SPIN: If you're NOT prepared to DISCIPLINE your children with THIS ITEM should you even be having kids at all?

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Hitting your kids isn’t a requirement for them to behave themselves (I never got hit and I was well behaved).

No offense to anyone but I’ve always looked at corporal punishment as a lazy (and borderline abusive) way of disciplining children because the only thing you’re teaching them is that violence is a consequence of not acting right.

Then parents wonder why their kids have a temper and are always quick to swing on kids that piss them off at school

How do you know that getting whoppings correlates to kids with anger issues and fighting? Is there any data on this?

 

[Vandelay]

When and if I have kids, I hope to be able to discipline how I see fit, but I don't ever see a situation where I'll need more than an open hand. And that definitely won't be a first or second option.

I got beat as a kid; really didn't have an impact other than I thought that was a first option when someone wronged me as a child was to hit them.

 

[EA]

How do you know that getting whoppings correlates to kids with anger issues and fighting? Is there any data on this?

https://www.apa.org/pi/prevent-violence/resources/violent-behavior

Also anecdotally, my girl is a teacher and is studying to be a child psychologist and she says the most disruptive kids in her school are the ones with parents that either hit them or expose them to violence (domestic abuse, etc) in the house.

 

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Parents' Use of Physical Punishment Increases Violent Behavior Among Youth

Also anecdotally, my girl is a teacher and is studying to be a child psychologist and she says the most disruptive kids in her school are the ones with parents that either hit them or expose them to violence (domestic abuse, etc) in the house.

That study is based on perception. They are essentially asking kids what would they do. Idc about What Ifs. Where is the real tangible data?

The reason why that is so difficult to do is because there is so much that goes into how a child is raised and their outcomes. There are too many variables. Also the psychological makeup of each child matters. It's the same reason why siblings raised in the same household, disciplined the same exact way, can go onto two completely different paths in their life.

 

[TripleAgent]

A lot of y'all have trash communication skills. Add this with a natural arrogance parents develop where they can never be wrong about anything and you have a recipe for awful relationships that last a lifetime

There has to be a balance. Some kids need that ass beat once in a while though.

 

[O.Red]

Surprised we made it 6 pages before the inevitable "Only black people do it" narrative came up.



This Black Twitter talk is getting annoying. Most new age young blacks don't have trauma, a lot of us unfortunately are just soft.

I didn't say "only" black people anything. Every race has similar specific issues with their parents. I'm speaking on the black ones because of the premise of the thread

Reducing all of this to "young black folks just soft" is just lazy, and either way that blame would fall on the parents as well so what's your point?

Why a problem with that and not the flawed initial premise of "You just gotta whoop these kids asses"?

 

[Dafunkdoc_Unlimited]

You have a LOT more options to discipline children now.

Use them.

If you can't outsmart a child you shouldn't have children.​

 

[EA]

That study is based on perception. They are essentially asking kids what would they do. Idc about What Ifs. Where is the real tangible data?

The reason why that is so difficult to do is because there is so much that goes into how a child is raised and their outcomes. There are too many variables. Also the psychological makeup of each child matters. It's the same reason why siblings raised in the same household, disciplined the same exact way, can go onto two completely different paths in their life.

It’s been studied extensively by several outlets (including governments) for years and they all come to similar conclusions.

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3447048/

https://www.child-encyclopedia.com/social-violence/according-experts/corporal-punishment

And whilst I agree that every child is different, there are some general behaviors that can be associated to how children are raised. There’s a reason why militaries enforce a specific type of discipline with soldiers because they need those soldiers to be able to; a) follow orders and b) tap into certain aggressive behaviors when required.

It’s not to say that being beaten as a child automatically means you’re going to be prone to violence but your attitude towards discipline and conflict resolution is likely to not be as holistic as it could be.

 

[Fresh]

nah, every black kid getting beat real bad isn't the case with all Black parents

if you wanna really hurt your kids for misbehaving take away the phone, tablet, computer or whatever, don't let them play ANY video games and keep them from going out and playing after school.

Kids these days would look at that as the end of the world

 

[Wildin]

I’m talking bout prison, man

and I'm talking about the state pipeline to the privately own prisons which make like 75 billion a year.

 

[Marc Spector]

every street nikka, dusty and dysfunctional person I know and am related to got plenty of beatings growing up.

The issue of unruly children is rarely due to a lack of punishments. kids become unruly due to a lack of direction, a lack of management/structure around them, and lack of problem-solving skills.

 

[Gritsngravy]

I’m surprised yall against whooping kids

 

[DPresidential]

Hitting your kids isn’t a requirement for them to behave themselves (I never got hit and I was well behaved).

No offense to anyone but I’ve always looked at corporal punishment as a lazy (and borderline abusive) way of disciplining children because the only thing you’re teaching them is that violence is a consequence of not acting right.

Then parents wonder why their kids have a temper and are always quick to swing on kids that piss them off at school

Facts.

The same parents and children tend to be the ones that believe in:

• Why momma? `Because I said so! "
• Why should I follow this God?" Because if you're bad, you'll burn in hell"

If you raise intelligent kids, you can teach them to have a moral compass is just a fulfilling behavior, instead of "be good, or face punishment"

 

[Germms]

nikkas are so happy to have a one sided fight with a child and call it “good discipline”.

Spanking, hitting, patting, whatever you wanna call the shyt DOES NOTHING and has been proven time and time again. If you lack the discipline yourself to sit there and console your child then maybe you shouldn’t have kids. I.e. a lot of you.

 

[Admiral Kali]

Not gonna beat my kid with a belt but I’ll give a spanking if he acts up. Used to get my ass beat with belts as a kid and that did nothing. One time I got put on punishment for a month and that got me right

What kinda punishment