl with the exception for the exception of a small number ive ever been with has told me they were waiting for me to make a move because they weren't sure how id respond to their advances

or maybe thats just because its hard for women to figure me out

 

[Street Knowledge]

There's literally hundreds of documented cases of men killing women who turn them down.

At saying women take rejection worse or equal to men

 

[Caca-faat]

I have approached guys before I'm not sure the guy knew what was going on and his response to what I said completely turned me off. Another guy I approached I went on a date with. At the end of the date he told me he was married.

 

[Neuromancer]

I have approached guys before I'm not sure the guy knew what was going on and his response to what I said completely turned me off. Another guy I approached I went on a date with. At the end of the date he told me he was married.

Did you make your intentions clear?

 

[Chelsea Bridge]

I've never asked a guy out but I've went out of my way to flirt with a few when I wanted to show my interest. I'm not sure how I would act if I got rejected but I'm quite sure it wouldn't affect me all that much or for very long.

I've been rejected in other areas of life before so a romantic rejection probably won't phase me nearly as much as those did.

 

[Formerly Black Trash]

Women are more picky than men, they usually have a specific type.

nikkas like various parts of the rainbow

 

[InDePickWest]

@awkwardblackgirl said it best.

I can count how many dudes I approached on one hand and each time they thought I was in need of quick dikk. No thanks. And I wasnt even thirsty, just made it apparent I was interested.

 

[Neuromancer]

@awkwardblackgirl said it best.

I can count how many dudes I approached on one hand and each time they thought I was in need of quick dikk. No thanks. And I wasnt even thirsty, just made it apparent I was interested.

Not the question.

 

[Youseenmywork]

I don't. I don't want to be rejected, men are used to it lol.

...and this why men are better. We develop a lot of communication skills women don't have cause you don't have to. MEN have to know about women ...women really don't make too much of an effort to get to know how to keep us.

 

[Incogno]

hilarious...

men,most of the time, are the ones who worship women for their physical attributes....worship women for their beauty..worship women for being in shape....worship women for having an attractive voice...and so on and so on....

but then want to turn around and ask "why are women accustomed to men approaching...why not the other way around"

i mean...what in the world..................... lol

why do a lot of men act delusional to stuff like this?....

is it an ego thing?...

 

[Biscayne]

BREH, its story time!


No


I was at a Caribbean/Naija dance club for my girl's bday (Cloud 9 for you Dallas brehs).

I'm clearly with my girl the entire night, but she and her friends go to order some hookah

So 'm chillin by the DJ, we go to the same church

This thick chick comes up and starts dancing on me but i'm like , "i got a girl".

I didn't say anything mean, was as polite as possible.

She says turns around and says "What? Fukk you doing at a club if you got a girl my nikka?" (Girls that say "my nikka" are always loud af)

And cuz i'm by the DJ, she had to yell it so I could hear it. But cuz i'm by the DJ, i'm standing REAL close to the club promoter.

No bullshyt, I think the club promoter's mic must have picked up what she said cuz ppl started looking at us all over the club.

I just said, "sorry , i got a girl"

Her face...
She made no attempt to play it off or be cool. She makes a b line to the restroom, probably ran a 4.2 40




I felt bad even though I knew I did nothing wrong


All she had to do was be like "oh ok" and walk on. I mean damn... got me feeling bad for no reason

Daaaamn.

That's sad. Societal norms put that pressure on them not to approach, so they haven't developed that Steve Urkle thick-skin...