Disclaimer:This is my first thread and I had hoped it would've been about something else, as this is rather low in the priority list. I joined the Coli because I thought (still think) that it was a black male dominated space and hopefully also a barometer for how black men felt about a number of issues. Perhaps, we'll get to address some of those issues at some point and not just irrelevant fukkery. In the meantime PaPa Absalom here is going to try and direct some of you lost chirren towards the light. I'll start with this oh so nasty a word that you sissified... sorry... naive brehs feel such an aberration for and contextualize it for you - explain why and what for it exists.
The practice of bedwenching is not a crime, it's not even morally reprehensible. Bedwenches have freewill and may do whatever they want with their vaginas. It's a personal choice and one that does not directly hurt you or myself. In this aspect they are blameless. However, this is not to say that this practice should be tolerated, much less celebrated. We do not live in a fairy tale egalitarian world, never have, never will. In the real world, either you subdue Nature or it conquers you; you either dominate or are dominated. Men are in perpetual competition for everything: power, living space (land), resources, mates. And it is a merciless, bloody, and lethal competition. This did not changed the moment the United Nations wrote their silly Declaration of Human Rights. We should not aim for peaceful coexistence with those who are ill to us, a threat to us, and impose restrictions on our quality of live; we should strive for dominance as all men do. The term bedwench is needed. It is one of a vast number of related terms, here's a few examples: coalburner, mudshark, night-rider (all white), petrolera (mexican), yellow cab (japanese/asian), sarong party girl (malaysian) et cetera. They are all derogatory names given by men to describe women who engage in relationships with groups of men outside their own. If you notice, a substantial amount of these is given to women who engage in relations with black males as this is especially base and offensive to their own men.
Men have so much invested in their own women (emotionally and in providing for them) that it is unacceptable for them that said women engage, in significant numbers, in relations with other men, especially if the interaction between the two male groups is hostile. The main role of the bedwench label is not necessarily to shame women, it is instead to warn other black men; it says avoid if possible, she is tainted, do not under any circumstances wife or bestow your resources on her, she is good for no more than a fukk/smut session. It's not about being insecure (the more alpha the men, the more unwilling they are to put up with this behaviour) or hating and disrespecting women; it's about self preservation and having standards.
It's especially needed for black men because unfortunately black men simp at higher rates than the average man (I don't have data on this, it's just based on observation/opinion). Things that other groups of men don't tolerate from their own women, black men put up with. The reason for this is simple: black men do not have the upperhand in this relationship (and the qeenz know it), so they cannot make demands; everything that is needed and dear to black women is provided by other groups of men, at least in the West - black women are not dependent on black men to the extent that other women are dependent on their own, if at all.
I'll give you an example:
2:15 to 2:50
This dude (the boyfriend) is apparently a professional baseball player, he's a successful dude, part of an elite group. Listen to what she says to his face; if you don't behave negro I'll replace you with Brett. Can you imagine women from other groups saying this so casually to their own men? Can you imagine any other group of men putting up with this? just grin and dismiss it? Especially since the Bretts she used to date were most likely not on his level?
Even if you set your natural instinct aside, bedwenches should be avoided because many of them exhibit contempt for black men, blackness, and other detrimental barriers to productive relationships.
Edit: there is no need to talk further about this topic and I'll try not to myself. It's just a honest perspective for the sake of any brehs that may fell conflicted about the term.
Smiling in your face while they plottin instead. Of course she'll just come back like she was "trolling", as is the common excuse.
These dudes are so full of shyt it's hilarious.
expecting you to jumpdown 
