Because feminist framing rules academia, politics, and media; and for all feminist lip service around the patriarchy harming men/women's role in enforcing it as well, it isn't something that manifests in dialogue.
Men get knocked over the head with a bat that says bootstraps.
I got this reply the other day, on another site around that accountability conversation.
This is the logic we're dealing.
"Black women are not the ones recruiting your black boys into the streets and into gangs. Black women are not the pioneers of gangster wrap glorifying killing black men and boys, and making fast money in the streets. Black women aren’t over represented in the prison system, and they aren’t the ones whose college enrollment numbers keep declining. Black men don’t get to be absent from the home and then complain about how the children are turning out. Black girls and boys are growing up in the same environments, but black girls are doing better on most metrics. At what point do black men start taking accountability for their own actions?"