Thought it would be fun to look at some of yall posts and highlight some of the things I've struggled with, or been accused of, since I'm jumping back into dating soon. All the women here, I'm interested in feedback, even if I didn't quote you!
Just to highlight these, and maybe get some feedback in return:
•I've gotten sent long messages, and in many cases they tend to stay from the topic at hand, like bringing up old non related shyt. If a woman does that, why do I need to respond to it?
•the immature thing I think is subjective. It's really only been my kids mom who has called me immature, and only on occasions where its convenient for her argument. She called me mature in better times and no other woman I ever dated called me immature, so can you explain what constitutes immaturity for you?
•gotten accused of being cheap, gotta admit I haven't found that perfect balance on when to spend and when not to. Earlier in my life I was used for my money, but also earlier in my life I didn't have long monogamous relationships, so more or less I was used to not having to share my money with anybody else. So I'm close to the best with my money and trust surrounding decisions I make with my money...
I've grown to see instances this negatively impacted committed relationships. But what could the woman do to help ease a brother who explains the history behind what you see as cheap? I explained I needed help on unburdening this and opening up in this arena once, and pretty much was just labeled as a selfish dirtbag who didn't care to step outside of my comfort zone to make my woman happy. If that's the response, how the fukk can you expect me to learn how to "not" be cheap?
•only my kids mom has ever said I had bad taste, I think this is subjective too, only when it was convenient for her, because in better times she often complimented how I had my own style. I do like hoodies though lol, I have several...
1. Only use "bytch" very rarely, certainly not more than women i dated used it, but did come up as a problem once or twice. If you know I don't use it in my general speech, but maybe use it for comedic effect or when I'm explaining exasperation over a situation to you that I don't share with anyone else, why would you have an issue with it? This is a problem I ran into the handful of times I got checked for saying bytch, but it isn't something I use in general when talking about women...
3. Explain what you mean by smart mouth...
4. I haven't actually gotten called sensitive, but I think I'm sensitive lol. I think that's more a product of the journey of the last relationship though...
5-6. I've gotten called a hypocrite and a liar when I've withheld information. I have told some pretty bad lies and would admit that's been one of my largest weaknesses, mostly because I was noncommittal and had a lustful, cheating spirit, and 2asnt forthcoming with that. But I also didn't know myself and wasn't honest with myself, either...
The hypocrite shyt was mostly blowback from calling you out on shyt that otherwise wouldn't affect me, but you tell me you're not a certain way. When truth is revealed, I'm a hypocrite because I've lied to you, that's the bringing up unrelated shyt again....
7. Guilty of doing this before...
I've definitely gotten in trouble for doing this before. But your man should know what you mean, so if he doesn't, doesn't that also mean you share some culpability? I shouldn't have to guess what you mean about shyt, and you shouldn't give me these generic ass statements that I have to decode, right?
Come on ladies don’t be shy now
